I write this at the request of my best friends Jay and Carol. It's a thank you and a constant reminder of the loving ways they have shared themselves with me.
Jay is my best friend, the kind of friend that you only meet once in a lifetime. We met at a social event, a bar, and just connected. It was during a rough time in my life and it was pleasant having a real friend to talk to. I think he was searching too for something more in his life as well, so we just hit it off. We had been friends for a couple of years and there wasn't anything he didn't know about me as I did him. Both married with wonderful wives, he was just a few years older than me. We began to work together on some projects and the need to escape to bars drifted away. We knew each other's kids and their successes and their problems. It was just a great relationship that had grown between two men.
I was having some real problems at home with my wife and always used Jay as my sounding board. He was a very good listener. I suspected my wife, Vicky, was having an affair since she showed no desirers for me intimately. I hadn't any proof, but couldn't understand her lack of interest in me. After months of agony with this, Jay encouraged me to discuss it with Vicky. I did, the wrong way of course, but no real answers were forthcoming. Several months passed by, I now slept on the couch full time. I had no desire to be next to a woman in bed that didn't desire me intimately.
Jay advised me that either a divorce was coming or I had to accept the ways things were. I tried talking with Vicky again, this time not from a "your fault" attitude. I had decided I would release her to have her affair as long as we continued our life together. I wanted her to enjoy an intimate relationship, something I hadn't known in months. She insisted she had never nor would she ever have an affair. I was blown away with that, why did she not wish to be intimate with me? What had changed that she didn't desire me? I would be willing to do anything to regain that desire from her.
And then finally, she told me it was her. Sex really hurt her, the pain was increasingly progressive each time and she had lost any desire for sex. As I began to get into the specifics with her, she said any penetration was painful; my size had nothing to do with it. She could still handle the oral stimulation and it's orgasm, but anything inside of her brought immediate pain.
Months passed by, trips to doctors offered little help. She had a nerve disorder and the only treatment was a numbing gel application. Unfortunately the numbing gel numbed more than just her vagina, it numbed me. Even if I wore a condom, what was the point? It was just me getting off; she received no pleasure or feeling from my actions. And then there was always the time when the cream wore of and she could feel the pain from being stretched earlier. It was definitely back to square one.
I moved into the guest room so I could try and put separation between us at night and remove the possibilities of intimacy. Months went by and I realized I had to accept Vicky for what she brought to the marriage and somehow had to make sure she didn't feel the guilt of removing intimacy between us. Jay encouraged me and provided a good support for me. Carol knew of our struggles as well, we were that close. She assumed Vicky would offer me oral stimulation or even anal intercourse, but Vicky was not into either. Vicky would have been devastated if she knew the Jay and Carol knew about our sex lives. Carol suggested that she talk with Vicky about offering herself to me in those ways so as to give me some intimacy with her, I declined knowing Vicky's distaste for either.
As months turned into years, I was torn between having secret affairs or remain without. I chose affairs, yet found them totally lacking. The sex might be great, but the other needs an ongoing relationship required were beyond my control. After several failed attempts, trying to find an ongoing affair appeared out of reason. I just could not offer anything other a "booty call" approach and that wasn't going to work for any women I met. I didn't want to continue the search anymore or the efforts involved in pursuit of a lover. There were months on end that it was my priority in life to find that women, so much time wasted.
Through out these years, Jay had remained my friend and regardless of my good or poor decisions, he was there for me. He understood my reluctance to search for lovers. We even visited a few massage parlors together to enjoy "womanly pleasures", but that was not at all desirable. Jay didn't understand at first why a pretty, young whore couldn't satisfy my needs. It was hard to relate to him it was about mutual desire. Although these young ladies were quite capable of providing any and all requests, it was still just a one-sided thing. I'm not sure he understood, but Carol did. Back to square one again for the third time.
Several months passed by and Jay knew I was sinking into a self pity thing. We tried some hobbies together, but at every turn there was this sexual urge building in me and he knew it. I tried desperately to stay busy and not put myself in situations where I found a lady with possibilities. It was a very difficult year.
One Saturday afternoon, I was having lunch with Jay and he proposed a very awkward offer to me. He said that he had been talking with Carol for several months about me and his desire that she offer herself to me sexually. Although Carol understood her husband's request, she just couldn't do that. I knew Carol had never been with another man before she met Jay, or at least that was his understanding of this. Over time and I'm sure lots of prodding from Jay, Carol agreed to try it if I would be interested. Jay and Carol were older than me. I was 52, Jay was 62, and Carol was 61.
I thought at first Jay was just having one of those kinky ideas, so I said of course not. Thanks but not thanks. He seemed hurt and asked if Carol was just tool old are just not appealing to me. I then realized he was serious and told him Carol was my friend, she was very desirable, but she was also my best friend's wife. He said nothing for a few minutes and then just looked at me and said then "enjoy her as I do then". Tears came to my eyes and I just sunk into my seat. We didn't say anything for several minutes and the he sat straight up and said think about it my friend and let him know.
We had a twenty minute drive back to his house to get my car and we didn't say a word to each other. We pulled into his drive and turned to me and said thanks for a good lunch. As he began to get out of the car I asked him to sit back down and let's talk. I told him his offer was unbelievable, if both of them were ok with it, I definitely was. Jay smiled at me and said he wanted me to thank Carol myself if I would. She was inside and knew Jay was going to offer her to me. I went inside, Carol greeted me with a tremendous hug and I was crying in her arms. It was an incredible day in my life. I had never felt more loved by two people. And then I left.
The next week, Jay and I hadn't said anything more of the proposal. Part of me wanted it so bad, but part of me said this might really put their marriage at risk. Why should I do that? Finally, by Friday Jay asked me when I wanted to be with Carol. I immediately asked him if he was sure about this. He said anything he had is mine; he only had to wait for Carol to agree. I was overcome again with pride for my friend and his offer. It's ironic, he has this feminine persona and I'm more the alpha male, but I felt truly humble by all of this. I asked him if it would be ok if I met with Carol and just talked with her about what was to come. He said fine, but she was ready when I needed her. I met her the next day since she was off work and we had lunch together. Carol was school teacher and this was going to be her last year of teaching before she retired.
Carol and I met Saturday for lunch, bad idea since football season was in full blast, the restaurant was a very busy and loud place. We ate and then met up at the park nearby to talk uninterrupted. It was nice fall day; the weather was perfect for sitting and talking. I had several things to talk with her about; of course the main thing was she ready for this. She assured me she was, it was just something she thought she could provide for me and she was positive Jay wanted this.
As I felt more comfortable with Carol's acceptance, I began to ask her some more personal questions. I wanted to know how she enjoyed be made love to, did she enjoy oral sex, did she have any limits for me? My questions must have caught her off guard; she blushed and said she was not sure how she wanted to be made love to. She said she would do what I wanted to do. I picked up on her being more submissive than I had expected. So, I didn't push anymore. I assured her I would never do anything to her to disrespect her or Jay.
I asked her where she'd like to meet with me for our "date". She said she assumed it would be at her house, she really didn't want to meet me at a motel or something like that. I asked her when she had a few hours to be with me to let me know. She was a little nervous and said a few hours? She had thought I'd come by for a few minutes and then leave. I told her I wanted some extra time our first time together so we could go slowly and feel at ease. She understood and said she thought she could the next weekend if I liked. She would call me next week and we'd go from there.