My husband, Hank, was in the Army when we got married. He was in it for the training, not retirement. He worked with satellite communications, which paid a lot of money in the civilian sector. He loved being in the Army, but he was deployed a lot, and his main reason for not doing it as a career. After he proposed to me, we sat down and had a serious heart-to-heart.
"Amy," He said, "I would never have an affair with another woman, but I've been deployed to places where I had to find female relief. There's no way I can promise it won't happen before I get out."
I couldn't believe he proposed to me the first thing he wanted to say was he might screw around. He read my expression correctly and gave me his prepared answer.
"I honestly didn't think I would have time to fall in love with my deployment schedule, much less with over a year left on my enlistment contract."
"You propose to me to say you're not going to have an affair but cheat on me with--hookers?"
"When I get to this point on a deployment, the only requirement is adult and female." He said, "I'm not going to make promises I can't keep. If you found out after the fact, what would we have?"
"What am I supposed to do with this--confession."
"I understand if this is a dealbreaker."
"That's not an answer."
He got flustered and blushed.
"I figured if you were willing to accommodate me--which I did not, we could come to some agreement."
"Why would you ask me to marry you then immediately tell me you're gonna be intimate with another woman?" I said, "Clearly, you're not ready to get married."
"I thought about this a lot. Hear me out and then decide if you think I'm not ready to get married."
I nodded for him to continue.
"We met right after I got back from a deployment, and then my second deployment was canceled abruptly. I've been home longer than I have been in the last four years. You're about to graduate with honors, and the company you did your internship with has you a job. I already know what's gonna happen. That soldier you are dating, doing who knows what overseas, will feel a lot less appealing when you take your head out of your books and start a professional career." I said, "I propose we do a paper marriage with a prenup before I deploy. I'll get all the extra pay married soldiers receive, and you'll get 100% medical coverage, rent paid, commissary privileges, and my life insurance policy if things go tits up. I'll restrict my female activities to oral. If I break that rule, you can exercise the prenup and get an uncontested divorce."
"You're gonna confess that you fucked some chick?"
"Nope. Dale will."
"Bullshit."
That was my reflex, trying to poke holes in Hank's logic. I met Dale and Hank the same night because they went to the bar together. They were a lot alike. The only reason I chose Hank over Dale was he asked me to dance first. Dale had been kicking himself ever since because he wished he had acted sooner. They were good friends, and Dale wouldn't stab him in the back, but he would rat Hank out in a second if it got him another shot with me.
Hank was clear in our prenup that I had the same latitude when hooking up. I thought it was sweet that he considered us equals, but I still laughed in his face.
"I'm so glad I have your permission to suck a stranger's dick on a business trip."
"I was thinking of you receiving the happy ending."
"I love you, Hank, but it doesn't work that way for women."
I took Hank's offer, and it was the best choice I could've made. He was deployed for 7 of his remaining 14 months in the Army, with three-week breaks between missions. I moved into base housing when my lease ended and took a job with the company where I did my internship.
I knew how the sales team dressed but couldn't afford it as a student. I updated my wardrobe, replaced my rape prevention glasses with contacts, and styled my hair with a popular shoulder-length look between graduation and onboarding with my employer.
We didn't have a honeymoon, and Hank deployed three weeks after I was inprocessed as a military spouse. My lease ended with the school semester, and I secured base housing after paying one month of rent.
***
Hank's words were prophetic. Combined with the simple wedding ring he gave me, I had the resolve to turn down terrible propositions I would have taken without Hank's and Dale's vote of confidence. Counterintuitively my wedding ring made me more appealing as a lone married woman when we pimped our wares at conventions.
I was glad Hank was not around to see me run around with my head cut off my first month on the job. I met him at the airfield for his first redeployment as a married man. Dale gave me the thumbs up on Hank's behavior for the six weeks he was gone. We celebrated with a lot of sex, but I hit the road a week after he came home.
I was indispensable because I paired my marketing degree with a minor in mathematics. It guaranteed my position in the company but also signed me up for every convention that year. Hank's second and third deployments came and went. We had two weeks together before splitting up again. I learned to cook a few dinners in my free time so Hank could have a home-cooked meal when he redeployed.
Dale had come over for dinner. The two of them were talking in the living room. After we cleaned up the kitchen, I went upstairs to change. When I came downstairs, I caught snippets of conversation I didn't think they wanted me to hear.
"I almost didn't make it through that first deployment," Hank said, "So glad I did."
"Idiot, that's what I'm talking about," Dale said, "Any man that finds a woman willing to put up with oral infidelity is one lucky sonofabitch."
"You're right I am lucky."
"Think Amy is having fun on her business trips?"
"She said women didn't work that way, made me feel like an idiot for suggesting it."
"That might change if she knew how much head you were getting."
"Doesn't matter I'm one lucky sonofabitch remember."
I didn't linger to eavesdrop. We were talking in bed later that night. He was trying to discuss our partially open marriage but couldn't figure out how to put the words together. I could've admitted to overhearing their conversation. I was curious how many blowjobs he was getting. Giving up sex was a big deal for him. Hearing how hard it was for him to make it through that first deployment and how happy he was that he did it made me feel special.
***
Hank left for his fourth deployment. This time was harder than the last two because we were comfortable with one another, and there was no doubt we were having a real wedding once he was out of the Army. I brought the sexy lingerie that I wore for him to my next trade convention. It was my way of being with him while he was deployed. This was my fifth conference, and I felt like an old pro.
I changed out of my business suit into a cool summer skirt, put on the skin-colored thong and a matching half-shirt and bra combo. It was like a bralette, except it covered from my breast to just above my belly button and was snug, giving me a push-up bra effect. The summer skirt was thin enough to be see-through in the sun. Indoors you could tell I wasn't wearing any underwear except maybe a thong, and the illusion that I was braless was complete because you could see my nipples through the dress when erect.
I was sitting at the hotel bar degaussing, expecting to see more of my crew. Not five minutes had passed when a man sat down beside me and shot finger pistols at me.
"What's the Therocol rep drinking tonight?" He said.
I groaned. Therocol was a business attire company. The body armor we had to wear on the trade floor was a nun's habit turned into a business suit.
"If you still recognize me, I need hard liquor, tequila works."
He ordered both of us doubles.
"I recognize you because we met six months ago in Seattle."
He held his hand, and I shook it.
"Reggie, and you're Amy, right?"
"Oh god, not Seattle? That was my first conference," I said, "Did I set you on fire, is that why you remember me?"
He laughed.
"It was worse than that, but they never took you off the floor," He said, "And now it looks like you're the boss."
"I am and must suck at being a boss, because none of my crew is down here."
His eyes goggled.