Life in the burning sands of metropolitan Dammam, Saudi Arabia, is complicated, especially for a queer Muslim woman. The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia is a forbidden place according to the Westerners I meet from time to time. I was born and raised there, so it’s essentially all I’ve ever known. Still, even with all the restrictions that are imposed upon Saudi Arabian Muslim females like myself, I love it. There’s no place like home, after all.
My name is Afaf Al-Sharif and I think I’m quite possibly the most nondescript woman ever born, seriously. Five-foot-three, curvy, with dark bronze skin, long black hair ( which I almost always tuck away under my Hijab ) and a shy smile, that’s me in a nutshell. It’s easy to let the winds of despair get to you but I am a strong-willed woman. I believe that life has much in store for me.
I went to the City of Ottawa, Ontario, and studied at Carleton University for a time, graduating with a Master’s degree in civil engineering. For all the good it did me. I returned to Saudi Arabia, got married to a man named Ali, and he divorced me when he found out that I couldn’t conceive. Barren women are considered useless in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, and if I hadn’t been born in a respectable family, I would have ended up in the poorhouse.
That’s the fate of Saudi Arabian women, according to the Kingdom’s draconian divorce laws. Any sons or daughters born to a Saudi woman belong to her husband, and go to him in case of divorce. Male heirs inherit twice what female heirs are supposed to get. Welcome to our world, ladies and gentlemen. I bet some of you are shaking your heads at this. I’m afraid that this is the awful truth.