The Clitoris and Its Splendor

THE CLITORIS AND ITS SPLENDOR.

Emily started masturbating when her college roommate gave her a book on female sexuality. It suggested using a mirror when you masturbate, so she did. Her first mirror wasn't large enough so she got a bigger mirror. That still wasn't adequate for her liking so she went to the full length mirror on her closet door.

She stretched out on the floor on pillows, turned onto her back and lifted her legs just high enough to be able to see herself clearly. Then she starting working her index finger across her clit. Before she began rubbing her clitoris, she made sure her labia were widely splayed and open so she could clearly see into herself as she masturbated, noting the glistening pinkness and lovely butterfly appearance of a truly beautiful part of her anatomy.

She was fascinated by the look of her sex, enjoying the soft, glistening pinkness and lovely skin of her slit, and she gazed with awe at her own genitalia. The next day she repeated the act, but this time she inserted two fingers and found she really enjoyed the feeling of fullness in her soft canal. After a few minutes she experienced a very satisfying orgasm.

She had never looked at herself before, feeling it was not something "good girls" did, but the reading material her friend had given her encouraged it. In fact, it strongly recommended young girls look at themselves, to get to know their sexual anatomy. It encouraged them to use the mirror, held just below their vagina so they could examine themselves and get to know their sexual anatomy and for each young woman to know what it feels like to touch and pleasure herself.

One day after she had done as the writer had suggested, she asked her friend Julia if she had ever masturbated. "Well, of course," she said. "Doesn't everyone?"

But when she put the same question to another friend, Susan, she recoiled and shook her head. "Of course not," Susan said as if Emily had asked if she stole money from church collection plate. "You think that's immoral?" Emily asked Susan.

"I know it is," she said. "People don't do that."

"Some do," said Emily.

"Only people who are sinners," Susan said, clearly embarrassed by the subject. "The Bible says... " Then she stopped as if she was afraid she'd be asked where it said anything about masturbation in the Bible.

Emily didn't press her, but she was pretty sure the Bible didn't actually say anything about sexually pleasing yourself if you are a woman. After talking with Susan, she went back to read the rest of what the book said Julia had given her. She read the chapter on the clitoris, fascinated by the author saying the clitoris reached all the way from the head or glans clitoris to the opening of the vagina, having nerve endings completely under and around the underside of the vulva. In other words, the sensations the clitoris encountered traveled all the way from the top of the bud to the opening of the genitalia, giving sensations that went completely around the vaginal opening.

Emily was intrigued. She enjoyed masturbating and she clearly was learning about herself and her womanhood. The book told her to "get to know" her clitoris, to examine it, feel it, stimulate it with your middle finger, let someone stimulate it with their tongue. She found the big mirror was great for watching herself masturbate, but it was far too cumbersome for just looking at herself.

She decided to sit at the edge of the bed naked with her legs spread and the hand mirror held between her thighs just inches from her pussy so she could look down and see herself completely. She decided to ask Julia if she ever looked at herself.

"That's what Dr. Johnston said to do in the book I gave you," Julia said.

"Yeah, so do you?" Emily said.

"Sure," she replied. "I know," she added, "let's do it together. Want to? We can compare notes," she said. "I just love to masturbate."

"Me too," Emily said.

So they agreed to get together and explore themselves. Julia had reminded Emily that Dr. Johnston had said in her book, "Go look at your clitoris. Get a friend and do it together. There is nothing weird about it. The weird thing is not to know what a part of your own body looks like."

They both thought that sounded reasonable. Emily was knocking at Julia's door fifteen minutes later. Excitedly they went into Julia's bedroom almost immediately and she handed Emily a mirror and began to undress. "We have to get naked, so get that dress off and find a place to sit."

When Emily was undressed, seated on the edge of the bed with the mirror in one hand and the other bracing herself on the bed, Julia said, "She also says to get to know our labia, major and minor. The majora are the outer ones, the big ones, the manora are inside just below the larger ones." Emily looked down at herself and said, "They really are lovely, aren't they?"

"A work of art," Julia said. "Ask Georgia O'Keeffe. The book also says to get to know other people's, so you can look at mine if you want."

"I'll show you mine if I can look at yours," Emily said laughing.

After viewing one another, they decided they needed a taste, and each of them sampled the other, licking and kissing and sucking the other woman's pussy with glee, until each of them came. They decided they needed to continue that.

"Deal," Julia had replied when asked if she could look at Emily's. "Maybe we should have a viewing party," she said. "Invite a few people and introduce them to the book."

"That'd be fun," Emily said. "You think we could get others to come?"

"No pun intended?" Julia said. "Yes, I think we can. Let's do this so we can help the other women who don't know their own vulvas. We can become pussy experts," she said cheerfully. We could pair people up, each pair getting two mirrors and a book with pictures. We could have a female circle jerk," she said. "We can help them get to know their own pussies, learn to masturbate."

Emily and Julia began planning their viewing party and making a list of women they thought would be interested and would actually attend. At first they had difficulty coming up with names, but then they began thinking about their friends who are more willing to express their interest in sex. Woman who let it be known they like fucking are more likely to attend a viewing party, they reasoned.

