People wonder generally why cheaters cheat, how cheating is distinct from regular sex, and what cheaters really get out of it. Firstly, knowing other cheaters, I know that everyone does it for different reasons, and everyone gets something different out of it. A large number of the men who cheat on their wives with me really need a therapist and not a lover. I think its true that in general the act of sex, no matter how many variations we add to it, is essentially the same, but the emotional and lets say spiritual quality of sex is quite different from person to person. Sex with my husband is of the highest spiritual quality, and really gives a transcendent aspect to our lives that is impossible to recreate. It has a category all its own, which I enjoy as often as I can (which is to say, whenever he is around). I consider sex with my husband to be something categorically different than the sex I have with other people. However, I will never feel unsafe around my husband. The sort of primal danger and intensity of sex with an unknown person that makes it incredibly exciting in a very specific way is something I can only get while cheating. This is not the only type of feeling I get while cheating, and as I mentioned in another recollection of mine, sex is a very unique way to know someone's true nature.
This story however is about that type of encounter, that feeling of primal danger, the horny anxiety. The feeling of being confronted by a truly horny man.
Truly horny men, I find, are a rarity in life. Most men who spend their time thinking about sex, masturbating, fantasizing, and chasing women aren't what I would call truly horny. The easiest way to find out is to give them what they are asking for, and see how all the braggadocio disappears once you're both in private and its time to deliver. I cannot say how many of my hookups end in premature ejaculation, nervous rambling about feeling guilty, and flustered explanations about how "this never happens" to them. Over the years I've gotten much better at knowing who is talking a big game and who can really handle themselves. Call it cheating expertise.
This story comes from early in my cheating career, when I wasn't so savvy as to figuring out who is who. I encountered a truly horny man, without knowing what I was getting into. It was years back, and I had decided to go visit a friend in the Caribbean, who had moved there with her husband some time ago. My husband was working as always, and my mother in law had taken the kids up to her house, meaning I had a week by myself. As I was packing, I thought about what to bring with me, and a couple of scandalous bikinis ended up in the suitcase. I had been cheating for about six months at this point, and I knew how to attract attention if I wanted it.
I landed in the early afternoon of a breezy and warm Caribbean day, and found a cab to the hotel, it was an all inclusive resort, which I chose since it was the safest and closest place to my friends house. Normally, I would stay over with her, but her in laws were visiting and her place was getting crowded. I got to the resort and made it to my room. It would be a few hours before my friend arrived so I decided to unpack and tour the grounds. Like any all inclusive resort, it had made it as easy as possible to get a drink no matter the hour, but I just wanted to get a view of the sea first. As I got closer, I noticed there was a hot tub obscured by some bushes and my mind wandered to the idea of who I might meet there in the evening, but then a group of kids came running by and I banished the thought. I saw the swim up bar had the best view of the beach before the beach itself, and I made a note to enjoy a mimosa there at some point. I kept on my tour and found the gym, which was on the second floor of the main building and had a deck for yoga. Perfect. I decided to go back to my room, get dressed for yoga, do a quick session, and shower before my friend arrives.
I went back to the room and felt the cool air-conditioning wash away the sticky Caribbean heat, and I felt my nipples stiffen. I went over to the mirror and began removing my travel outfit. As I took off my tank top and jeans, I noticed my 32 year old body in the mirror, and I admit to being proud of my efforts. My brunette hair and blue eyes, my flat tummy, my perky tight ass, my wide hips and tiny waist all gave me the confidence I needed to wear one of those skimpy bikinis later. But once I removed my bra (an indescribable relief after the plane and heat) and my 34DD breasts came into view with their hard nipples, I knew I needed to rock this body I worked so hard for on the beach. They looked especially big on my 5'2" petite frame. I examined my sideboob, and back boob to make sure they still looked perky from each angle, and having become fully arrogant, I put on my yoga outfit. My yoga pants struggled to get over the top of my asscheeks, and I did the little pants dance that I always do when dressing in something tight. I pulled a sports bra over my tits and looked at myself one more time before heading out.
The gym was more or less abandoned when I walked in, which made sense since the resort was primarily old people and young families. There was one old guy using a weight machine in the corner directly under the AC. I felt him watching me as I crossed the room to the balcony, where I found a space to start doing my yoga. I warmed up as I always do, touching my toes, side bending, doing my wrist extensions, planking out, etc. It was when I hit my first downward dog pose that I felt something. A sort of tension had entered my mind, greater than suspicion, but less than fear. I looked over my shoulder and saw that the old guy was standing right behind me, staring at my ass in the air.
Now this isn't a new phenomenon, and any woman that does yoga will tell you it comes with the territory, but this old man's gaze wasn't the usual playful boyish naughtiness that I usually encounter. There was something serious about it, something intentional and natural to it, like he had been doing it all his life, and was somehow optimized for it. I stood up and waited for him to say something corny to cut the tension like "what a great view they have here" or something but he didn't. He didn't look away for even a second. I decided that it was too early in the day to deal with this and I left. I had done most of my session anyway.
