I looked around casually, as I sipped my drink. The bar was moderately full -- it was a little early for the Friday night rush, I guess. I was in one of the nicer bars at the edge of town; the sort that people go to for a romantic meal and drink, but one where the binge-drinking Friday night mob were discouraged. Far across the room, at a table facing me, sat my best friend, Tamsin, her blond hair and permanent smile lighting up the corner like a beacon.
'Good job we came here', I told myself -- anywhere else two single women would have been like a fly magnet to the predatory males of the town. Having said that, I knew we wouldn't get away with it much longer -- so where was he?
The 'he' in question wasn't my husband. In fact, I was here to meet another man!
I'd done this before -- twice, in fact. Lest you jump to conclusions, however, I'd better say that my husband, George, knew all about it!
I'm Beth. George and I married eight years ago, having dated all through high school. I suppose we were both fairly naΓ―ve back then -- certainly inexperienced -- and it had taken us a few years to grow together before we had ever questioned our own innocence. Basically, we had evolved to the point where we now knew each others' real needs and motivation. In short, we had realised that George liked to think about me with other guys -- sex, I mean.
I suppose when I say it like that, it seems like switching on a light but, while it might have been just as illuminating, the process had, in fact, been very slow and drawn out. Of course, that realisation, and its logical conclusion, had been years apart, and it was only several months back that I'd finally given in to George's wish for me to actually 'be' with another guy. In reality, we'd gone through all the stages you might expect, from my absolute refusal, several stages of inducement (pleading -- call it what you will), my considering it and seeking reassurance, to finally agreeing.
Initially, I hadn't understood George's thinking. After all, he was enough for me and, sure, I'd been flattered by other men's attentions -- even slightly tempted, I suppose, but I'd never have seriously considered going with anyone else. If I'm honest, I'd have to say that he wore me down! After so much discussion, I felt that I'd finally begun to see what he saw in it, although it wasn't really that appealing to me. And -- truthfully -- there was a little curiosity on my part!
But I'd never been with anyone else. Yeah, there'd been opportunities, I suppose, both before and after I'd met George, but he was the one -- the 'best fit' -- the one I was comfortable with. So why rock the boat?
Anyway, facts are facts, and I'd finally agreed. Not without qualification, I have to say. Firstly, I didn't feel I could do it actually in front of George, so he was going to have to settle for me reporting back afterwards. I suppose I'd hoped that this would put him off, but he gladly agreed, explaining that this would be just like the stories we told each other from time to time, but that it would be so much more intense because he would 'know'!
I also wanted to say who it would be, and this proved difficult. I didn't want a friend or acquaintance -- anyone who could bring things back to our doorstep in any way. Demolishing my last line of defence, George helpfully offered to help me search the internet. I wasn't too computer literate, but it wasn't rocket science, and I soon found myself trawling through a website full of prospects (most of whom I wouldn't want to be anywhere near). That's where Tamsin came in. She is my best friend -- of the ilk that you can share serious secrets with, and it wasn't long before I had her looking at these websites with me.
Tamsin is unbelievable! A drop-dead gorgeous girl with a figure I'd kill for, long blonde hair and a sunny personality. Without even noticing it herself, she was a man magnet. Which made it all the more odd that she could never seem to find a permanent partner. She'd dated constantly through school, and the years since, but never for any length of time. When I'd asked her why she couldn't seem to land a guy, she just said that none of them suited her, and that she was searching for that one, special person, but that there didn't seem to be many of her 'type' around. I knew she'd tried lots of different things - clubs, concerts, dancing - in fact, she'd actually used dating sites before, and that's what allowed me the benefit of her perceived wisdom that the best sites weren't free and should come personally recommended.
We sort of strayed a little, I guess, because we were soon looking at some of the dating sites that she had used previously. It wasn't long before we'd agreed on a nice-looking guy just a year younger than me. He was a computer engineer, who worked on intensive projects for weeks on end before getting leave. That sodded up his social life, which was the reason he wanted to short-circuit the normal process and meet someone quickly.