I should know better. That's not the kind of answer you want to give a wife. It just annoys them.
"Care to elaborate?"
"Well, I think it was very well written, and I think I want to kill the bitch."
Oh damn, I was getting the look! Now, I didn't call her a bitch, and I didn't call anyone she knows a bitch, and I didn't even call any real, living person a bitch. I just called a character in a fictional story a bitch. Nevertheless, I sensed my evening was rapidly circling the drain.
There are different types of behavior that a pissed off, long-time-married wife will display. There is the walking away muttering to herself pissed off. That usually means you've made this mistake before, and you can overcome it if you wait about ten minutes and then go find her to apologize. Then there is the yelling in your face pissed off. That's a tough one. It can mean that you've really stepped in it this time, or it can mean she can't even begin to justify her position and she knows it. Sometimes you need to fight that one out, and sometimes you need to take it down a notch or two and try to have a conversation. Thankfully, I don't get that one very often. Then there is the silent pissed off and that's the one I was getting now. It can mean it's no big deal, or it can mean that winter came early this year.
That's the thing about married couples that have been together for a lot of years. We understand each other well enough, and our problems are seldom new. They tend to carry with them a heavy dose of "Here we go again!", but I quickly realized this one was newer than I originally thought.
We were now empty nesters. Our kids were off at college, our careers were doing well, and we were for the most part alone. Truth be told, that is another case of both good and bad. I was loving the time I got to spend with my wife of twenty-five years, and I loved not having to share her. On the other hand, I needed to step up my game. I didn't have kids running interference for me anymore and I needed to reengage with my bride. I viewed it as a time when I needed to win her back from her role of mother and make her fall in love with me all over again.
I wasn't doing well this night.
She looked back at me. "You know, it's just a story. You don't need to get so worked up about it."
"Oh, sweetheart, it's a lot more than just a story. It's every husband's nightmare."
She was looking confused like she didn't know what to make of that remark.
"Every husband who loves his wife knows he's not good enough for her."
That got me another look, a shake of her head, and her eyes returned to the screen. She thought I was shining her, but I was far from it.
"No, I'm serious. You never hear a husband say, 'Yeah, I know my wife looks like a scarecrow, but I still love her.' Husbands love their wives, and they adore looking at them. Every husband knows his wife is better looking, more desirable, more graceful, funnier, and more adept in every social situation than he is. They know they can't dance, but their wives humor them just so they can get out on the floor and show off a little and we love it! And we love them! But deep in our hearts we know that someday someone who is bigger, stronger, better looking, or just plain richer might come along and turn her head."