Is honesty the best policy? I'll let you decide.
I've been married for forty-one years; to my second wife actually. The first marriage ended when my wife found lingerie that didn't belong to her in a box in our closet.
She didn't believe me when I confessed that it was mine! I tried to explain that it was a fetish that I had before we were married. I just liked girly things. She couldn't imagine that an ex officer in the Army, a guy who played soccer in college and was a big flirt could also be, in her words, perverted!
In reality that was me! She just couldn't accept it and that was that. I decided to be honest and open with the next woman in my life and the next one after that if necessary. It wasn't worth the inevitable grief to keep things hidden.
A few months after our divorce I met Sally. Do you remember the song about the girl who sang "do wah diddy diddy dum, diddy do?" That was Sally! The original flower child; except she was three years older than me. And, she didn't actually sing that song but that is how I think of her to this day. Happy, smiling and full of life; she is fun to be with. That's why I married her but before I did I told her about my fetish.
Her eyes were as big as saucers as I explained about my failed first marriage over drinks at our favorite restaurant. Her reaction, "Are you wearing panties now?"
I blushed and said, "No, of course not!"
"Oh, sweetie, that's too bad!" She giggled, leaned over the table and whispered, "I'd kind of like to see that."
"You're not disgusted?"
"Why? Should I be?"
"No! But I was afraid you would be. I didn't want to lose you but I didn't want to be dishonest either. Helen couldn't get past it and..."
"Helen is an idiot! But remind me to thank her if I ever meet her."
"Are you ready to order?" Our waiter interrupted.
Sally put her hand on mine and squeezed. "We're just having a quick drink tonight; could we have the check please?"