On Sunday afternoon I bought Jordan lunch before delivering her back home. She directed me through a series of rural turns then down a long country lane. Before turning down the slushy gravel drive to her parent's house I stopped on the side of the road, put my car in park and took Jordan's left hand. I looked into her stunning eyes and said, "I want you to know how much this weekend has meant to me. Not just because of what we did, but because we spent it together. If this is too much please know that you can pull the plug without any hard feelings. If you never want to speak of this again I will understand but I want you to know that I'm not sorry and that your friendship means more to me than anything."
I spat all of that out faster and more nervously than I intended to. By the end of it I was close to hyperventilating and I was staring at my hands. They seemed to have taken a death-grip on Jordan's petite fingers.
Jordan looked at me with tears in her eyes. "Suzanne, I've never had a friend like you, and I'm not just talking about the sex. I feel like I can be real with you and I don't want that to end. Having a friend ask me to her house is a special thing. I don't want any part of this to complicate our work situation either. I know that I started all of the sexual stuff and I hope you don't feel ambushed. If I took advantage of the situation it was not premeditated."
The poor thing was scared that she had forced herself on me! This underscored the importance of our friendship to me. Her words were therapeutic and her maturity was showing again. A wave of affection for her washed over me. It was so vitally important for me to have her in my life.
"I don't feel like I was ambushed, Jordan!" I said. "I feel like we shared a special experience and I was a willing participant - in case you didn't notice. I enjoyed hanging out with you and the other stuff....neither one of us saw that coming. Honestly, you helped me discover something I have had in the back of my mind for a long time. As for our work relationship, I think we are both mature enough to handle things. I cherish the friendship we've built, Jordan. I've never had a close friend at work and I don't want to give that up unless you think it's absolutely necessary."
She thought a minute and then said, "Suzanne, this was way out of character for me. Lest you think some rogue lesbian was on the prowl and hunted you down, you should know that I've been with only two people sexually in my entire life - three now. I was a virgin when my husband married me. After he divorced me I had sex with his little sister as an act of revenge - well, sort of. She came to my apartment to get some of her brother's things and I recalled how she tried to drunk-kiss me at my bachelorette party. I shut her down pretty hard back then because that just wasn't my thing but this particular day I was mad and horny, she was cute, and things just sort of happened. We met regularly for about a year after that and I will admit that I manipulated the situation so that my ex was able to 'accidentally' catch me sitting on his little sister's face in his old bedroom at his parent's house - something he never did. I seldom see her anymore but what we had is over and we are both OK with that."
The shocked look on my face must have been funny because she giggled at me. "Suze, you are my best friend whether this continues or not. Of all the people in the world I should know better than to become involved with someone who has a mate - married or not. I kind of feel like the other woman now."
"Hon, I can see why you would say that," I said, "but I know Gary well enough to believe that he won't have a problem with what we did. I would never have done this if I thought he would mind. He is important to me," I said, looking her in the eye. "I believe he is the man I will stay married to for the rest of my life and I won't mess that up."
"You shouldn't," was her reply.
I then drove down her gravel drive in the tracks left by her dad on his way in and out of their long driveway. I put my car in park then leaned over and kissed her cheek. "Thanks for a wonderful weekend," I said blushing.
She smiled broadly and replied, "See you tomorrow at work, Suzanne."
Later that night Gary and I were talking on the phone near midnight as we did a couple of times each week due to his screwed-up schedule. Things were getting pretty naughty and we were both in the throes of masturbation when I once again verbalized my fantasy that a woman was eating me out while I was giving him a blow job. I described the sensations, sights and smells and both of us climaxed hard. As we slowly came down from our sexual high, we talked for another hour and I told him what had been heavy on my mind for a couple of days. I told him that Jordan spent the weekend due to the snow and that we had fooled around some.
He grew quiet and I felt like crap for springing this on him when he was 200 miles away. He asked only two questions of me. First, he asked if I had second thoughts about our long term relationship which we both thought of as exclusive and permanent. Even though he had never formally asked "the question" we both talked about the eventuality of marriage. My reply to him was that I was more determined than ever to be his mate for as long as I lived - married or not. I told him that my love for him was complete and permanent.
Then he asked what my future relationship with Jordan was going to be. I told him that Jordan was my best female friend and I hoped this would not change things too drastically. I also told him with all honesty that his opinion on the matter would determine whether I brought Jordan to our bed or if I needed to sever all ties with her - or anything in between.
That might sound odd to most people but I was (and still am) a very old-fashioned girl with strong ideas about the give-and-take of relationships. Gary was the center of my universe and my relationship with him was my main concern. I would do anything for him and I needed to know whether I had gone too far. Was he hurt by me being intimate with a woman outside of our fantasies. I assumed that he would be OK with this since it was a recurring theme of our fantasy life, but now that we stood at this crossroad I wasn't completely sure. Gary loved me more than anyone ever had and I would have severed my intimate relationship with Jordan if Gary had wanted that. He is very discerning about social and relationship issues.
His next words spoke volumes about his love for me. "I can't expect the two of us to fantasize about this so frequently without your curiosity being aroused enough for you to want to take that step. Our fantasies are an important part of our sex life. Suzanne, I want you to marry me and be my wife in every way for the rest of our lives. If you promise yourself to me then we'll figure out the rest."
"Babe, I want to marry you more than anything," was my reply. "I have never loved a man like I love you."
Gary said, "I know that you like the idea of bringing another woman to our bed and I may eventually consent to that if the situation is perfect but you are the only woman I ever want to be intimate with, Suzanne. I want to say that I really don't care what you do sexually with Jordan but I worry about whether it will change our relationship. Just promise me that you won't hide anything from me."
I made that promise to him and just like that it was settled. I lie awake for another hour after Gary hung up thinking that my marriage proposal from him happened while we were 200 miles apart and with our own hands covered in self-pleasuring goo. Talk about old fashioned romance!