Below is an abridged series of text messages following the discussions from after week 2.
M: "Glad to share a great night with this very special lady"
A: "Thank you for making me feel sexy for a few hours before I go back to normal me"
M: "That's what this is all about, making you feel confident in who you are. If we can do that it's worth it. Just happy we can talk and share and have fun together. I'm smiling more for sure - it was nice to be having fun sexy kinky conversations with you more and more"
A: "I'm glad we opted to work on our connection. It was what we needed and I think it'll pay off for years to come"
M: "Absolutely. I've always been very compartmentalized so this hasn't been easy for me to say the least. Much easier to close myself off than to take some risks. But I felt like we needed a change as we were moving in directions that weren't great for us and you being more comfortable and open than I was expecting helped so much"
"I've had fun slowly opening up windows into me. This game has helped make it more measured release and a better framework for sharing when we are both ready for it. Like there are some risks in there for sure but they could come up in 1 week, 1 month, or 1 year - it's all up to chance. And that keeps me on edge a bit, but in a good way. Like if I was directing the order of events it would be in a specific sequence but I know in reality it will actually be anything but, so I submitted my cards and now I'm just along for the ride"
"Thank you for making this easy and I love you. I never thought we would get to this place so you are already blowing away my preconceived notions. Kind of the 'I've accepted that we'll have fun but only in a purely vanilla way long ago.' I know you've had father to come than me and I respect you so much. Love you and I hope you have an amazing day."
A: "Thanks for being vulnerable. I've had farther to come just because I've never felt conventionally 'hot'. Part of that is growing up as a woman in the early 2000s when curvy Jessica Simpson was considered a "fatass" and everyone wanted to look like they were Eastern European teenagers with a heroin addiction. I think making being modest and understated kinda my "brand" was my defense against feeling less-than in that environment - but I don't really need those defenses anymore"
M: "You are a beautiful lady. Embrace it."
A: "I love you. Thank you for making me feel like this"
M: "But seriously right now it feels more like the summer when we met. Conversations are more fun, playful, and with us putting in more effort than the last few years and I think we are both enjoying it. Kind of like start of dating again."
"That initial period when txts and conversations could be about getting to know the other person, when and what to share, and playful back and forth more than 100% real life boring stuff."
"For instance I'm actually excitedly looking to see what you say next and riding edge of my seat again. That's not a feeling I've had in a while."
A: "I was thinking the same thing. I loved the exhilaration of trying new things and the confidence that comes from sharing a secret with you."
------------------------------------------------
Week 3 of the game A rolled a 5. This was the first time that M had a card come up.
If we are keeping score it's 2 cards for A, 1 card for M thus far.
The card had a drawing of anal beads that specified they were to be used on A and that M would eat her out at the same time.
A took it in stride and agreed to the suggestion. A was surprised that M had beads already and even more so that they had been his for a while. Given all the heavy Thanksgiving meals we put it off for a bit until we got back on our normal routine. Waiting for the right time vs forcing was a key discussion point for M&A and a healthy communication to have during any anal play. M showed A the beads so she could better understand the device (pretty small) and do her homework.
A few days later, A signaled she was in the right place. A expressed concern about losing focus with oral sex too but M thought it would be a good distraction vs focusing only on her ass, particularly given it was her first time letting M play down there (previous butt plug usage was put in by A and taken out by A).
M sat down on the bed and A climbed on top to make out. Shortly thereafter, M laid fully down and helped slide A further up to where her hands were on the headboard and her pussy was over M's face. M had been pushing the boundaries on cunnilingus for a while but this was the first "facesitting". A seemed a touch surprised but once M signaled he comfortable there A began to get into it.