I will never forget the rude-awakening night when my wife told me she wanted the freedom to fuck whomever she wanted. Yes, she did use the correct grammar. She actually said, "I really would prefer more than one man. No offense, darling, but fucking only you is more than a little boring. You think you could handle my branching out in the sex department?" She looked at me with that how-could-you-refuse-me face and smiled coquettishly.
Of course, I was frankly stunned. I had no idea she was a libertine who wanted to have sex with multiples of people and would even come right out and ask me if I could manage such a thing. "You once said that monogamy might be somewhat overrated, right?"
I had once made such a statement, not realizing that my words might come flying back to haunt me at two hundred miles an hour like a runaway freight train. Being that I consider myself an academic, working as I do at a university, I began reading all I could find on open marriage, swinging, wife sharing, Hot Wives, and anything having to do with a woman's right to fuck whomever she likes, whenever she likes, and of course, for as long as she likes.
I read about cultures where the men share their wives with houseguests as a matter of courtesy, an offer of friendship and hospitality no man can turn down: the wife of the host. I read about cultures where men had multitudes of wives and traded them back and forth with other rich men like pieces of lended farm equipment.
I watched videos about desperate housewives who bedded the other wives' husbands like trading recipes or favorite outfits. I "studied" porn that dealt with husbands who, like football fans on Sunday, watched their wives being fucked by young bucks or black studs with organs big as salamis, and I read articles on monogamy and it's faults and flaws. I even studied polyamorous relationships and societies that practiced polygamy, religions and cults around the world.
What I learned was, if someone could think of something, there were people somewhere doing it. There were multiple person marriages, people who swapped partners, cultures where prostitution is legal, and communities where sister wives is the norm.
It was clear that sexual mores and activities vary from place to place and from time to time. Even within the groups that maintain they believe in fidelity, marital duplicity runs unchecked, almost as common as in societies that allow it. In other words, it pretty much doesn't make a difference what the society believes in regarding unfaithfulness in marriage. People do what people want.
I decided the most important thing was whether I could handle it as a husband, having my wife have the freedom to have sex with as many people as she wanted. Studying the issue didn't help me to decide what to do, it just seemed to confuse the matter and came down to whether I personally could cope.
When I told her what I had found out, she said, "Then there are other wives who want a license to fuck around?" I nodded and said there were quite a few. "So, are you up to it?" she asked. I told her I wasn't so sure. I then promised to try. I had told myself and I promised her that I would do my best 5o find a way to allow her the freedom to be who she was.
I vowed to do my best to find a way to accept what she wanted. I pledged my extreme effort to work hard to accommodate her desires. She kissed me and pledged to help me see the light. We slept in each other's arms without talking for the night, hoping to have the strength to get to where we needed to be.
When I finally came to the decision to tell her I was aboard, I whispered to her during sex that, "I was ready."