Barb, my wife of ten years was waiting for me when I got home from work on Wednesday evening. She asked me to sit down at the table because we needed to talk. Oh shit! That was the start of many bad talks from what I had read. She then went on to say that she was sure that I knew she loved me and that she would never do anything to damage our marriage. This did not sound good so I looked at her and said "But"
She took a deep breath. I knew this was going to be bad.
From now on I will put Barb's word in italics print and mine in bold.
Like I said, I love you and want to grow old with you, but I have decided that I want to take a lover.
I hadn't seen that coming and to put it mildly, and I didn't like it at all.
So, let me get this straight. You love me, you don't want to damage our relationship, but you want to fuck somebody else.
That is putting it rather crudely. I have met someone that I want to have sex with. It would just be an occasional thing and I will always be upfront with you about this. I know that I love you enough for this to happen without interfering with how I feel about you. If you love me as much as you say you do, you will let me do this because I feel that I need to do this.
Well I don't understand why you think you need to do this, and I can't imagine how you could even say that it would not affect us. Have you and your lover already made plans?
We are tentatively planning on going away for the weekend next weekend.
I have a question for you and please try to be truthful. How would you react if I made such a proposal to you?
I could see the wheels turning and I knew she would not give me a truthful answer, because she would have gone through the roof at the mere suggestion of me doing something like that.
I think I would be OK with it if you assured me that you would not let it affect us.
Bullshit, you know full well that you would have gone ballistic at any mention of such a thing.
I really didn't expect you to get angry with me. I thought that you would love me enough to let me do something that meant this much.
Well, whatever you were smoking is definitely illegal. Did you think I would just tell you it was OK to go fuck this guy? I suppose you expect me to sit home and wait for you while you spend the weekend fucking him?
Maybe, I didn't think everything through too well.
Ya think!!!
Yes, I didn't stop to consider a few things.
Like maybe my feelings? If I say no to this are you going to go through with it or not?
I don't know, I didn't really think you would refuse me.
You didn't really think things through too well. I'll tell you what. Give me a few days to think about this. We can sit down Sunday afternoon and discuss this after I have had some time to think about it. You kind of shocked me tonight.
I went to our bedroom and began moving my things to the guest room.
What are you doing?
I don't really want to sleep in the same bed with you when you are obviously thinking more about someone else than you are me.
I slammed the door after I was in the guest room. I didn't sleep much but I did come up with a game plan. I also came to the conclusion that if she went through with this we were finished. The next day I left the house a the usual time, but I never spoke a word to Barb. I called work and said that I needed the next two days for personal reasons. Then I went to work.
I bought three voice activated recorders. I put one close to the phone, one in the bedroom, and one in her car. I also found a phone tap recorder to tie into our phones and installed that. The next stop was the cell phone provider. Since my name was on her phone, I had no problem getting a copy of her phone charges. Then while she was still at work I checked into her email accounts. She had opened one which I didn't know about, but the password was easy. I found a treasure trove there. At least I found at that she hadn't fucked him yet. I set it up to forward any emails on that account to me without showing that it was doing it.
The last thing for the day was a pair of GPS locators. These were quite small and easy to hide. I was going to put one in her billfold because she would surely keep her cash and credit cards with her. The other would go in her car.
I had had a busy day but had things lined up to be able to know what was going on with her. The only other thing I needed in that respect was to get her cell phone and see what messages might be on there. I hoped to do that in the evening as well as plant the GPS devices. I checked her emails and found that she and Frank Jones had exchanged several emails. Frank Jones was a co-worker and I planned to shit on his life like he did mine. The emails made it plain that the next weekend was a go. What I said would make no difference.
Friday I went to a highly recommended divorce lawyer. I told him to begin to set things in motion for a divorce with adultery as the cause. Frank Jones was listed as the man and I wanted to sue him. My lawyer said that would be easy if I had the proof. I showed him all the emails, phone records, and told him I would soon have audio tapes as well. He was pleased and said he would begin things immediately.
When Barb came home that evening I ignored her and didn't even speak to her. When she was making supper I walked out and went to a bar to eat and have a few beers. When I arrived home she stood up and began to talk to me. I just walked past her, went into the guest room, and slammed the door.
The only chance she had of saving our marriage was to cancel her plans with Frank, but I didn't think that was going to happen. I ignored her the rest of the weekend until Sunday afternoon. I told her that it was time to talk and we took seats in the kitchen. I went first.
You might have surmised that I am not at all happy with your request. I have given it a lot of thought and can think of no way that I can be OK with this. You said that this would not affect our marriage, but as you can tell it has already had a very bad effect on it.
Well, I can see that you are very angry. If you had looked at it from my point of view you might have been a little more receptive.
I did try to look at it from your perspective, but I have seen no way any good could come from this. So my answer has to be no.
How could you be so selfish if you love me.
I am the selfish one! It seems to me that your desire to fuck someone else is the most selfish thing I have ever heard.
What happens if I do this anyway?
There will be some serious consequences for any sex outside of our marriage. We took the same vows ten years ago and they said that we were to be exclusive.
I know that, but this is just something that I have to do.
Well, I guess this discussion is over. You really need to think about this.
I got up and walked out of the house. I took my laptop to a WIFI spot and began watching their emails. She was very angry and assured him that she was going no matter what. He told her that was good because he had already reserved room 125 at the Hilton in Kansas City for Friday and Saturday nights. I immediately reserved that room for Thursday night. They were making this way to easy. They were also planning a romantic date on Saturday evening. They were going for a nice dinner, some dancing, then hot sex. Barb told him that she bought some sexy new underwear just for their date.
I got something to eat while I was watching them correspond. They were past my refusal and on to making plans for their weekend. Check in time was 3:00 so he was going to pick her up at 1:00 since it was a two hour drive and they could be there as early as possible. I was surprised that he was going to pick her up at the house. I was going to have to see what I wanted to do there.
I reserved a room for the weekend also. It was close enough to theirs to pick up all the signals. I got all the things I needed the next few days. I got a couple small, fiber optic, HD video cameras. I planned on mounting them in the room on Thursday so I would be all ready to record their weekend tryst. This would be perfect ammunition to go with my divorce filing.
I totally ignored her the entire time but Wednesday was the day of final reckoning for her. I would give her one last chance. If she chose Frank we were done. I asked her to sit at the table so we could talk for a minute. She didn't look happy but she did. I began.
Have you given any more thought to this?
I have and I still want to do it.