My Doctor Cucs Me

THE STORY SO FAR

My wife Helen had a month long affair with Dr Paul Rodgers. She confessed to me and told my about the first time she strayed

I have forgiven her and my wife had gone to bed. Using the Personal Brainstorming technique I had compiled a list of the questions and actions that I wanted to be cleared up.

THE STORY CONTINUES

The next morning we were both scheduled to work. Helen was getting ready for her work as receptionist in a nursing home.

I said "I'm going to phone in and get a duvet day."

EDITORIAL NOTE

A duvet day allows an employee to phone in and book a day's leave without needing to give any explanation why the leave is needed. In theory it stops people throwing sickies, or feigning some illness.

Helen replied "Its a pity I can't do the same, but then I have a proper job. I don't just analyse numbers all day."

I ignored her cheap jibe and booked my duvet day. Helen looks good in her receptionist clothes, but even better without them.

I looked at my list. Revenge on Dr Rodgers was the biggest item.

INAPPROPRIATE RELATIONSHIP

My wife had led Dr Rodgers on to their inappropriate relationship. But he should have resisted her advances. I decided to concentrate on getting revenge on "that bastard doctor."

Most British people are aware that the British General Medical Council can strike off doctors for having sex with patients. If the GMC strikes off a doctor then he or she can no longer legally provide medical advice or consultations.

I wanted to "fact check" my understanding. So I did a lot of internet searches.

DR B

I read chapter and verse about Dr B who had been "struck off" after having a sexual relationship with a 'vulnerable' patient. Dr B had an 'unblemished' record and a 'good reputation' with patients.

Dr B gave Patient A his personal phone number after she contacted him in a crisis over debt that she owed. He helped her as he thought she was suffering from 'severe stress due to her financial situation". He gave her money, paid vet's bills on her behalf, and bought her a laptop.

Dr B and the patient exchanged text messages and met up at each other's homes where they had sex 21 times. The patient also sent him naked images of herself and love poems.

THE DECISION

The GMC's tribunal report stated "We took the view that he had caused harm to Ms A who was a vulnerable patient in his care." The tribunal erased Dr B's name from the medical register.

MAJOR DIFFERENCES FROM MY WIFE'S AFFAIR

I am no medical expert but I wouldn't say that my wife is "vulnerable". But for all I know a peri-menopausal woman may be classed as vulnerable.

My reading of the newspaper report suggested that Dr B took the lead. It was my wife who had instigated and continued their affair. Helen had wanted something from Dr Rodgers beyond his prick in her cunt.

MY INFERENCE

Dr B's defence was that Patient A wasn't vulnerable but had used her charms to get money and gifts from him.

I thought that, had the GMC Tribunal agreed that Patient A had led on Dr B for her own gain, then he might not have been struck off.

WAS DR RODGERS FOLLOWING GMC GUIDANCE?

Via the world wide web, I managed to find the GMC's 2024 guidance. It clearly states "Doctors must not pursue a sexual or improper emotional relationship with a current patient."

Dr Rodgers must have been aware of the signs that the doctor-patient professional boundary had become blurred. He chose to ignore my wife's inappropriate behaviour towards him.

My wife had taken this as Dr Rodger's encouragement to start an affair.

RECORDING

The GMC advises doctors to keep a written record of inappropriate patient-doctor conversations, as well as keeping a log of all contacts with the patient. I doubt that Dr Rodgers had done that. It would have been an admission of his own guilt. It would have been like the ending of the film "Kind Hearts And Coronets."

TRANSFER

Doctors can transfer the patient's care to a suitable colleague. Dr Rodgers could easily have done this since there were 3 other doctors in his GP practice. He could have transferred her to a lady doctor who was probably post-menopausal. He had not done this.

CHAPERONE

Neither had he used a chaperone during his consultation with my wife. My wife would not have been obligated to accept having a chaperone, But Dr Rodgers hadn't offered this as an option to her. I strongly suspect that Helen would have refused to have a chaperone.

