My name is Chloe. I am a divorced mom of two girls. I am 35, live in Dublin and have been divorced for nearly two years, separated for a year before that. My ex, David works abroad and only gets back to Ireland once a month. He's an electrical contractor spending most of his time in the Middle East. We were married for seven years until I found out that he had been seeing other women while overseas. This only came to light through a mutual friend's husband. I took steps to separate and start divorce proceedings. If truth be told, even though i felt hurt and betrayed, it was a relief. I had a reason to end the sham of a marriage, with a clear conscience and make a fresh start. My ex isn't a bad guy, immature, can be an ass at times but provided well for us and loves the kids.
The problems arose because of his work. The more successful he and his company became the more and more time he started to spend away from home. Realistically speaking it was only a matter of time before one of us strayed? Him because he couldn't keep it in his pants or me due to loneliness, lack of affection and sex of course. The kids Sarah and Jane are now 5 and 7. Both are in primary school. They spend every second weekend at my parents or his, which gives me a bit of a break from being a full time mom and working a full time job. I say full time but since covid I work from home 4 days a week and only have to go to the main office on a Friday, and I am off every weekend.
I work for a prominent financial institution, mostly looking after investments, pensions etc. The first year after separation was basically coming to a financial agreement with my ex, division of assets, child support etc. I kept the house; he got the condo in Dubai, no real battles over money. He's sees them once a month when they spend the weekend at his parents. The divorce wasn't tough for me as I am basically still doing the same things as before, raring the kids, school runs, lunches, play dates, work, and list goes on. Life is basically the same just now their dad stays with his parents when his visits. As regards my sex life there's been little or no change their either. I haven't been with a man since my husband and to be honest I doubt I ever will again.
I was never very sexually active growing up. Like most people I was raised to believe that i would meet a guy settle down, start a family and that would be it. Deep down i always believed I wanted more from life but that's what was seen as the norm. I'm lucky in that my family always pushed for me to get an education so I could get a qualification and get a good job. So that's why I am an accountant, hence my current job. But all through my teens and early 20's I only had a few boyfriends. I only ever had sex with 2 other guys before I met my husband. Since the separation and the divorce I have been getting myself off, bought a few toys to help and even started to watch some porn.