It was a nine hour drive to Lake Tahoe and my buddy and I spent most of the time on the way just shooting the breeze about nearly everything. We talked about his job, my job, friends we both know, sports--of course, and even got a little into some politics. Luckily, we were on the same side of center and agreed on most issues, but around Santa Barbara we began to open up about our marriages. He was divorced and talked some about the night he discovered his wife had a friend on the side. They tried to work it out, but once he found he couldn't trust her, things really fell apart quickly. He maintained that he may not be able to trust another woman, ever.
He asked about Claire and I, and how we'd been able to stick together for a whole decade. I said it was because of trust and he scoffed. I said we had opened up our marriage, and he wanted to know what that meant, so I said it was that we tried not to limit the other person. We tried to not to put conditions on our love.
Then he asked me how I would handle it if I found out she had a "Friend With Benefits." I told him that she and I had talked about that very thing and both of us agreed that we forthright about our feelings. I said neither of us had ever had a "intimate friend" at the time, but if it did happen it would not be the thing that ended our marriage. "If Claire has a friend who she wants to be sexual with," I said, "I hope I have the strength of character to live up to my own ideals and accept it. I hope to God she will feel able to be honest and tell me."
Jake looked at me and frowned, asking if I was bullshitting him. "Could you, no shit, really handle her having a lover?" he asked
"I really believe I could," I said as we passed through San Luis Obispo. "If she had fun with someone, I would be a real dick to deny her that pleasure, don't you think? I would hope I could be happy for her that she had a good time. It wouldn't be fair," I went on, "to keep her from having fun simply because I couldn't handle her having it with someone else. If I felt so insecure that I'd resent her having a good time with someone else, wouldn't that be pretty selfish?"
"You mean if she wants to fuck someone, you think she should? You feel it would be selfish to deny her of sexual pleasure, or any pleasure?" he asked, making a face, struggling to understand. I said that was exactly how I felt.
"We both do," I said. "We've talked about it a lot. Doesn't it make sense?" I asked.
He shook his head, shrugged, then laughed, saying maybe he wasn't tolerant enough after all. "So if I told you I've always thought Claire is hot, sexier than fuck, and I've wanted to bed your wife for years, you wouldn't mind?"
"I'd respect your honesty," I said. It gave me satisfaction to be able to tell him just how I felt about such a personal issue of intimacy. "Most of my friends, I'm pretty sure, actually do want to fuck Claire. So if you said you do, too, I figure you're telling the truth."
"But you wouldn't mind?" he repeated as we pulled into a gas stop near Paso Robles.
"I'd be pleased, actually," I said, "because she is hot. She is one sexy woman, and she does enjoy sex. Maybe I'm crazy, but this is really how I feel."
"Well, you can be happy then, because I really have wanted to fuck your wife for years," he said. "Can I say it that way, 'fuck your wife?'" I nodded and smiled as we passed empty California countryside.
"If you ever do," I said, "it will be up to her, not me. If you 'fuck my wife', I hope you both enjoy the sex," I added truthfully. "I really do."
"I don't see how it would be that easy for you," he said. We both were quiet for a few miles, then he said, "Why don't we give it a test. I really do like your wife, so if I get her to want to go to bed with me you could handle that?" I nodded and said I could. "Well, that would really confirm you are sincere," he said. "So you won't mind if I try?" I told him to go ahead and said, "If you want me to, I'll tell her about your interest."
"No," he said. "I'd rather do it myself." We laughed at the sound of that, like the three-year-old who refuses help.
We agreed that he would try to sleep with her, and if she wanted to fuck him, ever, it would be fine. "Try away," I said. "Would you like me to talk you up, you know, make you sound intriguing?" He shook his head. "So you want to just do it all yourself?"
"I want to be intriguing on my own," he said with a grin.
"I'll tell you at the end of this trip what strategy I'll use," he added. "I really want you to know," he said, "I'm not screwing with you. I really do have the hots for your wife."
"Good luck," I said and put out my hand. We actually shook hands over him trying to have sex with my wife as we past Kings City. As I looked out the window, I remembered a time we were in the middle of a slow and tender session of lovemaking when I assured her she didn't have to be limited to just sex with me.
