See introduction to Nora Before We Met.1. (My wife recalls her first summer of sex)
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Several weeks after Nora described for me her sexual activities with her first lover, David, during her eighteenth summer, Nora said she had other memories to share with me.
"James, when I began college at the School of the Chicago Art Institute I immediately began to meet a much more varied group of people than I had known in high school in Kansas City. And, after my summer experiences with David and Derrick, I thought it was likely that sometime soon I would engage in something sexual with fellow students. But I quickly discovered that the student body at the Institute seemed in fact not to have very many attractive student bodies, male or female. And while most of them were talented and imaginative artistically, many were very immature and insecure. And I believe my looks and the way I presented myself intimidated many of the students of both sexes who were not physically appealing or stylish.
"There were several men that I met early on whose art and personality I did find interesting, and I agreed to dates with those who asked even if they were not at all handsome. Early on I was looking mainly for friendship and hoped that some level of sexual pleasure might flow from that. For those whose company I enjoyed and who appealed to me, I did sometimes offer to stroke their cocks for them. But often they came too quickly and usually their lack of patience and skilled attention to my needs left me feeling frustrated and abandoned.
"After several such early experiences at the college, I adopted an approach that reduced my frustration and, usually, the boy's as well. When I was with someone that I liked who wanted to have sex with me and who I wanted to respond to, I would explain to him that if he wanted sex he had to accept my conditions. Before I would give him pleasure, he would have to please me with his fingers or his mouth or both. I told him that I would guide him by telling him how I liked for him to do this for me and that if he gave me satisfying pleasure this way would I reciprocate by using my hand or my mouth to please him βand that we would not go further than this. So there was not much spontaneity or creativity involved. When I did prepare to have sex with someone, I found I enjoyed teasing him while we were together and that I liked talking with him about what we were going to do before we did it and talking about it after we finished. It also moved me when one of these young men, and there were several, would passionately describe the strength of his lust for me. It made me feel desirable to have them tell me how much they needed me, though I did not share their desire.
"Beyond the school year, the power of my body and men's lusting for it became more evident to me during my summer internships after my freshman and sophomore years, one in Kansas City and one in Chicago. In Kansas City I was in the art and design section at a public relations company and in Chicago in a large law firm. In both I tried always to dress in a tasteful way, demonstrating my seriousness and my ambition. But at the same time I dressed so that the shape of my young body always was apparent, especially my breasts of which I was very proud of at that point. Both of those internships involved a lot of walking from one office to another, carrying files or escorting visitors to an office, or some other routine assignment. I wanted to draw attention to myself but in a discrete, understated way. And I often succeeded. Many times when I would be leaving an office or just walking down a hallway I would give a quick glance over my shoulder to observe a guilty look on the face of a man who obviously had been watching me as I walked along. Usually the man would look away, realizing that I recognized he had been gazing at me and why.
"This behavior, so often repeated, reinforced my awareness of my power to provoke desire, even in influential and respected older men. I grew comfortable with this, then gradually found myself turned on by it. In fact, during some frustrating times in college, when I masturbated I often fantasized about having sex with a distinguished older man, someone who knew how to please me and to introduce me to a range of sexual episodes beyond my prior experience. So perhaps this is still another factor accounting for my acceptance of a relationship with an older man, Adrian Benton, ten years later.
"During these college years I also began to realize that I had at least mild exhibitionist tendencies. Often, when I would go to a party on campus, to events at the Art Institute itself, or to gallery openings in Chicago, I would make it a point when I dressed, or during my first trip to the powder room, to remove my bra. I liked knowing that when they looked at me men would notice the shape of my breasts and see evidence of my firm nipples. I also usually wore no panties under the tight short skirts that I often wore and I liked feeling eyes on me as I walked. And I liked imagining what those men were wishing for. Also, when I went to the fitness center at the School, I began to dress more provocatively than the students and staff who were there, knowing that my body was more alluring than anyone around me. Perhaps I just was needing to feel sexual in a time when I often was not experiencing satisfying sex.
" James, you know I still have that power and that I enjoy using it at times, not just when we are at the gym but more often at public events and even during the work day around the law firm. And I like telling you in the evening who I noticed watching me that day or that evening and whether I had welcomed his stare. Remember, I told you nearly two years ago when I first noticed that Adrian Benton often was watching me. At first his looks were furtive but then they gradually became more obvious β and longer and more intense. So it was not so surprising when he asked last winter to meet with us and then proposed that he become my lover. And he certainly still likes to look at me when out and about and especially to watch me having sex."
"I wish I could describe particular sexual encounters during my early college years that might excite you, James; I would tell you if there were times that I recall as memorable. Disappointingly, I developed no meaningful romantic relationships or memorable sexual episodes during my first two years in Chicago.
"During this same time, my freshman and sophomore years, I was working through some other issues of my own. I had come to the School of the Art Institute of Chicago because I thought I could have and would enjoy having a career as an artist. But by the end of my freshman year I concluded that I just did not have the talent or the imagination or the drive to be an artist at a level of success that would satisfy my ambition. I did not want to be a starving artist. So over the next year and beyond I transitioned from being a painting major to Art History with a minor in arts organizations. I hoped I would be able to use knowledge of art history, art theory and contemporary arts organizations to pursue a career as a writer or teacher or consultant or gallery manager or in some other way that would keep me in the art world but not as an artist. Any art that I would make would be for pleasure not for a career.
"As you know, James, when I graduated from the Institute School I went on to a master's program at the Kellogg School at Northwestern where I specialized in non profit management with a focus on arts organizations. And that is when I wrote my thesis on the financial condition of private and non profit art galleries in Chicago. And that gave me a good familiarity with the art galleries here and the people who own and operate them. And I have used that experience in my work at the law firm.
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"I want to tell you now about a much more intense experience I had while I was at the Art Institute. It was in the middle of my junior year."
As she began to talk, Nora turned on her side toward me and reached down to take my cock in her hand. As she recalled her experience for me she very slowly and softly began to stroke me and I soon began to harden.
"His name was Tomas Acosta. He was a senior. I had met him a few times before but we had never had an extended conversation. When I returned for my junior year I came to Chicago a few days early. I went to an exhibition at the Art Institute Museum featuring Latin American artists and Tomas was also there. We began to talk about the exhibition and I liked his insights. He also seemed to know a good deal about the history of art more broadly. We went out for a drink, then dinner, then soon began to date. We had a very pleasant relationship including good sex. Not highly charged or very inventive but still very nice.
"Thomas came from a wealthy family in Argentina and he was studying painting at the School of the Art Institute. In early December, when it was very cold here in Chicago, he invited me to come with him at Christmas to visit his family in Buenos Aires where it was very warm and perhaps to go out to the ranch that the family had owned for generations. My parents let me go.
"For the first two days Tomas showed me the city and late at night we were able to be together for sex in a basement room after everyone else was asleep. It was very nice, very exciting for me because of being in a new city in a new culture with a man I liked. But after a couple of more days spending most of the time with his very conservative Catholic family, Tomas could tell that I was feeling restless and restricted. He very considerately arranged for us to drive southwest to spend a few days at the Acosta cattle ranch on the Pampas nearly a hundred miles southwest of the city. He said that the only people there over the holidays would be the staff for the ranch and that most of them would be enjoying holiday time with their families and working as little as possible.