Anniversary confession
After being married for over 30 years, I decided to tell my husband about a casual relationship I had in my mid 20s.
We both were well aware that we both were not innocent sexually when we got married. In fact, we had both been very sexually active, and we open about that fact. He had even been married briefly before, and I had a few casual relationships that we both openly discussed. I had even told him about my brief sexual relationship with another woman.
I had graduated high school in the early 80s and sent three years splitting my time going to college and working. By 1987, I was sharing a home with some girl friends, outwardly I was the good single girl. I visited my parents a few times a week, went to church, I had a couple of casual relationships, boyfriends that our dating was more of a convenience to them than it was a true relationship for me.
I was working as a secretary at a medical office and taking classes at a local community college. During this time, myself and a group of girlfriends started going to the Red Onion, and bar chain in the area.
I am 5'4, and at that time I weighed about 120 pounds, have 38D chest and a curvy figure with a little plump butt. (I still do, but a few extra pounds now that I am in my 50s)
I had a wilder side, and had an occasional one night stand with men I met when I was out with girlfriends. Mainly those ended up me giving them a blow job in the parking lot of a bar or occasionally ending up fucking back at my room I rented at a house I shared with some other friends. Thank goodness I was on the pill during that time before I was married.
While we normally went to the Red Onion down by the beach, one Friday after work a few of us decided to try one in Lakewood. It would have been a small group of only 3 of us going.
I drove home, showered and changed. Heels, deep V neck top and tight spandex, what every single woman wore in the mid-80s.
I got there and went it. I found one co-worker, but the other girl never showed up. After a couple of drinks and dancing with some guys, my friend excused herself and had to head home.
Before I finished my drink, and black man came over and asked me to dance. He seemed really nice, and I took him up on his offer. After dancing for awhile, he sat with me and talked. His name was Micheal. He bought us both drinks and we spend a couple of hours flirting and dancing.
Micheal was about 6 feet tall, and pretty well build. He told me that he lived in Long Beach, and worked construction while we was going to CalState Long Beach.
Before I left, he asked if I would like to go out the next night. I had never gone out with a black man on a date before, but I was kind of attracted to him, so we exchanged phone numbers.
The next day, after running some errands and doing laundry, I noticed a phone message left on my answering machine. It was him about the date. He wanted to pick me up after 8 and wanted to know if I like to go dancing again.
I called him back and gave him directions to my house. I remember that I wanted to look nice for my first interracial date. I wore a red dress that came to just above the knees, but had a low cut neck line. I wore a black bra, pantyhose with no panties so I did not show any panty lines, and black heels.
Micheal showed up and we talked as he drove us to a club in Long Beach, near downtown.