Authors note.
Ok so I'll just mention briefly here before i begin that john did not want me to tell this part of our story, because simply, it's embarrassing.
Apparently you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince and although this guy was fun for a while, things did go....pear shaped?....no not pear shaped.....I'm pear shaped....which implies I'm wrong....so no....it went 'tits up'....that's better.
This encounter led to probably one of the most awkward and embarrassing moments of my life..... you'll see what i mean.
Anyway.....
Alan.
After my baptism of fire at the hands of serial womaniser harry, we became more cautious. A valuable lesson had been learned......the truth.
Tell the truth from the start or don't even attempt it. Make sure your intentions are clear right from the beginning.
Saves all that sneaking about and making stuff up.
After harry we had a bloody nose and it took time to get over that.
But get over it we did, and by early april i was raring to go once again, the urge to have another guy to play with was too strong to try and ignore for long. John too, was desperate to see me 'in action' again.
We had a fair few recordings of neil to keep us busy and originally 3 recordings of harry but i deleted 2 of those, only keeping 1 for reference, i never watch it anymore.
I found another charity shop to volunteer at. I liked the work, it was so interesting going through folks donations. This shop was much closer to home and a smaller place, it suited me perfectly.
There was no opportunity to play around, even the delivery/collection driver, was a woman. But i had already decided anyway, not to mix work with.....our new hobby.
After the last disaster.
So, it was decided between myself and john that i would try the email pal thing again.
It did prove fruitful last time, only being scuppered by trevors wife discovering his little secret.
This time i joined a different site. Putting my add in and waiting for the replies.
My add read something like this.
(Lonely lady, 37.
Seeking mature gent for daily correspondence.
I'm shy and quiet but love good conversation.
Interested in local history, reading, the outdoors, walking, nature, animals.
And lots more.)
There were other things that i put too but, you get the idea....
The interests are true to me. I love local history, so does john and it was this interest coupled with walking and the countryside which led to another more successful encounter than this one later on..... but that's another story....for another time.
We sat back and waited for potential 'suitors'.
It was so exciting vetting them all, myself and john sat there on the evening sifting through them....
There were a lot of replies, roughly numbering in the forties.
And it was squirrelled away in amongst all these enthusiastic responses that we found our man......
He, is called alan.
Fairly local, same interests as me, shy and quiet also. A retired accountant.
But, what drew my attention more than anything else was this guys age.......a whopping....71!
A 71 year old man?..... interested in getting in touch with a 37 year old me?......
It was a red flag to a bull.
I could not resist. Alan was by far the oldest that had responded, and he had my full attention.
I wrote back telling him that i wanted to write to him, and that he sounded nice.
What followed was a series of 'letters' that were primarily introductory.
Basic likes, dislikes, our personality types, hobbies etc....etc.
I was very careful to not to be flirty or suggestive, that ball was firmly in his court.
And it wasn't long before he made his first serve.
Just a couple of days into our writing he began flirting, gently at first.
He would put things in his letters like...
(Oh so you like older men?)
This was a reference to my add stating to correspond with 'mature gentlemen'.
I wrote back something about always being more comfortable with older gentlemen and how i found them usually very charming.
He then replied that he hoped i found him charming?
And that he was very pleased indeed to be in contact with an 'exciting young lady'.....which by the way, is the exact wording he used.
Things quickly progressed and within a few weeks we were openly flirting and being quite 'adventurous' with our letters.
During this period of getting to know each other alan began to make mention of his wife susan.
It was a sad story, she had been diagnosed with ms many years previously and was currently getting about using one of those mobility scooters.
She wasn't well but alan fortunately, had a lot of support from family. In particular his grandson and granddaughter in law.
Alan slowly, carefully, began to reveal to me that susan had gone off sex a long time ago, even before getting ill.
I'll just explain at this point that by now we were almost a month into our writing.
I had initially not revealed my marital status in the add, but had told alan about a week into our writing that i was married.
He was naturally curious because i had been openly flirting with him so.....i went out on a limb and explained to alan that my hubby john didn't mind me talking to other guys, he was fine with it.
Alan was very curious about this and asked if john knew the nature of our conversations?
The only answer i could give was....yes.
That first time i did that, tell him that john was fine with me talking intimately with another guy.....well....i recall my finger shaking a little as it hovered over send....i was so turned on about revealing the truth....
