For the first few years I didn't think anything of it. My wife and I both have brown hair and freckles but none of our three sons do, they are in fact all blonde, and fair skinned.
It wasn't until our youngest was three and the oldest was eight that I began to suspect anything.
My wife and I were sitting at my family reunion and as I looked around it was easy to tell where the boys were as they were the only blonde children there. Now there are some spouses that are blonde or that have black hair, and the older ones have gray or white hair, but the young people in my family all have hair that falls somewhere between brown and red, and most of us have a lot of freckles.
As I sat there I noticed that my nieces and nephews all had similar hair and skin to the rest of the family even if they had a parent that was blonde or dark haired.
I found it very strange that my wife Julie and I, who look as if we could be brother and sister, could produce blonde, fair skinned children.
I didn't suspect anything at the time, but two weeks later at Julie's family reunion the thoughts came back, and they were joined by suspicion.
Julie's family, much like mine had a very strong genetic tendency to produce freckles and brownish red hair. There was only one child on her side of the family that had blonde hair, and that was her older brother's third son. Julie's brother's wife is one of those ultra blondes that has the really pale skin and blue eyes, she's one step above being albino and even with that only one of the four children she had came out blonde.
The more I thought about the situation the stranger it became. How could Julie and I produce three blonde fair skinned sons if both of our families had so little of either in them?
It was almost time to leave the reunion when it suddenly occurred to me that the only way for the children to turn out the way they did would be for one of their parents to be a strong carrier for it. It seemed that neither of us fit that bill, which led to the understanding that one of us wasn't the parent of our children.
I immediately understood that I was the one that wasn't the parent as I had seen Julie go through the pregnancies, I had been there for all three births, there was no doubt that she was their mother.
The realization that I wasn't the father of my three sons almost made me break down and cry, but I fought it off.
I was silent as we drove home, though Julie was talking non-stop about how great it was to see all of her out of state family again.
For the next few days I agonized about what to do. My wife had three children that weren't mine but that she had led me to believe were. I immediately thought of confronting her, but I decided that I had to be sure first. I was nearly certain that I couldn't be their father, but I had to know for sure.
I didn't want anybody to suspect what I was doing so one at a time I took the boys to the doctor for full physicals including blood work. I got copies of their blood tests and then on a business trip a few weeks after the reunion I stopped at a doctor's office.
"So Mr. Evans, what can I do for you?" The doctor asked.
"I'm being threatened with paternity suits for these three boys. It's possible that I am their father, but I'd like to know for sure. I've acquired copies of their most recent blood tests, can you test me to see if I'm a match?" I asked.
"Certainly. This is a pretty common thing, there are a lot of women out there that will claim that a child was fathered by the most successful of the lovers she had at the time in the hopes of getting money from them. Luckily medical testing has advanced far enough to allow us to determine with a great deal of certainty whether or not you are or aren't the father." The doctor says.
"How long will this take?" I asked.
"Several hours. I can put it in as top priority in the lab and have the results around 4:00." The doctor said.
"Then I'll see you at 4:00." I said.
I was in hell all day at my meetings. Did I really want to know? Could I just pretend everything was the same now that I had reason to doubt my wife's fidelity? What would I say to her if the test confirmed my suspicion? How would my marriage survive?
At 4:00 I was sitting in the doctor's office when he walked in results in hand.
"Well what's the verdict?" I asked.
"Well I have good news for you, you won't have to pay child support, you are not the father of the children." The doctor said.
"Thank you doctor." I said.
I acted relieved, but in truth I was heartbroken. I thanked the doctor once again for his efforts, took the test results and headed back to my hotel.
Two days later I returned home, but I stopped off to meet with a lawyer first.
"So, what may I do for you Mr. Evans?" The lawyer asked.
"I've decided to divorce my wife, I need some no fault divorce papers." I said.
"Okay, what kind of division of assets are you looking to get?" The lawyer asked.