Perhaps that should be obvious, and maybe those are the women who need it least, but you can't force people to be well informed. So, they sent out eight invitations for a night of sexual awareness: "Meet Your Vulva At A Watch Party For Women Who Want To Be Enlightened. Get a copy of Dr. Pamala Johnston's Book: The Flower of Fertility.

Seven of the eight women sent back the cards accepting the invitations, leaving three couples and one extra. Julia volunteered to make up the slack by becoming a participant and using a mirror to show her partner her vulva.

They had realized that they needed to invite women who had indicated that they did or had considered masturbating. "We may just have a look-and-masturbate event," Emily said.

"A mutual masturbating meeting," Julia replied.

They bought seven books to give away to each woman participating in the group. When everyone was seated, Emily explained what they would be doing, that it was to familiarize each of them with their own vulva, to encourage them to continue masturbating, and to go over the suggestions of Dr. Johnston of ways to efficiently masturbate.

Julia had made a blowup reproduction of a chart from the book and had it on a display frame at the front of the room with the parts of the vulva labeled. She intended to go over the visual with the group, asking for questions as she referred to the illustration.

"Julia and I invited you here today because we both read Dr. Pamala Johnston's book about female sexuality and taking responsibility for your own pleasure. She encourages women to get to know their vulva and to masturbate to maximize their enjoyment of their own sexual pleasure," she said smiling.

"First, let me ask you, how many of you regularly masturbate?" she asked the group. Five of the women raised their hands. "Okay, let me ask if any of you object to doing it on moral grounds?" No one raised her hand. "Now, is there anyone here today who sometimes finds the need to masturbate more than once a day?" she asked the women.

One woman stood and shook her head. "You've been reading my diary," she said. "Sometimes it drives me crazy. I can't do it enough," she said. Two other women shook their head.

"Sometimes I can't keep my hands off myself," another woman said causing the others to laugh and some to nod, even those who hadn't admitted to regularly masturbating, nodded.

"Let me ask you," Emily said, "have any of you looked at yourself, taken a mirror and examined your vulva up close?"

"You mean our vaginas," one woman asked.

"As you can see in the illustration," and she indicated with a pointer, "the vagina is only the canal just inside your labia, the inside passageway. Your genitalia is overall called the vulva. So here when we say vagina, we only mean the "tunnel" to your cervix. We will examine our own major and minor labia, our clitoris, and the entrance to our vaginas," she said.

"We will examine one another, inspecting with the mirrors each other's pussies," she said. "Dr. Johnston calls it the flower of fertility and likes the term pussy because it describes something soft and lovely and truly important to society's psychological state, that purrs like a kitten. She tries to dispel the negativity so often aimed at a woman's genitals."

Emily asked for questions and one woman asked if Dr. Johnston indicated a healthy number of times you should masturbate. Daily? "Yes, she makes it very clear it is totally an individual decision, but she says you should feel comfortable doing it as much as you need. In other words, as much as you feel like doing it."

Nervous laughter ran through the group and a woman raised her hand. "So, it is not true you will go blind if you do it too much?" she said.

"That's guys," Emily joked.

"That's what my mother told me," the young woman said. "That I'd go blind if I did that too much, and too much was a hazy notion," she added. "I think she felt doing it at all was wrong."

Finally, after a number of similar statements, they had the women undress, pair up, and take a mirror and look at themselves, then share with their partner, each looking at the other and noting the differences. Then Emily went back over the chart and reviewed the parts of the vulva, pointing out the clitoris, the labia, and the vagina.

The women were asked to fill out a questionnaire and write down their impressions, their feelings about their pussies, and how they felt about the visual attractiveness of the female sex organ. After the surveys were turned in, they were shown Dr. Johnston's three recommend techniques for successful masturbation, giving them detailed instructions on how to do each one, even using a dildo.

At the end of the evening, the women drifted out slowly, many lingering and commenting about how much they enjoyed and thought they got out of the session. Julia and Emily held five more forums and were asked by the local college to run sessions on female sexuality each semester entitled: Female Masturbation and the Anatomy of the Vulva.

The college contacted Dr. Pamala Johnston and arranged to have her as a guest speaker in the one semester course. The class is one of the most popular courses on campus and fills up quickly every semester. There is always a waiting list to get in.

Emily and Julia went back to school and got their masters degrees in sex therapy and became part of the credentialed faculty. To take the course you must sign a consent form saying you understand you will be disrobed for part of the class and that masturbation will be included in the activities. The course has been endorsed by the Kinsey Institute and they have designed a similar class for their students at their campus.

To learn about their own bodies seems to be a valuable asset for young women today. Learning how to masturbate, where the clitoris is and how to find it, and getting to know your own anatomy, certainly is beneficial for any woman facing a sexual life and motherhood. Too many of us have to face these elements of life without any help or information.

Please, get to know your own anatomy. Meet your pussy and learn to love it and she will help you enjoy all the loveliness of sexuality. "She" is a beautiful part of you, and you should learn to love her.

Julia and Emily now treat woman who are sexually frustrated and come looking for help. They have become pussy experts and give instructions on how to masturbate, where the clitoris is, and how to enjoy your own genitalia. Their own initial ignorance and interest led them to a life of helping others find sexual fulfillment. Masturbate and take control of your sex life. They guarantee, they say, you will not regret it.