"What do you mean you can see the women's point of view?" Jim nearly screeched.
"Well, one night with a famous stud would be one of roughly 3,700 for us right now, and one of almost 20,000 if we live to see our 50th anniversary. That's insignificant, really. And what she said about loving her hubby and family are surely true. So why couldn't a wife enjoy a singular Event like that? It's just one night."
"Famous stud or not, it's still cheating. What happened to 'One and Done' for infidelity? I don't recall us agreeing on
any
exceptions the myriad times we've discussed this."
Jim and Linda were discussing a group conversation he was party to at a conference he had just attended. Several women had claimed they would jump at the opportunity if some famous athlete offered them a lust-filled night, even telling their hubby they'd 'see him tomorrow.'
Linda continued, "I suppose if it was done secretly, that would be cheating. The second example where she told her husband she loved him and would return to him tomorrow seems forgivable to me. The wife would be immensely grateful for his understanding, and she would make it up to him for a long time."
"And exactly how would she do that? I would do exactly what that guy said, and not be there tomorrow. It's also hard to make up for such a betrayal during and after the divorce."
"Divorce?! You'd end a great marriage over a 24-hour once-in-a-lifetime Event? One night would vacate the chance to have that 50-year marriage, growing old together? Why wouldn't you let me have that experience? It would not affect how much I loved you; in fact, I would certainly show you how much I appreciated your acceptance and forgiveness for years to come."
"Interesting word choices: acceptance and forgiveness. You're clearly acknowledging that it's wrong if forgiveness is needed. Acceptance of what exactly? I want to hear your thoughts on what I would be accepting after your
Big Event.
"
Linda paused, realizing this would be a tricky conversation to have without possibly damaging their relationship. "Well, I suppose your acceptance that I went with a different man and had sex is essentially the big one. There would be no love, or affair, just a single break from the marriage, and then it would be over the next day. There would be no chance of it lasting longer than that one night. It would a shock, I admit, but quickly forgotten once I returned and things were normal again."