"Up early?" Ken asks in a slightly groggy voice without even lifting his head, apparently a little surprised that I'm up and moving so early after yesterday's full day in the sun. So, it's fair to say that the two men in my life are obviously a bit different in this too; hubby's feet hit the ground at one hundred percent pretty much every morning, ready to serve, where Ken is a bit slower to get vertical in the morning. With hubby I wake to my coffee already made, where with Ken I'd likely have to make it myself. Now this of course assumes a hubby fully removed from my life, something I however have no intention of ever doing. We're riding this proverbial train to the very end of the tracks together, it's just the specific seating arrangements that's in question these "dysfunctional" days.
So, fair to say that Ken can't be hubby's full-replacement, not happening, and not just because of coffee; but he could take over some of hubby's unfulfilled manly "duties" going forward, and by that I mean well after this little experimental "honeymoon" as well. It's truthfully so much to sort out, but I also realize that I'm not alone in this task, that there are potentially two others involved in this unique adventure with me to help make this happen...
I told Ken that hubby and I text each other in the mornings now, (although not the specific details) and he asks how he's doing, but almost in a "I should really ask" perfunctory way. Now reading into it a bit, (tone-wise) but also bearing in mind that Ken's head is still on his pillow, his tone to me is still ever so slightly dismissive, as in "how's that old dog of yours getting along without you there?" So it's still politely inquiring about hubby, (in a way) but tone-wise also placing him on a lower tier of relevance. It may sound just awful bearing in mind hubby's generous gift to both of us, but this is part of the adult games we play, but in this particular case also for far longer than we've ever played them in the past.
To be perfectly fair, hubby pretty much does this "self-diminishing" thing himself quite adroitly, with both of us lately, so I don't know that this is indicative of any lacking character on Ken's part here; more so he's just playing the proverbial room. But it's also fair to say that the vibe I'm getting is while hubby is actively demoting himself to make room for Ken, Ken himself is feeling a bit more empowered, justified even in taking hubby's rightful place beside me; so perhaps both guys working towards a common goal. I can't say this is necessarily good or bad at this early point, but it's just an honest observation of what I see. Hubby graciously opened the door though, and Ken "came" inside, quite literally by invitation.
...Anyway, I remember reading an article in a psychology magazine once, and the premise was that whether you were talking about a military campaign, or a sports team on the field; at some point the winners realized that they were winning and acted accordingly, while the presumptive losers realized that they were going to lose. Winners act like winners, losers act like losers; so it's not a very deep conclusion, but it's relevant here with the three of us is obvious.
Now to be fair this isn't a real competition, nobody is getting bloodied or bruised, in fact, one of the two competitors has pretty much rolled over on his back and surrendered, without ever firing a shot. Or, perhaps a better metaphor might be he's raised his little pink-pantie flag of surrender, the terms to be determined magnanimously by the victor at some later date...
So I guess it shouldn't really be a big surprise to me that my emasculated and submissive husband might willingly surrender to the apparent better man, but one he also knows won't harm me in the least; so there is a kind of security there. To actually see this husband of mine so easily surrender his masculinity though, to watch it happen in real-time, all while he surely knows this isn't some simple "scratch that itch" weekend fling for us does cause one to have thoughts. "Was hubby happy to be rid of the sexual burden that I was, (perhaps even just temporarily) maybe even willing enough to trade those keys to his dysfunctional man-bits for this, for lack of a better word, freedom?" I asked myself.
Or, was this nothing but selfless love, hubby gifting me to trusted-Ken, perhaps while retaining the privilege of future cohabitation with Ken and I on some lower social status, all in exchange for a life of slavish servitude to the new loving couple? We'd potentially live like husband and wife (Ken and I) less the actual ceremony, and hubby would get to continue to serve me, Ken too in this scenario; and I know how he so likes to serve others, he was practically made for it. He'd be doing what he was undeniably good at, and Ken would be doing what he was good at too, a win-win, at least from my specific point of view.
"I think I'd rather clean the toilets and mop the kitchen floor myself dear" said no wife ever, not while having a stud rock her world was a viable option. Yes I love my husband, but I'm not willing to be "old" yet either; call me greedy on this one subject!
I also logically realize that Ken can't live with his elderly folks forever, (it's not good for him psychologically) so he'd soon need a place to call his own, either one he had to somehow buy himself while being "divorce-poor" once more, or perhaps one we (meaning hubby and I) already owned.
"What would the neighbors think?" I asked myself.
"Or for that matter, where would hubby sleep? Surely not next door in the guest bedroom long-term, listening-in through the thin walls like some kind of perv while Ken and I went at it like horny teenagers," I told myself with a laugh.