Some people might think that NI (Natural Insemination) is a lusty way for a man to get sex. It can be, but if done correctly it is actually a reliable delivery method for the sperm into the woman. Some prefer the deliver to be at a doctor's office with the doctor placing the sperm at the cervix and getting you pregnant. Others try it themselves with various methods (turkey basters, etc.). NI is starting to gain popularity among women who want a more relaxed, natural way to conceive rather than at a doctor's office.
I'm a firm believer in NI and my husband and I have been involved in natural donations to lesbian couple. Yes, it did involve sex but it was not a sex orgy, but a wonderful experience to watch. This couple was desperate for children and had tried the medical route several times, but it just didn't work. They then decided to go at it themselves to save on the cost and had tried inseminating using the old fashioned turkey baster using donated sperm from a male, gay friend. This again didn't work and they began to wonder what else they could do.
They began doing research and began to come to the realization that good old fashioned sexual intercourse with a man would probably be the way to go. It offered the highest chance to become pregnant, especially if done during the fertile week. The research indicated that some woman chose their most fertile day and had sex. Others had sex twice. The method with the best results, according to their research, of having intercourse four times during the fertile week.
They finally decided to choose to have intercourse four times during her fertile week. Through lesbian websites on how to get pregnant, they found that the best way (if you just had to use NI) was for the couple to make love beforehand to get the "juices" flowing before introducing the man who would enter the woman and ejaculate, but do little else. It sounded easy enough for them and they decided to do it. But the problem now where to find a willing man.
That's where we came in. We had met them socially a few years back and found that they like to do some of the same activities that we did. But we eventually lost contact when they moved to a different part of town. We met again by accident at an event and we went out to eat with them afterwards. We talked about everything and they soon let it slip that what they were planning. I was taken back a bit since I had never heard of this.
Sure, I knew some women purposely on "accident" got pregnant now and then when they wanted a baby and were single, but to be so bold as to do what they were planning floored me.
Now, before I go on, I want to say that my husband and I are no prudes. I'm in my middle 50's and my husband is 15 years younger than me. We have been married 8-years and have never been happier. We have also experimented ourselves, now and then, with other partners (with the full consent of each other). I wouldn't call ourselves swingers or that we have a truly open marriage, but we aren't opposed to experimenting.
So that being said, I was still floored that they would even consider this. I asked them about how they would find a man, how would they know his medical background, what if he turned out to be a weirdo who wanted access to the child later on? I didn't mean to spray water on their plan, and when I saw their faces start to droop, I apologized and tried to be positive about it. My only warning to them was to be careful and chose carefully.
We continued talking about other things and then just before we left, one of the women said jokingly (though I know today it wasn't a joke) what if my husband could be the donor. We laughed about and went home. On the way home I asked my husband (in a half way joke) what he thought about being a donor. He laughed and said that he would love to do it to help them out. That was the beginning of baby Jonathan.
We kept in contact with the lesbian couple and went out a few more times with them. On the third outing during a quiet spell, I asked them how things were going with their search. They looked down hearted and said that it seems impossible to find anyone. I then saw one of the women shed a single tear and I told her I was sorry for bring this up. They said it has been hard for them since making the decision to go this way. They both were upset that all the other preferred methods didn't work and that this last, best opportunity wasn't going anywhere.
My heart was breaking for them which is what made me blurt out that perhaps my husband would be willing to be the donor. That took them back and I could see their minds calculating the offer. They asked me several times if I was serious, and hating to speak for my husband, I went out on the limb and told them that I was. They began to chat excitedly with each other and then to me. They asked me a million questions about my husband's background and health. I assured them that he was very healthy and didn't have any family history of medical problems (well his mother did have very bad bunions on her feet). I told them that my husband could also undergo a complete medical to their satisfaction.
I then looked over at my husband who was by the pond of the Japanese garden examining the architecture and its general appearance and felt a twinge of guilt that I was in the middle of negotiating his genetic future. Well, I assured myself, he won't mind. I finally got around asking the couple which of them was the one wanting to get pregnant and one of them blushed and said it was her. They actually both were fairly good looking and either could have been the one ready to carry a child.
I told them that we all needed to go home and think this out and we agreed to meet the next day for coffee to discuss the matter again, if we still wanted to go through with it. I called for my husband, who came trotting over, and I held his hand and we all continued walking through the garden.
We all first sat down and discussed ground rules. There would be no kissing, no oral sex, no fondling. That would be done by the couple themself. This couple was not swingers, so were not used to the idea of being watched during sex.