"What a strange thing to say while fucking me," she said in her straight to the point approach to life. I stopped moving in and out of her, but kept my erection buried deep in her.
"I just want you to know I love you enough not to put demands on you," I said.
"You love me enough to let me fuck other men?" she chuckled.
"Exactly."
Our trip went well, we caught a lot of fish, and enjoyed the paddling, and as we drove home I asked if he'd come to a decision about how he'd like to handle things regarding Claire. "I would like to come to your house a lot," he said, "over the next few months, be around her regularly, and if we hit it off I'll ask her how she feels about married women having sex outside of marriage. I'll tell her how I feel and let the chips fall as they may.
"Does she like masculine guys, or studious types, or suave intellectuals?" he asked.
I laughed. "Suave intellectuals. Can't you tell?" He smiled and nodded. "She likes active guys, like you," I said. "She likes to hike, camp, canoe, but she does like men who can think. She's a smart person," I said.
"I know that," he replied. He thought for a while, then asked, "Could I ask her to, you know, go on hikes and things during the day, when you're at work?"
I said her schedule is pretty flexible, so he should feel free to do whatever he felt like doing, whatever he was able to persuade her to do. When we got back home, Jake came to the house with me and stayed for dinner the night we returned. He lives fairly close to us, but she offered to have him stay the night so he wouldn't be getting home at midnight, and he accepted. They were their normally friendly selves together, but not overly so. I watched them together, trying to imagine her with him, wondering how sexually interested she was in him.
"I liked having Jake here tonight," she said as we got ready for bed my first night back. As we made love I thought about him fucking her, and it gave me a charge I hadn't anticipated, thinking about them in bed, picturing him inside her. It even caused me to come quickly in her, picturing them making love, imagining it was his cock moving in and out of her. I realized I often did that, only usually with no one in particular, now I had a specific image and it made it more exciting. Afterward, I wondered if this would amount to anything. I was about to find out if all of my proselytizing against jealousy and possessiveness in marriage was all just a bunch of bullshit or not.
In the course of the next two months, Jake was over to the house maybe fifteen times. He had dinner with us a couple of times a week, went to the lake to waterski at least three times, and even came over to help me on two weekends to build my deck. One Monday she told me Jake had asked her to go hiking with him the following Wednesday while I was at work. He worked out of his home and could rearrange things during the day, so he had lots of free time when people like me were working. Claire usually didn't go in on Wednesday, so she would be available, and I wasn't against it, so they planned their first hike.
On Wednesday night, after we'd gone to bed, we started to make love and I entered her. I like starting slowly, savoring the feeling of being inside her, feeling about as close as I possible. Strangely, perhaps, that is my favorite time to talk to her. "How did you like your hike?" I asked as I held myself still in her. She said she really needed the exercise, that she loved getting out, and that Jake was a great hiking companion. "You like him?" I asked.
She stopped moving her hips and gave me a strange look. "Of course," she said. "Don't you? We've been friends with him since before he and Sue were married." She said it like I should know, of course.
Over the next few weeks they hiked quite a bit, and she became much more demonstrative with Jake, openly showing affection, sometimes clearly flirting, the kind of closeness that comes from a lot of relaxed time together. Finally, he said he was going to ask her to go with him on the weekend over-night camping trip. I told him he should, that she'd like that.
I didn't mind, but I did feel a twinge of uneasiness. It was more like excitement than jealousy. Was I not as secure as I thought? The feeling was strange because during the time before they went I often had masturbation fantasies about the two of them, imagining sexual things between Claire and Jake, brought myself as I pictured them kissing and fucking. I thought about the particulars of what they might do on their two-day backpacking trip. If I knew Jake, and I was sure I did, I knew he'd do all he could to get her to zip their sleeping bags together.
One evening he came to dinner and when he left that night she put her arms around his neck and kissed him as he prepared to leave. It was a much more involved embrace than she'd ever given him before, and it was a clear indication he was winning the engagement. As he walked down the walkway to his car, she watched him all the way. Before he drove away, she waved, like a school girl after a enjoyable date, then she shut the door.
"You and Jake are becoming pretty good friends," I said. "You starting to be sweet on him?" I meant it a lot less confrontational than it came out, but she gave me a look that could kill and called into question all of the lecturing I'd done about the evils of possessiveness in marriage and open relationships.