We had always been totally honest with each other, but now something had changed. I had no proof of course, but it's a feeling you get when someone you know well is no being totally honest with you. Over the next 6 months, there were more and more instances of unexplained events. Her denials and short temper with me got worse.
I spoke with both our parents. They had no advice that guided me. After 11 months I was at my wits end. It was bad enough that our parents saw her treatment of me and suggested I take the girls and move out. I didn't like the thoughts I had, but I so dearly loved the woman I married, I had to know. I had saved nearly $12k in my 10 year anniversary account. It was going to be a surprise, but I wasn't sure we would make it to 10 years now.
It was an uphill battle, but with the help of our parents, without whom I wouldn't have made it this far, some very close friends, some expert help and more than just a few 'over exaggerations', I was able to help things along enough, that my $12,000 covered the expenses for the extensive report that I had sitting in front of me.
I sat at the head of our dining room table. My parents were to my left. Sandy's parents were to my right. The girls were with my older sister, Evie, and her 3 children. Evie had volunteered to keep them overnight if needed. We had sent Sandy shopping with her sister-in-law, Dawn. The four parents looked toward me in expectation, while I downed the first alcoholic drink I had since our wedding.
I felt the burn all the way to my stomach and waited for it to settle. Yes, I was stalling because I knew what that report would tell me. It would tell me that my marriage, and my life as I knew it was over. Gone. All the hopes and dreams Sandy and I shared would never come to fruition.
I couldn't put it off any longer. Picking up the knife, I sliced the envelope open, allowing the pages to slide to the table. I only read the cover page, and there were the words I dreaded...
"Early on-set dementia"