I met my wife in a way that was pretty common in my era. I was walking across campus at the University of Colorado in February and noticed a girl with a very cute smile walking in the other direction. Only her face was visible in the hooded parka but one glance was enough to pique my interest. I watched for her in subsequent days as I headed for that class and spotted her on two or three occasions. My initial impressions were confirmed. Without the parka hood her blonde hair and pretty face hinted she was one of Colorado's finest. As we were walking in opposite directions and I didn't know where she was coming from or going to, there was no obvious way to meet her without attempting to introduce myself. For all I knew she was married, but she was worth an attempt.
"Can I buy you a hot chocolate or coffee?" I offered one day.
She politely thanked me, and said, "No I'm headed to class."
"Maybe another time." she offered as she continued on her way.
About two months later she tapped me on the arm at the student union and said, "Can I swap that coffee for a Coke?" Fortunately she was not married or dating seriously and after visiting an hour consented to a first date two weeks hence. No cell phones in the early 1980's, no tweeting, no texting, no Facebook, we actually got to know each other by going out and hanging out together. Without her parka, the rest of Julie lived up to the high standards of her face and hair. She was 5'7" tall and I guessed 120 pounds. She was strong and lean but feminine. With Swedish and Norwegian parents, she was quite a sight. I was surprised she wasn't taken as she certainly attracted everyone's attention. At the time I would've described her breasts as more than a mouthful but slightly less than a handful but then again I'm 6'3" with good size hands. As I subsequently learned, she nicely filled out a 34B, bra and did wonders for a size 6 dress, or skirt and blouse, or shorts or pants or anything else she wore.
Julie was a sophomore and I was a senior. We were both busy with school but managed to see each other a few times a week. This was 1980s style dating where good girls took their time getting to know young men and it wasn't uncommon to have a few dates before that first kiss and a few more before "making out". The following fall when I was in grad school and Julie was a junior we were exclusive and enjoyed each other but at Julie's insistence we were not sexually active. The following year as I was finishing my MBA and Julie was nearing graduation, I had met the family and proven my serious interest and Julie finally surrendered her resistance. Perhaps it was a good thing. I might never have gotten out of bed to study had Julie accommodated my male desires sooner.
To her parents displeasure we lived together the following year but I softened the family's disappointment with a Christmas engagement and June wedding. I felt stunningly lucky and looked forward to a future shared with Julie. Our relationship was fantastic and the sex was good. Don't misunderstand - Julie was gorgeous - model quality - and we were very much in love - but she remained, even after marriage, somewhat reserved when it came to sex. There was love but not much lust, there was intimacy but not hot fucking.
Julie's conservative upbringing stifled her spontaneity and her enthusiasm for anything nontraditional. Julie wasn't a prude, unbeknownst to her mother who blamed me for taking her virginity, she had lost it as a freshman with the help of several margaritas at a sorority party and she had a three-month relationship end abruptly as a sophomore after she accommodated her suitor's desires only to be quickly dumped after his conquest was completed. Between her mother's influence and some bad experiences, Julie struggled with letting go and enjoying sex.
Early in the marriage we were anxious to get our careers established and wanted to postpone having children. This meant birth control and Julie was afraid of birth control pills which left us using a host of alternative methods none of which enhance spontaneity and all of which dampened both the romance and lustfulness.
After a few years we've decided it was time to start a family and for 7 months sex was much more fun. That was followed by a year of various tests and doctor visits as we explored the reasons why two otherwise healthy young folks couldn't conceive. The next two years sex became more of a job and mission - careful attention to timing, temperatures, pills, and ultimately doctors' visits and shots. So much for jumping Julie in the kitchen, taking her from behind over the back of the couch, or a quickie in the car. Even the seldom offered blow jobs were postponed in the interest of "enhancing sperm volume".
Gifts of sexy lingerie and clothes from Valentines, anniversaries and birthdays, accumulated in the bottom drawer. Sex toys and tasteful pornography were tolerated on special occasions. I was understanding but definitely disappointed.
With the help of doctors, we were ultimately
blessed with beautiful twin daughters - and life was good but extremely tiring and demanding with little time or energy for bedroom antics. We settled into a once a week routine about 20 years younger than I had anticipated that happening. At least the birth control and fertility issues were behind us as we were content with the existing family and Julie heeded the doctor's advice about not having any more kids and had her tubes tied.
Fall 2001 was life-changing for Julie. First she had a cancer scare which fortunately was a false alarm, then her 39th birthday which coupled with the girls turning 13 - now teenagers, signaled that time marches on. Then, most devastating, her mother was killed in an auto accident at age 63, just months after she retired from teaching. Julie took it very hard and there was a gloom in the house for several months.
Then one Friday evening when returning from work Julie mentioned that the girls were keeping grandpa company for the weekend. She walked out of the bedroom wearing a short skirt that I hadn't seen in probably 15 years, and a very sheer black blouse that had sat in her sexy clothes drawer for years. It probably still had the store tags on it from when I bought it. Under the blouse was a black satiny camisole with the bra and camisole straps providing a sexy tease through the sheer blouse. Julie had a smile on her face and more makeup than she usually wore as she announced we were going to dinner. I started to ask her what was going on but quickly stopped, not wanting to discourage her actions.
It's the sexiest I'd seen Julie look in years and she grinned as I stared at her, obviously pleased with the effect her outfit had on me. As she walked toward me she asked if Frank, her pet name for my cock, and I were ready to take her to dinner.