All you young white girls or white wives who have thought about it, but are too scared to try a black man, I don't know why your waiting.
I personally started late in life, when my husband and me were still living in Michigan. We had been having a rough time in our marriage, with some arguing and stuff, and of course not that much sex. Although we both loved each other, living together for over 25 years can bring about boredom, and reasons for not having sex become easier to bring up.
There had been some accusations thrown back and forth, and to me it seemed like maybe a trial separation, or maybe even divorce might be in the picture.
We did not seek counseling, although I am sure it might have helped, but we did start having some serious discussions about where our life was headed.
I had a miscarriage early in our marriage and with complications, my tubes were tied so I couldn't have children. This of course didn't help to solidify our marriage any, so when Tom (my husband) had talked about maybe trying a separation, we could both see the hand writing on the wall so to speak.
I'm still not sure at what point bringing another couple into our lives was brought up (although I'm sure it must have been Tom's idea LOL), but when it had been mentioned, I don't think either of us were too thrilled about something like that, but once it had been said, I think both of us were probably thinking about doing it.
If you search my blogs, you will find three stories entitled "Our Swinging Days", where I described what happened when we started to seriously think about going out with a black couple, who were actually very close friends of ours. Anyways, if you read those 3 stories, it might give you an inside into why we ended up swinging.
Now back to the "to do it or not to do it" intro.