I strained to hear Aidan's car drive away, but all I could hear was the sound of a distant motorboat somewhere out on the lake that lay a hundred feet below our deck. I started to move my head to see if I could see it, but events of the day and in particular, the last several hours, swirled in my head, and I just couldn't move. Of course, spending almost an entire day and evening drinking maybe a little too much of this season's most superb wines didn't help either.
Undemanding, yet delivers
With eyes half open, I stared blissfully at the twinkling stars that filled the dark Texas sky high overhead. Lying nude with Thom next to me on a double chaise lounge beside our hot tub, I was exhausted, satisfied, and happy. I hoped he felt the same -- as the events of the last several hours were undoubtedly out of the ordinary for both of us.
I felt Thom's fingers lightly brush mine. I quickly opened my hand and interlocked my fingers with his. He responded by tightly squeezing my hand, reassuring me that he was as happy as I was. What a relief and Oh My God, what an evening! Memories of our last ménage à trois filled my head, but that was over thirty years ago when we were both college students and newlyweds. Our guest lover that evening, so long ago, had been another woman -- but tonight it had been another
man
!
The day started innocently enough. It was late summer, and another season of the Texas Hill Country wine tours had begun. Local wineries team up each year with wine tasting marathon weekends to unveil their latest creations and promote local wines in general. This was one such weekend.
As these tours generally cover many miles and many pours of delightful wines, it's usually a good idea not to do your own driving. As we had done before, we got a group of friends together and chartered a mini-bus with a driver. Split between four to six couples it's really not that expensive, and of course, a whole lot cheaper than a DUI.
The cast of characters were pretty much the usual suspects.
Mild, yet not bland
First, there was Mark and Vicki -- friends we had known for almost twenty years. Back in Austin, our kids and their kids had grown up together and had been fast friends since pre-school. We were never really close personal friends ourselves, but we attended the same church (when the kids were younger), we both participated in youth sports, PTA and Scouts and in general, watched our kids grow up together. Since our kids graduated high school and we moved out to the lake, we don't see them nearly as often. But they are still in the circle of friends, and we meet for dinner and similar social events, probably six or seven times a year -- this was one of those events.
Firm, fruity & well packed
Then there was Jim and Stephanie. Jim and Thom had been business partners for many years; well, not actually partners in the legal sense but shared an office suite along with some of the office staff and facilities. Both are semi-retired now, but still golfing buddies and very close personal friends. Stephanie, on the other hand, is one of those people you just sort of shake your head at and wonder -- what planet is she really from? We always marvel at how they stay married, or even more curious -- why? Stephanie has never worked -- inside or outside the home. She is an unbelievable spendthrift; never saw a pair of shoes she didn't just
have to have
? Complains about everything and is in general nuttier than squirrel shit. But even after four kids, she is still drop-dead gorgeous and very much the trophy wife Jim married some twenty years ago. Besides, she has never met a man she won't flirt with, so from the husbands' point of view, she is indispensable on these little weekend outings.
Nutty, with a kick
Then there is Pat and Amy. Pat is male, but none of us are really sure how much so. It's ironic that he has such an androgynous name because it certainly seems to fit him. Pat is a lovely guy and would do absolutely anything for you; he even holds doors open for men as well as women. Pat works for the State in some mindless bureaucratic dark hole and is probably the most pussy-whipped guy Thom, and I have ever known. Amy, on the other hand, is a teacher friend of mine and is very much Pat's opposite. During most of the school day, she is your typical middle school math teacher; but she is also the head coach of the girls' volleyball team and an assistant coach to both the girls and the boys swim teams. She doesn't have an ounce of body fat on her, is an absolute dynamo of energy, clearly wears the pants in the family and is one of my dearest and closest friends. I love her to pieces.
Delivers complexity
And finally, there was Aidan and Nancy -- or it was supposed to be Aidan and Nancy, but only Aidan showed up. Back in town, they had been our next-door neighbors for twenty-four years. Our kids played with their kids, we shared every imaginable lawn and garden implement over the years, our pantry was their pantry and vice-a-versa and growing up, our kids probably spent more time in each other's backyard pool than their own.
We had always assumed they had the perfect marriage, or I guess I should say we never had any reason to believe otherwise. Aidan was in computer sales and traveled a lot on business, but he was always home on week-ends and seemed like the perfect husband and dad. Nancy was a stay at home mom until the kids were in high school. That's when she took a job as the administrative assistant to a downtown stockbroker. I'm sure it was a very stressful job, and I know she was very nervous about it at first, but over time she seemed to absolutely love it, and as the kids left home, it became more and more an integral part of her life.
It sounds so cliché to say it was a bolt from the blue -- as I'm sure there are always little signs -- but Nancy and her boss must have been having something going on for a long time. Because when he got transferred to Ohio to open a new office, Nancy simply went with him. She literally stayed home from work one day, packed up all the stuff she felt was hers, and was sitting waiting by the front door when Aidan got home. That was only nine days ago.
As Aidan tells the story, he didn't fight or argue with her, nor did he help her load her car. He just simply went outside, sat down next to the pool and drank himself to sleep. I have a feeling that he didn't really care, but it was still a shock, and I'm sure a million thoughts ran through his head that night, and probably are still swirling in a muddled tempest of questions. Anyway, it was bizarre not having Nancy there this morning, and everyone was still a little too uneasy about it to say anything directly to Aidan -- other than standard condolences.
Everyone met at our house around ten o'clock this morning. The mini-bus was already here, and the driver was leaning against the front fender, smoking a cigarette and drinking coffee. Not exactly the picture of a devoted professional chauffeur, but what do you expect when the driver's 'tip' is predetermined by the charter company.
Easily approachable
All of the couples, plus Aidan, arrived at about the same time, and after the usual hugs and handshakes, we all filled our travel coffee cups in the kitchen and headed to the bus for a fun-filled day of touring, drinking and fellowship. As the driver already had the itinerary, once we were all seated, he closed the door and pulled away from the curb without a word. As this was his apparent nature, we could already tell he wasn't going to be much fun.
A short ninety minutes later, we turned off the county road and headed up the long drive to our first winery. Our driver pulled up next to an enormous century-old oak tree and parked the mini-bus in the shade. The morning air was still cool, and the place was not that crowded yet; however, they were clearly expecting a big day as several tables had been set up around the manicured grounds and each was stocked with case after case of this season's wines. As the driver wandered off to smoke several more cigarettes, the nine of us mingled among the tables and began our sampling of the vintner's wares.
It was going to be a long day, and we all knew we would have to pace ourselves, but on the other hand, it was a beautiful morning, and the wine was excellent -- so, so much for good intentions. We all bought at least two bottles, Stephanie bought her first case of the day, and of course, the ladies all bought some sort of cookbook, wine accessory or souvenir.
Mellow but charming
As we re-boarded the bus, we observed our usual practice of rotating seating partners -- musical chairs of spouses, so to speak. I'm not sure how this tradition got started, but one we have faithfully observed for many years. And since there is no set pattern, we just let nature take its course... usually with some amusing results.
Unfortunately, on this outing, we were one female short -- or maybe I should say we had an extra male. Despite the natural awkwardness, every woman on the bus couldn't wait for her turn to sit next to Aidan -- to tell him personally how sorry she was to hear about him and Nancy and how, despite the natural bond of sisterhood, they sided with him and that there was never an excuse for a woman to abandon her husband, her children, and her family the way Nancy apparently did. Of course, we'd only heard Aidan's side of the story, and it did seem pretty uncharacteristic of Nancy. But on the other hand, Aidan was a pretty handsome guy, and it gave every woman on the bus a chance to
personally