Based upon a true story
We had tried everything. Counselors, sex tapes, a library full of books, a closet full of lingerie and a draw full of toys, nothing helped our sex life. I had no doubt that Eileen loved me. I also had no doubt never given her an orgasm in four years of marriage. The problems had started on our honeymoon and never gotten any better. She was good at blow jobs, even if she would never swallow or even let me come in her mouth. I loved her hand jobs but intercourse with her was like doing it with a rubber woman.
Eileen had not had much sexual experience before she met me. There had been a high school boyfriend who had taken her virginity and a boy in college and that was it. I knew that she was conservative when I was dating her. She had an awful relationship with her mother and she had lost her father when she was fifteen. She had been daddy's little girl and they were the light of each others lives. After he passed away Eileen's home was in constant turmoil. Her mother was a real pip. She criticized Eileen constantly. On the other hand she adored me, a fact that really irritated Eileen.
Her High school boyfriend had offered her a reprieve from her troubled home. He had broken it off with her when he went away to college. I had caught her three years later and she was still on the rebound. She never told me directly but I know that she had been deeply in love with him. She always compared me to him. She didn't tell me in so many words but he had gotten her motor running while I barely got the keys in her ignition.
It wasn't for lack of trying. I took a course in massage. I am an expert at foot rubs. I can preform cunnilingus for hours. I learned to clean the house, do dishes and do the laundry to give her a break and to give her more time to be sexy with me. I may has well have been pounding my head against the wall.
After running through a string of counselors we finally seemed to have found one that worked. Her methods were unorthodox, which is what we needed. She was the first that convinced us that our problems were not insurmountable. Our first session involved a lot of confession. Eileen admitted to the her that I had never gotten her off. I had always known this but it was nice to get it in the open air. After a few counseling sessions Eileen tried initiating sex, something she was loathe to do before. I appreciated this but she still seemed to be going through the motions. The counselor was not afraid to try any approach. We spent hours exchanging sex fantasies. She even had us film ourselves so she could watch our technique.
After a few months the counselor called us into her office and elucidated her findings. To my total lack of surprise she concluded that I was not the problem, despite what Eileen likes to claim. She said that the problem's were almost entirely Eileen's and they came from her hellish home life. Then she laid down the phrase that was to change our lives.
"The problem Eileen is not that James doesn't love you. She certainly does. The problem is that you need a father figure to love you for a while. Your father's sudden death has left your emotionally stunted. You were able to have orgasms with Eddie (her high school flame) because he was several years older and you subconsciously placed him in the paternal role. James is the same age as you, you can not see him as anything more than an equal. A glorified sibling is what you have subconsciously made James . No wonder you don't want to make love to him. In your mind its like fucking your brother."
"What I am about to propose will be difficult for the two of you to accept but I am sure it will resolve virtually all of you sexual issues. Monogamy is a wonderful goal but you two are poster children for the down side of monogamy, a rut you can't escape. However for the two of you there is a way out. Eileen needs an affair with an older man for a few months to a year. The relationship needs to progress from birth to a natural end. You were greatly attracted to your father. You never verbalized this desire but it is written all over your psyche. Compounding this was the fact that you never got a chance to say goodbye to him. Once you have experienced the love of an older man in all aspects you can return your husband's love and you can begin to see James as a sex object."
We were flabbergasted, yet with a great deal of pondering we realized that the counselor was correct. In Eileen's hellish home her father had been her only sanctuary. He had dropped dead of a heart attack while she was a school. Her last words to him after they had had a heart to hear talk about how difficult her mother and his wife was, had been "I love you Daddy."
The counselor seemed to be reading our minds . "I can tell that I have hit very close to home. I will guide you through this process. It is going to be a very hard road, especially for you James, but in the end you will have a marriage that is unbreakable and mutually satisfying sexually. Eileen your frigidity will be a thing of the past. Your husband will be able to bring you to orgasm.
Eileen said, "But I love my husband."
Our councilor replied, "You do love James but, you know full well that he has never satisfied you sexually. An older man can and will bring you something you have not had since you were dating Eddie, an orgasm. Once you have been satisfied sexually and the relationship has lasted a sufficient length of time you will be able to transfer your passion to James and he WILL be able to satisfy you."
Eileen sputtered, "But ... but.."
Doctor Barnes said, "Eileen, I understand your misgivings but you really have only two courses open to you. If you do nothing, you will drive James into an affair which will precipitate your divorce from him. If you pursue the logical course I lay out for you you will save your marriage and make James a very happy man. In your heart you KNOW that I speak the truth."
My wife took a deep breath and said, "This is very heady, can I have some time to think about it?"
"Of course," Dr. Barnes said. "I will schedule you for this same time next week."
The week between our appointment was one of the slowest of my life. Eileen was virtually silent the entire week, lost deep in thought. I tried to make love to her once but she made it clear that was not interested. When at last we returned to Doctor Barnes office she was at last willing to talk.
Doctor Barnes said. "I assume that you two have not had sex this week,"
"How did you know that?" Asked Eileen
"Your psyche is an open book. Now comes the hard parts."
She turned to me and said. "James your time of celibacy starts today. This will be very hard for you. Masturbation is acceptable IF you get permission from me first. Your wife can not see you as a sexual animal. For the next year you are essentially a eunuch. We will begin transferring her passions to you when the time is right. I will be able to tell when that time is. I am also going to require that you hand your wedding and engagement rings over to me"
