When Molly and I got married 18 years ago we were in our early 30's, my new father-in-law, Dan, was getting ready to retire at 65 and his wife, Ellen, was 62. They were charming, intelligent, and always interested in a good meal. I liked them a lot.
Over one of our dinners out, I asked Dan to tell me about his career.
"You know, Dennis," he began, "if I had to describe my career in Southwest Allied it would be that I was lucky. Very lucky."
"Oh, Dan, that's not true," Ellen said. "You deserve all your success." She looked at him with the light of longtime love in her eyes. The waiter came and poured us more wine- my second, Molly's second, Ellen's third, and nothing for Dan, who was on the wagon that month.
Dan rolled his eyes, but affectionately- he had heard this before from her.
"Sure, okay, but let me tell Dennis, okay?
"I was in the service for a few years, then I got a job as a parking lot attendant so I would have time to study, and I went to junior college on the GI Bill. When I graduated, I landed a job as a 'Chemistry Assistant' at Southwest Allied."
I smiled at the mid-century reference. "What kind of a job was that?"
"We're a mining company, Dennis, and you can't put too fine a point on that. It's hard work on a hard canvas. My job was to help in the assay lab, a sprawling facility that constantly measured the purity of each batch of coal, uranium, and oil we produced. I liked it, but I was no better at the work than the other Chemistry Assistants.
"Ellen, who is the love of my life, was young, shy, and as beautiful as you can imagine." I felt Molly's foot nudge my calf- she was always a sucker for a romantic story. "She had to get a job in an office in town, but even with that we were barely scraping by those first years, so we postponed trying for a baby.
"Then after I had been an Assistant for several years, luck intervened. Bad luck for John Albright, one of our chemists, a nice guy who died on the lab floor from a massive stroke. We were all in shock until after his funeral, when the company announced they would recruit for his position from inside the company instead of from the general public. All of us assistants applied, of course - it would be a real step up, with more than thirty percent more pay. We were all interviewed by a three-person team led by Andy Ehrlich, the vice-president in charge of our division.
"A few days after they finished the interviews, they announced that I got the job. No one was more surprised than I was. Ellen was jubilant at my luck and the substantial pay raise, and she insisted we set to work- pleasant work, I might add- that very night to have Molly." He smiled affectionately at Molly, who returned it in kind.
Molly was listening more intently now. "Daddy, you never told me this story," she said.
"No, I guess not. Maybe I'm getting nostalgic in my old age. Nine months later we had you, Molly.
"Anyway, I put in several years as a Chemist, still without a four-year college degree, and I got to be pretty good at the job. Once I remember Mr. Ehrlich telling me that I was doing a good job, and he had no regrets about promoting me. That was great to hear, but he was my boss' boss' boss, so his good opinion of me didn't really translate day-to-day onto my job."
"Dan, if you're going to tell Molly and Dennis your story, don't be coy," Ellen said. She turned to us and said, "He was the best employee in the company."
Dan grimaced and shook his head. "You see what I have to put up with, Molly," he said in mock irritation.
"So I kept at it and when a Technical Assistant Manager position opened up- basically a low-level manager who had to deal with issues from our lab, among others- I applied. There were several other chemists who applied, along with several people from other divisions which would report to whomever was hired. All of them were senior to me. We were interviewed, I did my best to show my understanding of the job, which was very limited, and then two days later they made the announcement: I got the promotion.
"I went to work to be the best Technical Assistant I could be. Some of it was hard for me because of my limited education in both the sciences and administration, but I tried my best. Some days I came home feeling like I was in way over my head.
"A few years later, the same thing happened again: a promotion became available, I applied, my luck held and I got the job. There was some grumbling from those who were passed over, and some...rude things were said, but I tried to ignore it all and went to work doing the best I could.