"Her parents gave us the house so she can keep it, but I paid for the three cars and most of the home electronics so I would like those. As for financial I make 60% of our combined income and she makes 40% so I'd like 60% of the current financial holdings." I said.
"Any children?" The lawyer asked.
"Three sons, and she is to get custody." I said.
In less than an hour I had divorce papers in my hand and headed home. I put the test results and the divorce papers in my briefcase before entering the house.
Julie and the kids were happy to see me, and I was happy to see them, even though I was about to turn their world upside down.
I had decided to wait until the boys were in bed before I talked to Julie. No need destroying their lives until I'd heard her explanation.
"Julie, can we sit and talk for a little while?" I asked.
"Sure honey, what's on your mind?" Julie asked.
"Well, there's no easy way to say this, so I'll just let you read it for yourself." I said.
I pulled the divorce papers out of my briefcase and pushed them across the table to Julie. She picked them up and began reading them. It took her a little while to realize what they were.
"John, I don't understand, why do you want a divorce? I haven't seen any signs that you were unhappy with our marriage." Julie said.
"I was very happy with our marriage up until very recently." I said.
"John, this doesn't make any sense, what happened to make you unhappy?" Julie asked.
"This." I said.
I pulled the test results and the report that I had gotten from the doctor that spelled out in very definite terms that I was not the biological father of any of our sons.
Julie looked at the test results, but science never has been her strong suit so they meant little to her, but the report however brought her to tears. I watched her sob silently for a few minutes.
"Right now I don't care who and I don't care why, the only question I have Julie is did you know that they weren't mine?" I asked.
"No, I'd never had them tested. I had suspicions because of how they look, but no matter what these tests say you are their father John." Julie said.
I didn't respond, I simply got up from the table, walked out of the house and drove to my brother's house on the other side of town.
"John, you look like hell, what are you doing here?" Matt asked.
"I need a place to stay for a couple of days, Julie and I might be getting divorced." I said.
"That's terrible, what happened?" Matt asked.
"I don't want to talk about it. Can I stay here for a little while?" I asked.
"Sure man, no problem." Matt said.
For the next few days I kept my cell phone turned off, I didn't answer my phone at work, I didn't open any of the countless emails that Julie sent me, and if I saw her approaching I ducked out of sight to avoid talking to her.
Finally on Saturday morning she cornered me. She woke me up in my brother's house, and I found myself handcuffed to the headboard.
"You had better let me loose right now." I said.
"No John, not until you hear what I have to say." Julie said.
"I don't want to hear it Julie. You've been lying to me for at least 9 years, I don't give a damn what you have to say about it now." I said.
"Well that's tough; you don't have much choice but to listen right now." Julie said.
"Oh no? We'll just see about that." I said.
I'm a pretty strong guy and that headboard was pretty cheaply made so I yanked as hard as I could against the handcuffs and the piece of wood holding me to the bed splintered and I was loose.
Julie was quite stunned and she looked as if she was afraid that I was going to hurt her.
"Now, are you going to give me the key, or do I have to go use the bolt cutters in Matt's garage?" I asked.
"You win John, here's the key. I left the papers at home, I'll sign them and drop them off here later. I just thought that we had loved each other enough for you to let me explain." Julie said.
She began crying into her hands. I unlocked the handcuffs and was about to walk out the door when I looked over my shoulder at her, shook my head, and closed my eyes as I would probably regret what I was about to do.
"Okay Julie, if you want to explain, I'll let you explain, but not just to me." I said.
"Not the boys, they're too young to understand." Julie said.
"No, not the boys, but our families. My parents, your parents, and our brothers and sisters. If you want to explain it to me, you've got to explain it to all of them at the same time. Or do they already know?" I asked.
"Nobody knows John, nobody." Julie said.
"So should I start making calls or do you not want that kind of audience?" I asked.
"John, what I have to say is for you alone. I'd rather not have to tell everyone else." Julie said.
"Then goodbye Julie." I said.