My neighbor and I were sitting in my breakfast room chatting over coffee when she decided to bring up a recent popular bondage movie that's been out for a couple of years. I told her that I watched part of it and she told me that the book was much better and informed me that there was even a sequel.
When I told her that I wasn't sure how any woman could enjoy the bondage and spankings, she simply said "you'd be surprised."
A bit dumbfounded, I asked her if she and her husband had ever experimented with this type of thing and she said "not before the book," and grinned at me.
Being nosey, I pressed her further and asked her what she meant by that.
She said, "Pam, it changed our lives, Henry is much more loving and our sex life is off the charts."
Being totally surprised by that reaction, I told her that I didn't want to sound old fashioned, but maybe she shouldn't tell too many other people about this.
She just looked at me, laughed and said that her and her girlfriends at work discuss this topic all the time. She said that even some of the woman at her Bible study class have both tried it and found it arousing.
She said, "hell girl it was even discussed on a daytime talk show and a show of hands from the female audience proved that most woman actually do enjoy it."
Over the years, though we've been close, we never spoke much about our sex lives and she didn't come across to me as the person who would be so ...I don't know ... sexually adventuresome.
As my intrigue grew, I asked many more questions because somehow, I had to know more.
When I heard the garage door open and I glanced at the clock, I thought where did the time go?
By now we had been talking about this for hours and my husband Ken was home.
He said something like "don't let me interrupt you," and Stacey said that she had to leave anyway, she gave me a look, slapped him on his hip pocket and walked out.
When Ken asked me "what was all that about?" I told him about the book and the movie and ask if he had ever considered something like that in our marriage.
Ken got kind of a stern look on his face and said, "after all our years together, why do you ask now?"
I told him about my talk with Stacey, how she had introduced it to her husband with positive results and how most of her girlfriends shared with her how it had improved their marital sex lives.
When he didn't answer, I said "I want to maybe at least try it."
He said that things like this are a big move and shouldn't be rushed into and he reminded me that Stacey and her husband are much younger than us.
He said that if we did consider this it would have to come after considerable thought because there would be no going back.
When I asked him what he meant by that, he said that this would be life changing and something we couldn't just undo. Surprisingly I told him that I was willing to try and he said he would think about it.
We had our dinner and the evening proceeded as usual, as if we hadn't even touched on that subject at all.
When we went to bed, the sex was better than normal and I knew that our discussion had to be the reason behind it.
The next day at breakfast I asked him if he had given further thought to the subject and from the look on his face I knew exactly what he was about to throw in my face.
You see I've known this man for thirty some years and I can read him like a book. Four years ago for his fifty-fourth birthday I made the mistake of asking him what he wanted. He told me a threesome, saying that he didn't care if it was a man or a woman, but that was what he really wanted.
When he received a set of TaylorMade golf clubs instead, he never got quite over it and he will still, to this day, bring it up when he feels the subject warrants it.
He said that he was willing but there had to be parameters. Before I could ask him what kind, he said that he didn't want it in his home and that we would have to take a room.
He said that he wouldn't go for spanking or flogging me but he would agree with a light form of bondage with a blindfold and a gag.
He also said that we would have to agree on a safe word.
Before I could react, he asked me if I would like to add anything and I told him that I wanted him to leave my butt alone and not to put his fingers in my mouth after they were in me like he always tries to do.
That was the opener for 'the poor Ken dig' that he was looking for.
He said that if this works out for me and I really enjoy it, somewhere down the line he would like his threesome and all I could bring myself to say was "we'll see."
I guess he thought that was better than the last flat out "no way" he got over that foolish birthday request, because he simply said "agreed."
That evening we went on line and looked up adult toys and light bondage stuff. I was relieved when he breezed by the ball and ring gags because I found them intimidating and I wanted to maintain the control of making any verbal objection that I might have.
In a few days, a FedEx driver rang the bell and handed me the package and I was glad to see that it arrived in a plain brown box and I couldn't wait to open it.