My name is Ted Parsons and the story I'm about to tell you is going to be hard to believe. I lived it and I'm still shaking my head. It all started with a reasonable request, but what actually is reasonable? I suppose for some it would be others not so much. Before I tell you what the request was, so you can make your own judgment, I will give you the back story.
I have lived all my life in a small Midwestern town. I met my best friend Alvin or Al in kindergarten. Our dads both worked at the mill. They were friends, our families were friends and so we were friends. The Mill was our town's lifeblood for the last 127 years. Owned and operated by the same family. It was a wool mill and had made many things over the years. A few of the things we've made and continue to make are blankets for the army, sweaters, and socks. No big sole source deals, no contracts with vultures like Walmart. The owners kept the equipment current and the production as flexible as possible. A few things were constant, the owners were great employers, the workers were great employees and the farmers who supplied the wool were all local. Wars had come and gone. the Depression, recessions, booms, and busts but the mill never faltered. There were tough times, sometimes the farmers bailed out the mill, and sometimes the reverse happened. Some years there were 4-day weeks and some year's bonuses. In all between our families, 72 people had either worked or were still working at the mill. I would be the third generation from my family to work there. Al's family could trace its work there all the way to opening day!
We would have also met our future wives in kindergarten, but our town had more than one elementary school. Thus, we met them in high school. My wife Barb was born on one of those sheep farms. Al's wife Sarah's parents both worked at the mill. It all seemed very natural to me the day I saw Barb was the day I knew we would get married. She admitted to me two years later that she felt the same way. Our relationship progressed from there. We were pretty typical, I guess, high school sweethearts. First kiss with each other, lost our virginity to each other and after high school we got engaged. Al and Sarah took a little longer to get together but they did, and they were also engaged after high school. I must remember to mention that Barb and Sarah had been friends since they met in grade one.
Barb still looks as great today as she did then. Dark brown hair, brown eyes, nice B cup handfuls up front, and curves in all the right places. Sarah had blonde hair, now it's dirty blonde, and blue eyes. She has more than a handful up front and has more curves in all the right places than Barb if you know what I mean. They both have aged but Barb looks as good to me today as she did then. I know Al felt the same about Sarah.
Al and I were both hired at the mill after high school graduation. Al married Sarah a year later and I married Barb the year after that. Best man and maid of honor respectively at the weddings. Kids followed two for Barb and I and three for Al and Sarah. We had a boy and a girl and they had 2 boys and a girl. We did life together for 38 years! Obviously, we were "uncle" and "aunt" to their kids and vice versa. We vacationed together at the lake in the cottage we co-owned. Our oldest son Mark married Al and Sarah's daughter Sue. When Barb needed a kidney Sarah was a match and gladly donated one of hers. When Al was injured, I took care of things at his house for him until he was well. Babysat for one another, the list could go on and on. We were the best of friends and life was good. Life was very good.
Then came the day when Al was killed in a car accident. Not much of an accident really, the kid driving the car that hit Al was texting on his phone. The idiot was not paying attention to the road and killed my best friend. All of us were devastated. Clearly, Sarah was hit the hardest, but we all suffered. Yet we pulled together as the one big family, that we were. After Al died the kids and grandkids made sure Sarah was busy on the weekends and after school. We had her over every Wednesday night for dinner. Sarah also joined us once or twice a month to go out to the movies or a restaurant.
Time marched on and soon two years had passed. Barb had tried to get Sarah to date but Sarah wasn't interested. Sarah did admit to Barb on occasion however that she did miss the physical contact that Al used to provide. This is when my story begins, when Sarah asked Barb what she believed was a reasonable request.
The next part was related to me by my wife.
One day as they were having coffee after shopping downtown Sarah asked Barb the question that would dramatically alter our lives, not that we knew it at the time.
"Barb, we have been friends pretty much our whole lives. I would do anything for you, I even gave you my kidney. We have shared cars, a cottage, kids, and almost everything that two people could share. Now I have been thinking about this a lot and what is the one thing we have never shared?"
Barb started to think hard about Sarah's question. They had shared clothes, recipes, secrets, so many things that she couldn't even think of something they had never shared.
