Author's note: This is about a first-time swinging experience that occurred a few years ago. My husband and I carefully considered our decision to involve others in our bedroom fun, and the resulting eroticism and pleasure of our swapping spouses was a positive, life-altering event. The story is lengthy, and it fully describes our thought process, the partners we chose, and our physical intimacy with them. I hope you enjoy reading it. I will appreciate your comments and email feedback.
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I am a happily married woman, and my story describes how my husband and I decided that we would expand our sexual horizon to include swinging. The beginning is very similar to many experiences described by others who have done the same.
Our journey into the realm of cooperative, pleasurable infidelity progressed along a continuum that began with recognizing the growing staleness of our intimate life and passed through stages of curiosity, fantasy, serious contemplation, decision-making, selection of partners, and fulfillment. Reaching the goal of actually realizing the excitement, eroticism, and raw, sexual pleasure of swinging without ignoring the potentially negative post-event emotional consequences was a lengthy process. In retrospect, I know and understand why for many couples swinging can be very problematic. However, we felt that doing it would be a good decision for us.
My name is Susie, and I am 36 years old, 5 feet 4 inches tall, weigh 110 pounds, have shoulder-length auburn hair, blue eyes, and 36C breasts. My husband David is 35, 6 feet 2 inches tall, has brown hair, hazel eyes, beautiful muscle tone, and a larger than average (based upon my limited experience) cock. We have two children; girls aged nine and seven, been married for eleven years, and live in Texas, USA.
When we, like many couples I am sure, realized that our intimacy was pleasurable but not nearly as erotically fulfilling as it once was, we talked casually about how we could re-ignite the sexual excitement we experienced during the early years of our marriage. We had no difficulty talking openly about the growing dullness of our shared intimacy, and we did a fair amount of Internet reading about the situation. What we found provided no quick fixes. Instead, and fortunately, it gave us a framework that supported both meaningful introspection and an effective dialogue between us.
At first, we did not seriously include swinging among the alternatives we thought were a good idea because it seemed extreme. Instead, we decided that fantasy play would be a good place to begin communicating and experimenting with our individual fantasies, with the objective of finding mutual agreement on things that would increase both our appetite for sex and the pleasure we received from it. We decided that erotic stories would be a good starting point for encouraging exploration of a wide range of our individual desires, and then we could mutually agree on specific things to try.
My husband started buying a monthly magazine called Penthouse Letters that contained very erotic and explicit stories of peoples' sexual adventures covering a wide variety of topics that regularly included situations and activities that appealed to one or both of us. As we read the stories, we were very candid in talking about things we had not previously discussed in detail. We found our conversations were both a powerful turn-on, and the first step in developing our fantasy dialogues.
David's favorite story categories included "Chance Encounters," "Role Playing," "Domination," and "Group Sex." My preferred topics were "Submission," "Lesbian Fun," "Group Sex," and "Exhibitionism." When we admitting to each other our interests in these subjects, it did not surprise either of us, because our pillow talk during sex often included some of them, and we both enjoyed talking very dirty about wanting to do them in real life.
We soon started reading the magazine as part of our foreplay, and we took turns letting each other pick the next story. Our talk while reading became increasingly erotic and suggestive regarding interjecting ourselves into each story as either participants or voyeurs. Our sex immediately became more exciting, and our formerly infrequent, uninspiring lovemaking became both regular and passionate.
The eroticism of our fun peaked when we verbalized fantasies about including others in our play, and then describing specific situations. Neither of us was shy about telling the other about doing this or that with whomever. As our dirty talking progressed along with the intensity of our fucking, we shed all our inhibitions and wonderful orgasms resulted.
We began to anticipate with great excitement our "date nights" and private, intimate time away from the children. We wrote nasty notes, frequently whispered sexual entreaties while in socially proper settings, and made randomly timed, obscene phone calls to each other. When our time to be alone arrived, our lust overwhelmed us and we fucked with the same intensity we had during our courtship and the early years of our marriage.
We enjoyed role-playing scenarios to enhance the realism of our fantasy play. One of our favorites was me dressing very provocatively, to include revealing undergarments, and going to clubs that maximized the opportunity to be as anonymous as possible while meeting other married couples. We alternated between seducing them and being seduced, but the outcome was always swapping spouses.
Another favorite was describing my bisexual desires that first blossomed when I was in college. Although I had not been intimate with a woman after my marriage, I often fantasized about it with David's approval. He thought it was highly erotic and in our swinging fantasy, he encouraged me to enjoy myself with the other female. During our foreplay and his initial, slow strokes of his cock inside me, he especially enjoyed me telling him the details of my first lesbian experience, which I will share here.
I was 19 years old and a sophomore in college, and it included my girlfriend and roommate, Carolyn. We shared a small, one-bedroom, efficiency apartment near the campus so we could get away from the noise and lack of privacy in the school dormitory.
One very cold January night we returned from a fraternity party to find a note on the door saying the heat in the building was off. In order to be warm, we decided to go to bed without undressing.
We took off our shoes and jumped into bed, but soon realized the bulkiness of our clothes was discomforting while trying to sleep together in the narrow bed. We changed into flannel pajamas, which improved our comfort but left us shivering under the blankets.