I am a white woman who dated only white men because that's what her family expected her to do. I had some major league crushes for black men and let them all go ignored for a long time.
Up until I was 22, I did the white man thing and to be honest with you, they never satisfied me. They were always looking out for themselves and made their woman secondary.
I started going to this one club on Friday nights with my girlfriends and it had a nice mix of men but I liked the idea that there were lots of black men. My best friend worried about me that I would pick one that was the stereotypical one that would take me for all I had and left me alone and pregnant with twins.
We met there after work on Friday for happy hour and usually stayed all night until closing. Like I said there was a nice variety of men there, but where I found my mind going was to this one bouncer at the club.
He was build like a bull; stood 6'4", close to 300 lbs. of muscle with a little bit of a belly. He shaved his head and had a pencil thin beard. He sported earrings in his ears and a pinky ring on his right hand. His smile would melt your heart, trust me. He was as dark as coal and the sexiest bedroom eyes you ever saw. I made sure we always sat where he was hanging out.
I always tried to time it that I would be the last in our group to arrive; you know to make my entrance and be noticed by Jim and it worked. He would greet me with a "Hello" and tell me where they were sitting. Once in a while he would tell me how nice I looked. I never noticed him telling any of the others that unless I tuned it out.
I would buy him a drink every week (or 2) and he would come by to thank me for it. One Friday I had a day from hell at work and couldn't wait to get there and drink. I got a ride into work so I had to wait for one of the girls to come by and pick me up. We arrived and he was there with a smile and a wink and I said hello to him and he said "Hello, looks like you had a rough day". I told him I did and we walked to the bar which by luck was where he was.