Sarah interpreted the silence to mean that Barb was stumped.
"Barb, we have never shared our husbands."
It hit Barb like a lightning bolt! She was flabbergasted, what was Sarah getting at? Was she having an affair with her husband all these years and she was going to confess? Did Al and her have a secret swinger sex life? Did Sarah want to sleep with my husband? She tried to avoid the inevitable by saying nothing, but her head was spinning. Then it came to her,
"That's not really true Sarah, we have shared life together, for example, remember when Al was injured and Ted was always over doing what Al normally did? It was like we were sharing a husband then."
"True enough Barb but I was talking about intimately."
Barb didn't like where this was going. Barb and I had a great marriage based on trust, respect, and love. We didn't express our love in a sexual way as much as we used to but when we did it was still great. From everything Sarah had told Barb Sarah and Al's marriage had been the same. They were all lifelong friends and had shared almost everything but where this was heading seemed like too much.
"Barb, I have been thinking about this a lot. So much I finally had to ask you what I think given all of our history and friendship is a reasonable request. I would like to share your husband in an intimate way. I am not sure about the details, but I would like to have intimacy, but I don't want a stranger. I have known Ted as long as I have known Al and, well, it makes sense to me. You guys have a very strong marriage and doing this favor for me will not change a thing. I don't want to take your husband, no way! I love you too much to do that to you. We are like sisters, and I could never do anything to hurt you. However, I would like to ask this one thing, and given all we have done for one another in the past I think it is a reasonable request."
Wow thought Barb. She has a pretty good argument from a friendship and history point of view. If she just wanted a platonic date night with Ted, I am pretty sure I would agree right now but intimacy? Wow.
"Sarah, I do love you like a sister; you are my best friend after Ted, and I understand what you are asking but I need time to process this and talk to Ted."
Sarah could accept that and then did her best to make the rest of their time together that day as "normal" as usual.
Barb spent the rest of the day wrestling with the word reasonable.
That was a Thursday and Barb hadn't spoken to me yet by the next dinner with Sarah on the following Wednesday. Things were a little tense around the table. There was a tension in the air that had almost never happened between us. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore,
"What is going on with you two? Did you have a disagreement, because something is off?"
I said my piece and Barb couldn't meet Sarah or my eyes. While she looked down Sarah looked at me,
"She hasn't spoken to you, has she?
"About what?"
"About my reasonable request."
As she said it Sarah did the air quotes motion with her hands.
The tension was thick as neither of them would tell me what it was. Sarah cracked first,
"I asked to borrow you once a month."
"For what? I already am over at your house helping out when you need it and so are all of the kids."
The words exploded from Barb's mouth,
"She means SEX, she wants you to have sex with her."
I was astounded.
Sarah quickly started selling her idea, all of their history, their sharing and caring. Barb joined her in explaining how this all was rational. After what seemed like hours, I finally put a stop to it.
"Let me get this straight. Sarah thinks that it is reasonable for me to sleep with her once a month. Barb, you agree that it is reasonable but have reservations, the most obvious being to not hurt our marriage. So, if this can be all done, and we act like nothing different is happening it is a good idea?"
Silence. My speech was inquisitive, but my tone was angry, and they were afraid.
"I'm going to assume your silence means that you agree and want to start this plan of sharing. Well, I got news for you I AM PISSED OFF! I. believe our vows mean something. I believe this will wreck our marriage. I don't want to have sex with anyone but you Barb! You both have gone insane, good night!"
I went to bed. Barb joined me at some point, and they left it alone for a week. Then two. but I will admit I couldn't stop thinking about it. The word reasonable never seemed to leave my conscious mind. After three weeks they brought it up again at Wednesday supper. It was Barb who spoke first,
"Ted, I know you like I know myself. You have been thinking about this since we brought it up. Have you decided if Sarah's request is reasonable?"
She or they had certainly put a pile of effort into starting with that question. She knew me too well,
"Yes, as a request from a friend for life who saved my wife with a kidney donation it is reasonable. However, I don't know if I can do it. I'm sure you are going to ask me that next and I will give you my answer in one more week."