In the shower in my room I thought about what had happened. He didn't present as a threatening person when I first saw him sitting on the weight machine, in fact, I sort of looked right past him. He was tall, (but I think most people are tall), had a typical older man body (thin but wiry arms, bit of a pot beer belly, normal legs), and somewhat curly gray hair above a pinkish red face with a small pointed nose. In his gray t-shirt, gym shorts, and white tennis shoes (of course) he looked as typical as you could imagine. The look he gave me though, dismantled my dismissal of him instantly, and now he was solidly on my mind. He looked at me like a lion looks at a gazelle from the bush, pitiless and hungry. I shuddered a little as I finished drying my hair, and thought about how much more aware I needed to be in life in general. My friend texted me that she was in the lobby, and I grabbed my key card to leave. While putting it in my pocket, I realized, that unbeknownst to me until that very moment, my panties were wet.
The evening at my friends place was as good as I was hoping. I met her in laws who were all very polite people. Her husband grilled up some fish with lemon. The wine flowed and my friend and I laughed about silly things from the past. A good evening without a doubt, but a shadow remained in the back of my head that never quite left me alone. Some sort of foreboding was building up in my mind, and it took a lot of laughing and wine to dull it to a low rumble, like knowing that a big storm is coming and you can't do anything but wait for it. My friend finally said something on the drive back to the hotel:
"You doing ok? You seem a little tense."
"Yeah its just the plane I think, and the humidity. I'm fine"
I made it back to my room and again the air-conditioning stiffened my nipples. I gave a glance over at my suitcase and thought about going to the hot tub, but some ominous feeling made me rethink it. As I got undressed and into my pajamas, I saw my body in the mirror again and thought, "what happened to all your confidence? you've been a hot girl all your life, get over this." I regained some of my calm after reasoning through it, but I still crawled under my covers and went to sleep without a hot tub visit.
The next morning my friend came over to the hotel early. Her kids were with her husband and we were planning on spending the whole day together enjoying the resort. The knock came at the door and snapped me out of a half slumber. I shuffled over to let her in without a sound. She came through the door with far too much energy for the hour and remarked immediately, "whew you keep it cold in here!" which was true. I had the AC going at its highest setting, so I could enjoy a reprieve from the outside whenever I came back.
My friend brought a bag with the various outfits we would need to enjoy the day, but was wearing a pink two piece bikini with jean shorts and a white mesh cover up. Typical mom stuff. I was wondering if I should match her style when she suggested that we start with some yoga, which she explained she hadn't really done since moving to the Caribbean. I said yes before I could stop myself and she was pleased. She quickly stripped out of her clothes, revealing her naked body as she fumbled for her yoga outfit in her bag. She was taller than me (but most people are), and had her blonde hair in a messy ponytail, big mom sunglasses perched on the top of her head. Her tits where ample but not large, ending in flat stumpy nipples. Her hips had very pronounced dips in the side, which I always found attractive in women, and her ass was big and round, with fine little hairs standing on goosebumps in the cold air. She had a bit of a tummy, and thick thighs that I immediately imagined crushing her skinny husband's head. She broke my trance with a question:
"Do you think I can pull this off?" she asked, holding up a blue two piece bikini with white lace edging.
"Yes of course you can," I replied with honesty.
I got naked and started in on choosing a yoga outfit. I selected something a little less tight today, and finished it with a baggy t-shirt, to which my friend commented, "aren't you going to be too hot on the balcony?" Realizing that I was acting strange, I replied:
"yeah you're right," and took the t-shirt off. I was left with a grey sports bra and matching yoga pants. Even though they were not riding deep up my ass crack, the yoga pants still made it evident that I had a perky little ass. My friend's yoga outfit was similar and we headed up to the gym, her chattering and me not.
Each step that brought us closer increased my anxiety a little bit more, and when we entered the gym to find only two other moms running on the treadmills, I breathed easy. The session was mostly a refresher course for my friend, and we finished in good spirits.
Next on the list was to hit the beach, which I was very ready for. My friend took the lead with her pink bikini from before, and I wore a turquoise bikini, that was a half size too small, so a little extra boob was peaking out from behind the triangles of my top. The bottoms were cheeky without being a thong, riding up my asscrack just a bit. We found a spot in the first row of beach chairs and laid out in the sun. I turned over onto my stomach, and it wasn't long before I was having a little nap.
It couldn't have been more than twenty minutes later when I woke up to find that my friend wasn't there. Her book and hat were still on her chair so I figured she ran to the restroom. I propped myself up on my elbows and looked towards the resort, and I spotted her talking to a staff member who was writing what she said down.
"Oh good, a mimosa would be great right now," I thought as I turned over to my back.
Once I'd turned over, I noticed the old man from before, further down the beach, standing next to some people, and looking over at me. I felt that twinge of fear again, and I guessed he must have been looking at my ass while I was asleep. I start to get a little anxious as he noticed me noticing him. The old woman sitting next to him motioned to him, and he sat down next to her turning his back to me. Not a minute later some kids arrived and sat with them. I instantly felt relief at this sight. This wasn't some scary guy, it was a grandfather on vacation with his wife and grandkids. What was I so worried about before? I felt absolutely silly for having let such a casual, harmless thing rule my mind for as long as it did. The anxiety melted away right as my friend arrived with drinks in hand.
"You look much better. That nap did great for you," she smiled and passed me the cold plastic champagne flute.
"It sure did," I smiled back.