July and my birthday came before I could blink. The rest of May and June were peak flower sales, and I wanted to make as much profit as possible. So, my social life took a major hit. After our argument, Richard seemed to turn a new leaf. He brought me coffee and flowers almost every morning though my preferences for either, still, wasn't headed. He even attempted to clean up after himself and do the laundry, but he bleached several t-shirts of mine and shrank a pair of shorts, but I commended him for trying. Slowly, I was changing my mind about breaking up with him. If he could continue this upward trend of trying and showing up for me, then this could work, right?
I decided to pamper myself for my birthday week. On Monday, Lilith and I got a couple's massage and spent the rest of the day in the spa's hot spring. On Tuesday, Lilith and I got mani-pedis and brunch with Michelle and Andrea, twin sisters, and my closest friends other than Lilith. I had a laser hair removal session on Wednesday, then went shopping with the girls for our Zone 8 outfits. Finally, I had my hair appointment on Thursday where I got a set of silver-blonde butt-length goddess braids.
Friday morning, I woke up to a knock on my front door. Lilith had sent me a bouquet of white lilies and my favorite breakfast: iced caramel macchiato, everything bagel with scrambled eggs, bacon, provolone, and a blueberry scone. It was simple, but it meant so much to me. There was a note with the flowers: '
To my best-est best friend and sister. I love you girly <3
'. I teared up a little. Richard and I had had another fight on Sunday, and I hadn't seen or heard from him since.
I spent the rest of my day, cleaning up the apartment and prepping for the night ahead. I put the dress I bought in the bathroom when I showered so the steam would remove any wrinkles. The girls and I spent several hours in the mall trying to find the best outfits for the night. After much deliberation, I decided on a fire-engine red mini-dress. Shocker, I know. The dress was backless with a small slit up the left thigh and a sweetheart neckline. It had a thin string in the back to tighten it around the hips, and it hugged me in all the right places. I chose my most impractical pair of shoes for the night; a pair of strappy red heeled sandals with red flower embellishments. I wore my usual jewelry and makeup. My feet were sure to hurt by the end of the night, but I would look damned good.
As I sat on the couch to wait for the taxi, a pang of anxiety hit me. I was extremely nervous about tonight. I invited Richard, but he gave a noncommittal answer. I texted him, too, but he only responded with, "We'll see." Honestly, I hoped he wouldn't come. My friends didn't mind him, in fact, if he came, this would be the first time he had met anyone other than Gina and Lilith. But, Lilith did not like him, at all. When I told her I had invited him, she was obviously annoyed but said she couldn't be mad because it was
my
birthday party. Also, he hated Caleb. I didn't want the drama and lingering anger over our last argument hanging over my night. If only I were to be so blessed.
I heard the horn of the taxi amongst the chirps of the crickets. I had been texting my birthday group chat the entire night, making sure everyone was ready for the night ahead. I texted them to let them know I was on my way. As I got in the taxi, I noticed my driver staring at me.
"Important night out, dear?" My driver asked. She was a short, older Black woman with greying hair.
"Yes, it's my birthday tonight," I said. She turned around and smiled at me.
"I bet your boyfriend is excited to see you tonight!"
I sighed as I buckled myself in.
"Oh, no, honey. That doesn't sound like a happy sigh. No boyfriend?" She asked and started to drive
"Oh, no. I have a boyfriend," I responded attempting to keep the tears at bay.
She hummed, "You wanna talk about it?"
I thought about it. Why would I tell my relationship woes to this elderly woman? Why would I spill my feelings of seclusion and disappointment to this stranger driving me to my birthday party? But, really, why not? I would never see this woman again. And, if I did, she wouldn't remember me. Maybe she would have some advice to give me. She had such a warm aura and I needed another perspective. So, I looked out of the window and started my tale. I watched the phone lines and streetlights zip by. I could feel my phone vibrating with texts, but I ignored them.
She listened to my story the 30 minutes it took to get to the restaurant, occasionally, interjecting with "I know he didn't" or "Oh my God" when it was needed. I told her of the insults and insecurities. The lack of intimacy and respect. The disregard of my personhood. She knew things Lilith didn't know. I didn't feel judged by her. I felt comforted by this stranger. As I finished talking, we were coming up to the restaurant. She parked, turned the car off, and fully turned to face me. "I'm going to say this in the most honest way I can. You need to leave him, and soon. He sounds like my dating life before I met my husband, men who wanted to break me down and trap me. But, the last one was my final straw. I met my husband when I was refusing to date and afraid to commit. He snuck into my heart, and we've been together ever since, 35 years, to be exact." She finished with a warm smile.
I sniffled and wiped away my tears. "I know I need to break up with him. I just don't know how. He's always around, and he's unpredictable. He comes over whenever he wants. When he's good, he's good, though. And I know he's going through family stuff, and work has been slow, so he's kinda low on money-," She cut me off.
"No one should make you feel the way you have told me he makes you feel," She said heatedly. "You deserve someone who isn't afraid of your success and the community around you. Someone who loves you, the real you."
I continued sniffling. "Oh look, I made you mess up that pretty makeup. But just heed my words. The man that's meant to love you will start before you even know."