Consequence of Breaching a Partnership
Life With My Wife Begins
It wasn't supposed to end this way. I first met Amy at a pub across the street from our county courthouse. It was just past five and the courthouse had emptied. I saw the pub and thought I might run into some acquaintances and catch up. I did not immediately see anyone I knew, and so looked toward the bar. You all know the situation. The bar was packed several drinkers deep. I was unsuccessfully trying to gain the attention of one of the severs when a girl sitting at one of the bar stools waved for me to come to her using her arms to push her friends apart so that I could get next to her. I said girl, but I should have said woman, because this girl was packing a holster with a Glock 19 on her hip and the usual other police paraphernalia.
As good looking and frightening as she was, she got the attention of one of the servers. I ordered an IPA draft.
"I saw you in the courthouse. I assume that you are another one of them lawyers that frequent that building."
It was hard to hear in the noise and so I brought my face close to hers so that we could talk. "Not really my bailiwick. My work is different and specialized. But I was here today to take care of a problem for one of the local non-profits. My
pro bono
punishment for being a lawyer."
She smiled. "So what is your specialized work?"
"It is very hush hush and something that I can only discuss over a dinner date with a beautiful woman."
"So I will never know?"
"Depends. Are you finished for the day and volunteer to be the beautiful woman date over dinner?"
"My, are we being rather presumptuous and rather forward. I don't even know your name, you don't know mine, and you are asking me for a date. You might be a predator who is already attached."
"We can exchange names once we get to know each other better. But I am totally unattached, and what I see is a beautiful woman who seems to be unattached and packing a Gen 3 Glock 19. So I know that you can protect me if I take you out."
"You know your guns."
"Yes, although I usually deal with some bigger equipment. So how about we leave here and talk about guns, and maybe at the end we can exchange names?'
She looked directly at my eyes, thinking. She then stood up, turned to her friends and announced that she was taking leave. "Sure Amy and have fun" one of the other law enforcement guys said while quickly taking out his phone and taking my picture.
I actually surprised myself by how forward I was. I am not good or bad looking, just average type. I like the opposite sex, but, unfortunately, I am not successful in maintaining any relationships. Girls, and then women, seemed unattainable. I worked through college and law school and I studied hard. I never had the time and money to do a spring break or go skiing during Christmas holidays. With little free time and lacking hotness, dates were few, and usually terminated with a chaste kiss without any suggestion of another one. Even now that I was a lawyer, I still had little time and had only a few relationships, all of which foundered by my girlfriend deciding to leave. I did not grieve because I did not feel totally comfortable with any of the women with whom I had spent time. The only women who seemed interested in me recently were those that seemed to more interested in a meal ticket than me. My perception was that women tended to gravitate to guys that were handsomer or bigger or more exciting than I was. My work was sophisticated and challenging but was not something that would chat about during cocktails. I have started to both fear and be wary of women., which resulted in a predestined spiral of anxieties which made relationships impossible. Yet here I was flirting, without any misgivings or fear or anxieties, with an armed woman cop surrounded by armed men. Why did I do what I did, and why was I not at all fearful or anxious?
We left the pub and I offered Amy a choice of places. She chose a steak place which was close enough that we could walk. We started exchanging some information about each other. Amy was county law enforcement and was working for her detective badge. She had her share of working long hours including working nights. But she loved her work and was making a difference.
She then asked what kind of legal work I did.
"I work for a law firm that has different groups." I then looked at her and smilingly said "If you heard of the military industrial complex, it is me. I guide clients in penetrating the Pentagon, dealing with Congress to support appropriations, handling liability issues, and even patent disputes. But it is all tied to weapon sales."
We continued talking during dinner, and I found that we had many common interests and similar views. One difference was that she was very local and had never travelled out of the country, while I had done a fair bit of world travel. The dinner was wonderful, but then Amy needed to get home because tomorrow was another working day. "Can I call you? Perhaps we can go out again," I asked, fearing the worst.
"Give me your phone." She then entered her coordinates. "I will be working stake out this weekend, but then Monday on I should hopefully be OK."
I did call her on Monday. "Hi Amy, this is Michael."
"Michael who?" she answered. It then dawned on me that Amy had given her coordinates to me without ever having asked my name. I hoped that it portended something positive.
"I am the dufus that did not properly introduce himself to you last time and is begging to be allowed an opportunity to rectify that error." She agreed to go out, and I picked her up at her apartment. Amy wore a simple sundress, but one that displayed her beautiful legs and showed just enough cleavage to make it entice. We had a pleasant dinner, which was long and quiet since it was a Monday. Afterwards we went for a walk around the local park. By the end of that second date, I wanted her to be the one. I asked and she accepted another date. I earned only a brief kiss on the lips as I dropped her off at home, but I was satisfied.
We did go out on the third date, this time to a play by a local theater group. This led to a series of more dates as we continued to progress our relationship. We both had difficult schedules between the unpredictability of her police work and my business travels and other obligations. But we started to spend all of our common free time together. We did everything from picnics to hiking to kayaking to enjoying the music at a local brew pub while sipping our beers and talking.
Amy had come from what I would call a broken family. Both her father and mother had affairs, with both claiming to be revenge for the other's cheating. But they continued to live together in a pretended happy marriage. Neither of her parents could kick the other out of the house, and neither could afford to move out, and so they continued their marriage. Amy seemed ambivalent about her parent's apparent open marriage. She did not condemn but, instead, worked to get away as soon as she could. Starting in her early teens, Amy had taken every job from baby-sitting to being a waitress to working at a store to both have her freedom and get out of the house. She did stay at home until she had finished her law enforcement associate degree at a local community college, and then immediately leased an apartment as soon as she became a cop. She might not have had the education that I had, but she was bright and soaked up whatever new knowledge came her way. She was intrigued that I had scored a semester-abroad at the prestigious Sorbonne University in Paris and spoke French fluently. She would drop French phrases, such as
je t'aime tellement
and