I had enjoyed a fortunate youth and finished a career early in life. I was able to retire and "restart" a new life after a bitter divorce and a few other issues.
I started taking college classes to get a different degree and that was how I met Carmen. We were close to the same age. She was married and taking classes so she could re-enter the work force with a fresh degree.
Since we were the "elders" in most of the classes, we would sit by each other and partner on group projects most of the time. Over the weeks we had gotten to know each other.
On one particular day in late winter she came in for Psyche Class, late and disorganized. I covered for her and the professor accepted my bullshit lie with an element of skeptical doubt.
Carmen spent most of the class on her phone texting. At one point she was in tears and I decided that I would talk to her about it after class. We had about 15 minutes left so it could wait.
The professor finished right on time and the crowd rushed out. I remained seated by Carmen and decided that I was going to take this friendship UP one level.
"You look like you need some coffee. Can I buy you a cup?" I asked.
Carmen smiled at me. "YES."
I helped her up and we made our way to the food stand.
I gave her a few minutes to collect her thoughts and waited for her coffee to work before I pried into her life.
"So ... some traffic huh?" I deadpanned, trying to get a response.
Carmen sighed, "Yup ..."
"You going to share what has you so upset or do I need to wrestle you for that phone and figure it out myself?" I asked (trying to be funny).
"Today I could kick just about anyone's ass, so either come at me, fuck off or change the subject." Carmen snapped.
That was a strong enough hint for me to switch subjects.
We talked about the homework and up coming term paper.
She teared up again when I mentioned my subject, Sexual Disorders.
I quickly deduced that there was trouble at home and this was not the place to discuss it. So I backed down and worked on a different approach.
"If whatever is bothering you has got you this upset, it needs to be talked over and talked through. I am a willing participant if you need to get something off of your chest. I am not pressuring you, just putting myself on the table for you to consider." I said. "Not trying to get my ass kicked." I added.
She chuckled then drew a ragged breath. She looked around and then said something that kind of floored me.
"Well ... I had to use the house computer last night. My laptop is going nuts. My husband has been using the same computer lately and last night I found out why. He has several porn web sites saved in the favorites. Many of those sites include pictures of women in bikinis ... with athletic bodies ... and perfect ... fucking ... everything." She confessed.
"Carmen a lot of guys look ... It doesn't mean he thinks any less of you." I tried to sell my condolences. She wasn't buying any of it.
"There is more ..." she added.
"He has written stories. I saw those in Word. I am sure they are posted on the sexual fantasy board. He has also subscribed to a couple of fetish blogs under this different email address." she finished.
"And you are upset because you think he is having an affair with internet models, or someone that runs a website for a sexual fetish?" I asked rationally.
Caren looked at me calmly. "When you put it like THAT it doesn't make any sense."
"Is there any "rock solid" evidence that suggests he is having an affair?" I asked.
Carmen looked at me as if I was on her husband's side in this matter.
"No .. not really." she let her voice taper off.
"Its normal to have fantasies." I added.
"Not THESE fantasies. They are NOT normal." she shot back.
I waited for more.
"Do you know what a Cook - a - loo is?" she asked, unsure of where her own words were coming from.
I chuckled to myself. "Do you mean a Cuckold?" I asked with a smile.
"That could be it!!! STOP LAUGHING AT ME ... Do you know what that means?" she asked in a fever.
I chuckled out loud this time. "Yes Carmen, I know what that means. I know a LOT about it. I did my Thesis on this particular Fetish." I said.
Carmen was still "lost" in the translation.
"Well?" she asked as she motioned for a truck to back up and dump a load of dirt.
I took a gulp of my coffee and smiled. "Let me just say, you are either the luckiest woman alive or about to be the most annoyed wife. Just know that the choice is yours and I can help you figure it all out in the next few minutes." I assured her.
"Lets move over to that corner couch and I will let you know all that I know about this fetish. You'll see what I mean by "luckiest" woman in a few minutes." I said.
We moved to the corner where we had some privacy and I began to explain how the fantasy included her. I told her that her husband must value their marriage greatly in order to consider this fantasy because it is not for the shaky marriages.
"This fantasy will break a weak marriage. So the fact that your husband has these thoughts says something positive about how he feels about you." I said.
Carmen nodded.
I explained the differences in a man's sex drive and a woman's sex drive and that helped define the roles in the fantasy.
"Women place a higher social value on the marriage where men tend to take it for granted more. This does not mean either feels differently about the other, its just the difference in the wiring." I said.
Carmen nodded. She was still "lost" on what this meant for her. "That's all well and good, but what are the Nuts and Bolts of this fantasy he is having?" she asked.
"In a nut shell, you date random men at free will as if you were single. You are allowed to have sex with anyone you like providing you are 100% honest and disclose all details about each date and what you do on those dates. The Cuckold (or Cuck) waits for you to return and finds pleasure in the humiliation that his wife is unfaithful to him. He supports you by helping you get ready for these dates. Gives you money for dinner, events, new clothing, perfume, nails, hair, makeup, shoes, etc. His pleasure comes from the insults and humiliation." I stated from memory.
"The wife (or Cuckoldress) denies the husband sexual intercourse. This activity is reserved for her lovers. In many cases, the husband is kept in chastity and denied orgasm completely. As the weeks and months accumulate, he becomes more willing to do household chores, run errands, laundry or other favors." I added.
"Why would a man would allow his woman to sleep with other men and still praise her and support the activity?" Carmen asked.
"The humiliation is a big part of the fantasy." I explained.
I went on to explain the man supports this activity, encouraging the woman to push boundaries, try new things and explore her fantasies. Her physical happiness is more important to him where a man's emotional happiness is more important to a woman.
"This sounds like an elaborate set up so HE can cheat on me later on." she said.