MEDICAL CONFIDENTIALITY

Another biggie for doctors is keeping medical information about their patience secret, unless there is some over-riding reason not to.

I resolved to ask Helen if Dr Rodgers had discussed the medical care treatments of other patients with her. If so, I would be justified in shopping my wife's bull.

I added "Disclosure of other patients information" to my Personal Brainstorming list.

TOUCHING

For the GMC. sexual behaviour does not necessarily involve touching. I suppose that covers the nude photos of herself that Patient A sent to Dr B.

I needed to know if my wife had sent nude pictures of herself to her bull or if Dr Rodgers had sent nude pictures of himself to my wife.

I couldn't bear the thought of nude photos of my wife being shown to others, It would be even worse if they were shown on the internet for anyone to admire.

I added "Nude pictures" to my list.

WHAT TO DO?

Patient A's boyfriend had reported his girlfriend's 21 dalliances to the GMC.

He discovered Patient A's other lover in an unusual way. Dr B came in to see Patient A's boyfriend and Patient A in bed together.

The newspaper report didn't say that the boyfriend and girlfriend were having sex in the bed. But I assumed that they were. I spent some time imagining the anger and embarrassment of all concerned.

I imagined the boyfriend and girlfriend having missionary sex when Dr B suddenly comes in

I imagine both men saying "Who the fuck are you?"

I imagine the doctor taking flight with the naked, angry boyfriend in hot pursuit. I imagined the boyfriend demanding to know what the fuck was going on between his girl and the stranger. I imagined it was a shouting match as girlfriend tried to calm her cuckolded boyfriend.

The newspaper didn't say whether the boyfriend stayed with Patient A. It wasn't like they were married, but I hoped he had stayed with her.

I strongly suspected that Patient A's boyfriend was right pissed off with the Dr B. After all Dr B had fucked his woman 21 times and making him a cuck 21 times.

I had considerable sympathy with Patient A's boyfriend.

REPORTING DR RODGERS TO THE GMC

I wanted Helen and I to make a joint complaint against Dr Rodgers. I wanted him to be struck off.

I put "Joint complaint against Dr Rodgers" onto my list.

BLACKMAIL

I briefly considered blackmailing Dr Rodgers. But I am no criminal and 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I needed to do something other than think about Dr Rodgers making me a cuck. I looked at my DVD collection. I chose the film Victim, little realising it would fundamentally change my Personal Brainstorming list.

THE PLOT OF VICTIM

Melville Farr is a successful bisexual barrister who is happily married to Laura. He had promised Laura that he would no longer indulge his homosexual inclination.

He receives a call from Jack Barrett, a young gay man with whom he had a romance before he met Laura. Jack needs financial assistance to flee the country. Jack wants Melville to help him because he has fallen prey to blackmailers, who have a compromising picture of Jack and Melville.

Jack had stolen a lot of money from his employers to pay the blackmailers. The police pick up Barrett. They quickly deduce that he is being blackmailed. Knowing it will only be a matter of time before he is forced to reveal the details of the blackmail.

Instead Jack hangs himself.

Melville decides to take on the blackmail ring. This causes a matrimonial argument and someone paints "FARR IS QUEER" on his garage door.

Undeterred, Melville works with the police to capture the blackmailers. He promises to testify at the blackmailers' trial, even though the ensuing press coverage will certainly destroy his career and reputation.

THE LAST ADDITION TO MY LIST

The film was an attempt to highlight the problems homosexual men faced and to campaign to change the law.

I wrote "Jurisprudence, not spray painting FARR IS QUEER" on garage doors."

This sounds pompous. The film made me see that I didn't really want revenge on Dr Rodgers.

The British General Medical Council could enable me to get revenge. But Dr Rodgers was as sinful or sinless as the homosexual played by Dirk Bogarde. I wasn't in a position to change the GMC's rules. I had to work around their rules to obtain justice.

I crossed out "Joint complaint against Dr Rodgers."

I had not a clue how to achieve justice.