One of the most common questions I get from my readers is if I ever cheat with younger men. Those of you who have read my other work, know that I have a strong preference for older men, for all the reasons I've mentioned there. To be honest, I don't really see too many younger men during my escapades, and I don't seek them out ever. However, I have encountered a few younger men over the years, always unplanned, and always underwhelming, but since the interest is so high, I thought I would take the time to describe one of those encounters.
Another frequent question I receive is, "what causes me to give in and accept a man's advances?" How does an interested man take me from flirting, to behind closed doors? I've mentioned often that cheating means different things to different people at different times. I'm really no exception. Something as innocent as a stern look, the perfect turn of phrase, or a touch that completes a circuit can draw me out from the casual to the intimate. Other times its completely situational, which is a polite way of saying, I'm just feeling really horny. It could be the weather, it could be some sort of anxiousness, it could be the intoxication of a situation, it could be regular intoxication, it could be nothing in particular. Horniness isn't always a decision, and because of that, most of the time I don't give it too much control.
This is one of the times I gave it control.
I remember reading a quote somewhere from some Italian renaissance thinker, something to the effect of: "the purpose of all travel is sex." Which, while I understand conceptually, it never made perfect sense to me. I've traveled a lot, and I enjoy travel, but the majority of the time I manage to complete the travel without any sex, or feeling obliged to have sex. Sometimes if I'm lucky, my husband brings me along on his work trips, but most of the time I'm traveling by myself. I'm not such a wanderer that I travel just for the sake of it. I'm often visiting an old friend, doing some sort of specialty shopping, or attending to some family obligation.
The destination for this occasion was Germany, more specifically Frankfurt. The occasion was a visiting a friend, more specifically, supporting a friend during her father's recent passing. Erica's father had met a German woman after divorcing Erica's mother, and chose to live in Germany with that woman. He was never close during Erica's upbringing, and I remember only seeing him once in the small town we were from. Like many military dads, Erica's father endeavored to be a better grandfather once he retired, but fell ill before he was able to make a real effort at it. He'd spent the last few years languishing in and out of German hospitals, before the family received the long expected, but still unhappy call.
Funerals are not fun occasions, but I felt very strongly that I needed to support Erica. She is a good friend, and she was there for me when my grandfather passed just a year before. I otherwise had no reason to go to Germany at all, which was what I was thinking as I packed the night before flying out.
I met Erica at the hotel, which was stony, and had a sort of insecure grandiosity to it, like it couldn't decide if it wanted to be classical or stylish. She opened her arms, like one does for a child who just got hurt, and gave me a hug as I ascended the stairs with my bags. Her expression was that mixture of shapeless sadness that comes with an expected loss, the joy of seeing an old friend, and the awkwardness of having those feelings blending so obviously in public in a strange place. Her eyes were reddened and puffy, doubtlessly from evenings spent in confused sadness and staggered sobbing. I held her tightly and long in my arms, trying to show her how much I was there for her.
A pair of heels came tapping down the stairs towards us, and a blonde woman in mourning dress reached out her hand towards me:
"Let me get your bag please dear," she said in a German accent, her face also red with recent tears, but nothing so much as Erica's.
The blonde woman waived over a bell boy, who surprisingly enough, actually looked German. A tall, skinny blonde man in his early 20s arrived, wearing all black, poorly fitting clothes that I could tell was a uniform. He gestured as if to ask if he could take my bags for me. I agreed, and my bags were whisked away while I helped Erica and the blonde woman, who turned out to be her stepmother, up the stairs into the hotel.
The days that followed involved the usual and sad work of funerals. I stood as quietly and supportively as I could in my black dresses and pearls. Seeing Erica handle the burial of her estranged father served as a sort of memento mori for me, and it wasn't long before I began to wonder if living life was, as they say, "vanitas vanitatum omnia vanitas." After the reception, I let the family be with each other, and retreated to the hotel.
On my way to the elevator, I saw that the hotel bar was busy that evening, filled with laughter and golden light. Life was still going on, and people were still living it. I wanted to be one of those people, so I decided to slip on something more lively and join them.
Upstairs in my room I rummaged through my suitcase for something more fun to wear. I wasn't expecting anything other than attending this funeral, but I usually keep a little outfit around just in case. I found a black cocktail dress, cap shoulders, mini length, with a v-neck that ended right above my belly button. I found some black thong panties, and some more casual heels. I swapped my pearls for gold, put my hair up in a bun to show off my neckline, and put just the tiniest amount of mascara in my eyelashes before inspecting myself in the mirror.
I couldn't say how many times I had gone through this ritual: dressing up and then scrutinizing my body to make sure I'm sending the signals I want to send. At 34, I was still as exacting of my looks as I had been at 22. Forgiving myself for being short at 5'2" I was happy with my curving hips, flat tummy, and perky yoga-sculpted ass, but it was really my round 34DD titties that were making the outfit on this particular evening. One could forgive a man for not noticing my blue eyes or light brunette hair, when my breasts were straining against the thin black fabric of my cocktail dress, threatening to leap out of the v-neck. Being such a deep v-neck of course, I could not wear a bra for fear of looking awkward, but I understood that this dress was meant for less busty women than I. My nipples were already poking through the fabric, and I knew that I would need to be careful not to oversell the look. With this in mind, I grabbed a clutch and headed downstairs.
When you are as tiny and as busty as I am its easy to make friends, but also easy to get into trouble. This evening I was hoping to get a little life energy, but I didn't imagine any trouble would come of it, despite how sexy I was looking. My confidence was high, and my need to see something happy going on even higher.
I walked into the room, and sat on one of the gold accented barstools, a chair away from a group of men in business casual attire. The loudest of the group looked over his shoulder once he realized his companions were no longer meeting his gaze. He gave me a quick once over with his steely German eyes, and resumed his talking, trying not to stare, but couldn't hide a smile as he turned back around. He had a square jaw and graying hair on top of strong shoulders, so I didn't look away as quickly. There were various other groups around the bar, some middle aged women at a table, a pair of business men over by the window, a few solo travelers on their phones here and there. The bar had a sort of golden palate to it, with brass and copper highlighting the interior. The bartender made sure my old fashioned was garnished with a blood orange wedge, after making a show of letting me know they had them. I put my nose in the drink, and gave a glance over to the men next to me, catching their eyes again.
The energy in the room was high. Everyone was smiling and half shouting to people who were right next to them, even though the music was at a polite volume. Drinks were flowing freely, and it wasn't too long before the man who had his back turned to me was sitting next to me, beer sitting idle as he made his overtures. I laughed politely at the same battery of jokes that I'd heard variations of at every hotel bar I'd ever sat in. I averted my eyes when he put his wedding ring in his pocket. I let his hand linger on my thigh when he leaned in to whisper something that didn't need to be whispered into my ear. I gave this man as much room to charm me as I could, but by the time I was at the point where it was time to fuck or leave, a group of some people from the funeral came in and sat down at a table. Not only had the specter of the day returned to my mind, but I realized that anyone in that group might be prepared to describe to Erica how I was dressed and what I was doing, and she knows my husband's family well. I smiled and hastily signed the bill, ignoring the man imploring me to stay for one more drink.