My husband and I have been in the swinging lifestyle a relatively short time. We are also different in that we play separately and not as a couple. We like to pick our own people, try our own experiences, then share and explore things we have never thought to try through our long term marriage. Our already great sex life has gone to levels we never thought imaginable as we try new things and open are minds to new possibilities. The key was learning to let go and feel sexually uninhibited, as you smile and put your arms straight out and fall backwards into a pool!
I had been in the lifestyle a whopping four months and felt like I had lived a whirlwind lifetime! I was the proverbial kid in a candy store and since I was a single female on a swingers web site. I had no idea the response I would get. I saw myself as a middle aged woman and did not think of myself as sexy. I thought my e-mail would display the sound of crickets chirping. I wrote my profile based on who I am, warts and all, and had never read other profiles so what I wrote was unique and true of myself. I have long since lost track of the body count but I can say I went in with no expectations than one time hook-ups and no repeats. I just wanted to try every man I could. I even ventured into menage territory but discovered it was really not for me. I learned at that time to let go of fantasies and experience realities. Fantasies are never as good as the real thing!
A male friend invited me to a house party and I was nervous. He knew some of the people there but I did not know anyone. Thankfully I am outgoing by nature and have confidence so I decided that if I did not know anyone I needed to meet everyone. The party was a small group but everyone there was beautiful and fabulous. I thought for sure I would not be in their league but they treated me as though I was a long time friend. In fact, I have maintained friendships since that party that are wonderful!
I was not sure how I would do at a house party, and definitely did not see myself as an orgy person. I never had fantasized about having an orgy and I was just getting to a point where I was comfortable being naked, but that was just with one man at a time. The party was thrown in honor of a couple who had traveled from wine country to stay with a married couple. The husband I could tell liked me from the beginning, but he was never overt, flirty, or in my face. Yet their was a palpable chemical attraction.