I really couldn't fully believe it when she actually said she'd do it. I mean, we'd talked about it a lot of times since I first told her about this fantasy I'd been having, and she'd even gotten to the point where she'd told me yes, she'd probably do it under the right circumstances, although I was never really sure if she was serious or just going along with the game to make the fantasy more enjoyable for me. This time though, when she said it, it was with a whole new attitude, like she was really ready to do it. Imagine -- my wife having sex with another man -- and I get to watch, take pictures, film it, and even join in if I want. She actually said yes. Now all we had to do was find the right man.
The ad in the magazine was a start, although she didn't seem to take any of the respondents seriously; maybe just the thought of what kind of guy answers that kind of ad. So I tried another tactic. I asked her to let me know if she ever saw anyone with whom she might consider having sex, you know, just on a purely physical level; anyone she found attractive enough that she'd think about it. She said she would.
Many weeks went by and she never said a word, despite the fact that during our weekend trips around town running errands, window shopping and going out to lunch I figured she must have seen thousands of guys. I know I'd begun to look at guys in a whole new light now, not just noticing the obviously good-looking guys on the street, but trying to picture them having sex with her. I'd see a guy I thought might be a worthy candidate and I'd look at her to see if she was looking at him. Most of the time it didn't seem like she really even noticed them. Anyway, after a while, I decided she'd just been humoring me.
And then when we were at the computer show a few weeks ago, I introduced her to "Bob, from work." That was the first concrete positive response. That evening, she casually mentioned, "You know how you asked me to tell you if I saw some guy I might consider having sex with?"
"Yes, I remember."
"Well, I kind of thought maybe the guy you introduced me to today."
"You mean Bob from work?"
"Yeah, maybe Bob from work. He seemed nice -- and cute."
So there it was -- Bob from work. I could see that. He is a nice guy, not bad looking, friendly. But how do you approach someone with such an idea. That would be a delicate operation, to say the least. Slowly, ideas for how to make this happen began to evolve, and sometimes they consumed my thoughts. I began to plot ways in which I might "accidentally" run into Bob at work and strike up a conversation that might naturally lead to such a revelation as, "...and by the way, you are a candidate for the role of my wife's sex partner in this little film I'm planning and..." Wow! That would be quite a bombshell to throw at someone. No, obviously this must be done more delicately, more subtly than that.
So here's the plan that I came up with ... One of these days, when I was feeling particularly brave about this whole thing, I'd "run into" Bob and I'd start the conversation with something like, "Hey, how's it going? So, did you find anything good at that computer show?" And from there, I'd work the conversation from computers, to photography, to being able to develop pictures at home and..., well, we'd see how it went from there.
More weeks went by, and any time I had an opportunity to be in the area where Bob worked, I just couldn't find the courage to seek him out and get the conversation started. Then, I finally got up the nerve to do it. Heather had been gone for a few weeks, visiting our older kids in Phoenix, I had been without sex for longer than I cared to and I was getting more aware of this each day that went by. So when I found myself once again in the vicinity, I made a deliberate effort to find Bob and test the waters. I caught up with him just heading off to lunch. I strode up and began walking beside him.
"Hey, how's it going? So, did you find anything good at that computer show?"
So far, just as I'd rehearsed it. He talked for a while, telling me of the electronic treasures encountered in the foray into computer land. Then I began to lead the conversation in a different direction, as planned. By now we were outside; we'd ordered some fairly non-threatening items off the lunch truck and sat at one of the outdoor tables under a tree. I was glad he chose one of the small tables; less chance of having to inhibit the conversation if someone joined us.
"I was actually looking for some photo processing stuff. I finally got a good digital camera and I've been playing with some new programs that allow me to do all kinds of fun things with photography. Here, look what I did with a picture of my son (at this point, I'd pull out the distorted image I'd created from a photograph)...
"My wife thinks It's really creepy; she just shakes her head and looks at me like I'm nuts. You met her; I introduced her to you at the show. Here, look what I did with a picture of her." (I took out a picture of her that I especially like -- the one where she's wearing my hat -- and an embossing effect made from the original). "It's pretty amazing, what you can do with these things now. Actually, she's the main reason I wanted to get a digital and some good processing equipment; I love to take pictures of her and for so long there were always some of them I couldn't just take to the drug store for printing. I have this whole roll that I took of her half naked out in the woods and I know I got some really good ones, but I just never found a place to get them printed and it's really frustrating because I can't see them. So as soon as digital cameras were available I started researching them and I finally bought one and now I can do it myself; I can make my own prints and... ummm, this is some pretty personal stuff I got into; I'm sorry; I hope you're not offended."
Bob just looked sort of amused and said, "Not a problem; in fact, I've known a couple of guys who liked to take pictures of their wives and I always wondered how they ever got them developed. It's got to be a whole new world for guys like that, what with digital cameras and computers and all. Actually, I think it's nice when guys are married and still turned on by their wives. I hope I'm as lucky if I ever get married."
"Yeah", I said, "I'm lucky in that respect; I've been fantasizing about her for most of my life."
I told him briefly about how we'd met so many years ago, literally when we were just kids, how we ended up married, and that we'd been married for almost twenty-one years. He seemed rather intrigued by our relationship, especially about how strong my sexual feelings for her still are.
"I've had the most erotic fantasies about her recently, but I'm sure you don't want the details."
"Actually, I'd love to hear the details."
"Well, if you're sure, okay. Anyway, for the past few years I've been developing this fantasy about her having sex with another man while I watch and film the whole thing; does that seem weird?"
"Well, since you ask, yeah, sort of. Why would you want your wife to have sex with another man?"
"I'm not really sure why, but I find the thought of it amazingly erotic."
"Well, okay, if you say so."
"So, the thing is, at first she just sort of shrugged it off when I told her about it, and then she seemed kind of amused by the whole thing. After a while I got her to talk about the idea, but she wasn't really comfortable with the thought of actually doing it. She did say, though, that I could put an ad in one of those swingers' magazines, just to see what would happen. So I did and we got a bunch of responses. She actually thought most of them were kind of silly and she just sort of laughed them off. She didn't really find any of the offers attractive. Then she agreed to let me know if she ever saw anyone she might be willing to have sex with, but she never said anything until the day I introduced her to you."
"Me?" He looked at me with a wary sort of expression, like he thought I might hit him or something.
"Yeah, when we were at that computer show, after I introduced you she told me that she'd consider having sex with you."
"Why?" Now he seemed a little more relaxed, more curious.
"I asked her that and she told me she thought you were really cute and that you seemed very nice. I think she just goes on instinct a lot of the time, not just on stuff like this, but a lot of the time. Wow, this has turned into a pretty weird conversation. Is this making you uncomfortable?"
"Funny thing is, not really; I guess if you were mad about it or something it would, but it's just sort of interesting that you're not." '
"So, what would you say to it?"
"To sleeping with your wife? Are you serious?"