In the beginning of 2021, Maggie and I had been married for 30 years. It had been the best thirty years of my life and, I believe, the same for Maggie. We met in university at lunch in the student union when I was a twenty-year-old second-year student and Maggie was a third-year student. Something clicked and we blew off the afternoon at a local pub for a couple of pints while we tried to understand what it was.
We discussed just about every topic we could, school, family, history, religion, politics and several more before we hit on what it was, sex. We were both enamored by sexual activity. I was pretty much a rank amateur while Maggie exhibited a depth of knowledge and experience that I could only wish for. I decided that afternoon that I had to get to know Maggie better. Much better.
I have no idea what Maggie saw in me that afternoon and I have not asked. Once discovered, Maggie, and eventually I, had a long and detailed conversation about sex including a number of specific examples from either anecdotal stories or personal experience. We ended up in Maggie's small flat to test the compatibility of our likes and dislikes relative to sex and went to dinner that night together. We have been inseparable ever since and were married two years later.
Our interest in sex has continued unabated since then. In the early years, we experimented and learned through experience. The experimentation dwindled over time as our imaginations waned but one thing remained constant, frequency.
For twenty-five years we had some kind of sexual interaction every day usually more than once a day. We never had children but it was not from lack of opportunity. After the first year of marriage, we abandoned the use of condoms and other methods of birth control and, either from luck or happenstance, Maggie never became pregnant. We were not disappointed. We are both realists, we had each other and we had each other often.
Eventually, Maggie endured menopause and about five years ago she began to lose her ability to have frequent sex. Together, we fought the changes that haunted Maggie and her ability to keep up with our aggressive sexual schedule. Eventually, there was not enough lubricant for her to avoid the pain and damage that accompanied vigorous sexual activity. Maggie was constantly apologizing for her discomfort assuring me that her ardor for sex had not diminished, only her ability to endure the consequences. Our frequency decreased to less than once a day, a program she insisted on to satisfy my undiminished desire for sex.
That was the situation in the late spring of last year that led Maggie to initiate a serious conversation. After an elaborate Sunday evening dinner that included candles and wine, Maggie sat down on the sofa with me in the sitting room, both of us with the remnants of the wine. 'Brian,' she said. 'We need to talk.'
Now, for most men, That is not a comfortable opening to a conversation with their wife. I perked up, prepared to listen. 'Okay,' I responded.
'Brian,' Maggie repeated. 'I am really concerned with the state of our sexual activity. Our frequency has diminished to less than once a day and It is all my fault.'
'Maggie,' I interrupted. 'No one is at fault, certainly not you,' I insisted. 'Diminished sexual activity is a natural consequence of ageing. We are still having sex orders of magnitude more often than others our age.'
'We are not others,' Maggie countered. 'Your sex drive is as strong as it ever was and so is mine. The only problem is physical and all of It is because of me.'
I started to say something but Maggie held up her hand to warn me against speaking. 'I am uncomfortable with being the reason you do not have the quality and quantity of sex you want and deserve. Actually, I am uncomfortable to the point of guilt.'
'Maggie,' I said when she paused. 'You do not have anything to feel guilty about, especially our sexual activity. I am not unhappy about our frequency or the quality of our sex.'
'I appreciate your willingness to accept a situation completely of my doing. It is possible my concern for your satisfaction is misplaced but my guilt is not. It is real and I believe, insist, that we do something about it,' Maggie stated. 'We need help.'
In that moment, I took her statement to mean help as in therapy. 'What help are you considering?' I asked.
'I have a number of thoughts on the subject,' Maggie told me. 'Let me work on it and I will get back to you in a day or two.'
I was content to leave it at that. After all, Maggie insisted that it was her problem and her solution.
I got home from work just before five pm on Tuesday, June 21st. Maggie was waiting for me with a tall margarita, no salt, and a home cooked Tex-Mex meal. We sat on the sofa in the sitting room with fresh drinks after the meal. 'Brian,' she said. 'Were you aware that today is a special day?'
'Nothing comes to mind,' I answered.
'Today is the first day of summer,' Maggie informed me. 'I think we should celebrate somehow.'
'I do not recall ever celebrating the summer solstice before,' I commented.
'No time like the present to start,' Maggie smiled. She looked at her watch, paused and continued, 'I have a gift for you.'
Before I could respond, the doorbell rang. 'Let me get it,' said Maggie as she stood up and headed for the front door. I heard indistinct voices at the front door. Apparently, Maggie was greeting someone she knew. A few minutes later, Maggie returned to the sitting room. Another woman followed her.
'Brian,' Maggie said. 'This is Loren.'
Loren was a forty something woman who looked thirty. She had short blonde hair, casually combed, a teal blouse and an above the knee flared skirt. Her blouse was open to several inches below her neck and did little to hide the unusually large cleavage between her massive breasts. Her smile was as large as her breasts.
'Hi Loren,' I said. I turned to Maggie. 'What brings Loren to our humble abode?'
'Loren is your gift,' informed Maggie.
I took a moment to process her statement. Several options presented themselves but one stood out and I was not comfortable with it. 'Loren,' I said. 'Please excuse us. Maggie and I need to talk with each other for a moment.'
I led Maggie back into the kitchen. 'Okay, Maggie,' I said. 'What is the deal with Loren?'
'Remember when we talked a couple of days ago,' she stated. 'When I said we needed help? Well, Loren is the help.'
My discomfort was not misplaced. 'And just how can Loren help?' I asked uneasy about her possible answer.