As an Introduction, I'm Devon, a 32 year-old black man now living in Chicago, the city where I was born and raised. I work for a mid-sized investment bank and travel a fair amount. I'm 6' 4" and a good athlete, all conference in high school basketball and all state in football. I received a scholarship to play college football on the west coast, where I was an all conference tight end freshman year, but a severe off the field injury curtailed my career. So I hit the books got a degree in economics, and then an MBA, and I now have a pretty good life.
My weakness, or at least my kink, is married women. Specifically, white married women. No use psychoanalyzing the motives, but there are aspects, which I will over time describe, that just make married white women much more of a sexual turn on than more "normal" relationships. My other kink is I'm a dominant man -- not that I enjoy inflicting pain or wearing weird attire, but I know what I enjoy and clearly communicate my desires and expectations. Typically, my playmates are older than me, but not always. Sometimes I meet them on line (which I prefer) before we meet in person, but sometimes the original meeting is in person. Most of these experiences have been during the past five years, although there are some exceptions. I'm not telling these experiences in chronological order -- just the order of what's in my head when I'm writing.
Let's begin with Donna, who lives in Scottsdale. We met on line on a broad conversational web site. She said she was an empty nester and was a bit bored, and looking for people to chat with. She posted some photos, none of them overly revealing. She's pretty, in her 40s, with short blond hair and a deliciously curvy body. We exchanged messages in the chat forum.
After a few exchanges of general chat, she reminded me, "You do know that I'm married."
"So you said -- what's your point."
"My point is you might be wasting your time."
"I'm a big boy -- I can decide how I spend my time. Besides, it's just chatting -- nothing wrong about that."
We continued to chat that night for a while about general interests and pop culture. She asked a lot of questions of my background -- it was clear that she had not spent much time around black people (that can be a turn off for many men of color, but I actually find it a turn on).
We had a couple of voice conversations in the next few days. She started calling me a lot. One night I asked about her husband. "He's a salesman and travels a lot for work to mid-sized cities in Nevada, Arizona, and New Mexico."
"I guess I'm kind of a salesman too. But I travel to bigger cities -- like LA and San Francisco."
"Those sound like more fun places."
"It depends on who's in those places. What else about your husband defines him, except for his mad mid-sized city sales skills?"
She laughed. "Not that much else. Do your travels ever take you to Phoenix?"
"Occasionally." I knew where she was leading, but with this type of woman, it's a good idea to have her chill for a while. "Do you have any photos of you as a couple?"
"Why do you ask?"
"I like seeing people I meet in general situations. It gives me a better feel for who they are."
"Hang on while I look."
She sent a few pics. He was a dumpy guy -- relatively short and about 40 pounds overweight. In one of the photos, she was wearing a black cocktail dress -- showing a lot of cleavage and looking very hot. "That pic of you in the black dress is amazing."
"Thank you."
"You look great covered in black."
"You think so?"
I changed the tone slightly. "Your husband is a very lucky man."
She laughed. "I agree."
She continued to call me a lot. I kept most of the calls short. The next time we talked for a while, I pushed the conversation to the edgier side. I probed about her sex life.
"It's kind of bland."
"With a husband like yours, any sexy woman would find it bland."
She laughed.
I asked, "What do you enjoy sexually?"
"You know, kind of everything."
"That's a bit vague. But I won't push. You don't seem particularly satisfied."
"You could say that." What are your turn ons?"
"Not sure you're ready for that yet. I don't want to scare you off."
"I'm a big girl -- I can handle your truth."
"I have a thing for white women older than me, particularly if they have sexy curves like you."
"Thank you. Are there specific things you enjoy?"
"I'm very dominant sexually -- I control the action and make sure I get the pleasure I desire. I also enjoy making my woman cum hard, but in a way that I control."
There was silence for a few seconds. I said, "I told you I'd scare you off."
"No -- it's not that. I've never been with a dominant man before. I don't know what to say."
"Have you been with any other men since you've been married?"
"I had a few flings."
"Good, a sexy woman like you should explore."
"I guess."
"Seems like you're not sure. Did you feel guilty after?"
"Not at all. It's just that the idea was exciting but the experiences themselves were not that thrilling."
"I think you need the right playmate."