The Somali word for lesbian is Qaniisad, and it's often used as a slur for non-conformist females in Somali culture. I used to get teased by other Somali youths in the City of Ottawa, Ontario, where I grew up. I've always been different from other girls, and words like "tomboy" and "masculine chick" got tossed my way often. In later years, I tried to "normalize" myself but even in a Hijab and long skirt, I am what I am. Mother Nature essentially made me this way, you see.
For the longest time I struggled with my lesbian identity, my Islamic faith and my Somali cultural heritage. Can one be lesbian and a Muslim? Can one be Somali and a queer woman? Ask any Muslim, especially the ones in Canada, and they'll tell you that they consider homosexuality and lesbianism to be western ( read white ) vices, and the type of behaviors that a true Muslim should avoid at all cost. If they only knew...
My name is Manal Barre, and I'm a young Somali-Canadian Muslim gal with a story to share with you. I was born in the Puntland region of Somalia, but I've lived with my parents Ahmed and Khadija Barre in Ontario, Canada, for as long as I can remember. I recently graduated from the University of Ottawa with a bachelor's degree in political science. Someone forgot to tell me that nobody's hiring inexperienced young people nowadays.
Seriously, I didn't suffer through four and a half years of university to end up working on the night shift at Loblaw's but that's life in the Canadian capital for you. I know of a Moroccan dude named Ibrahim, who has an MBA from Carleton University and up until recently, he was working at Tim Horton's. Ibrahim got a call center job recently and considers himself lucky. Life isn't kind for us visible minorities in the City of Ottawa, seriously.
The capital is changing but the more things change, the more they stay the same. If you're black and have a university degree in the City of Ottawa, employers avoid you like the proverbial plague. From what I'm told, the rest of Ontario isn't much different. In the City of Toronto, you see a lot of successful professionals who are visible minorities, but discrimination still exists. Welcome to Canada.
These days, I'm working at Loblaw's just to pay the bills because a sister needs to eat, you know? Besides, I've got six months until the Canadian government starts hassling me to pay back my OSAP student loans. The clock is ticking, ladies and gentlemen. The crew at Loblaw's is mostly male and mostly white, and as a tall, chubby East African Muslim lesbian, things are hard for me. The guys on the crew are racist douche bags.
Even though I seldom wear the Hijab nowadays, I still consider myself a proud Muslim. So when a middle-aged portly white dude starts talking trash about the Muslim presence in Ottawa, I felt compelled to get in the fool's face and tell him to shut the fuck up. What did my boss do? The asshole sided with the racist old white dude, and the matter got dismissed. Welcome to Canada, folks. In this country, the bigots watch each other's backs and the game is rigged against people of color. That's just the awful truth.
I can't afford to quit my job at Loblaw's because rent in South Keys, where I live, isn't exactly cheap. I live in a one-bedroom spot with shared accommodations and it costs five hundred a month. That's not even counting hydro and other utilities. Seriously, I should have studied something like law or business at the University of Ottawa. Bet you I'd have a better job than the one I got now, eh? Oh, well. Regrets, I've definitely had more than a few.