My name is Tina, and Tom is my longtime partner. I finally have the courage to share with everyone our first time with another couple.
Tom and I had been together for over a decade. Surely like so many couples, we enjoyed our sex life but always looked for ways to spice things up.
Please don't misunderstand. Our sex has always been great, especially early on. Back then, we had sex daily and often more than once! As a new relationship, it was fun for me to let myself be a little extra adventurous and dirty, while our emotions were building. I could willingly push my boundaries -- sex in different places, different positions, oral sex, even anal. Early relationship sex is about trying new things.
But over time, while the sex was still amazing, it started becoming more routine. We'd schedule our sexual sessions. We did quick foreplay, spread on the lube, and settled mostly into missionary. Our sessions shortened to about 10 minutes. Fortunately, we'd always both cum every time and always together. Like many long-term couples, I have to admit the sparks cooled a bit over time.
Our sex life evolved to always watching porn together. I never watched any before Tom. But he introduced it, and it was fun. Over time, the themes became more intense. Initially, just seeing a couple having sex was generated plenty of arousal. Then we added some lesbian sex, which surprisingly intrigued me. I had kissed college girlfriends at a couple drunken parties when egged on by the guys, but that didn't really feel sexual. Lesbian porn created some serious butterflies.
Then we focused on threesomes, whether FFM or MFM. That moved on to bigger group sex, couple swaps, and voyeuristic sex parties. The dirtier it got, the hotter I seemed to get.
Tom started telling erotic stories as we watched. Having me or us imagine that we were the people in the scenes. He'd test stories to see how I'd respond. I would get shy at times, but I have to admit, the fantasies made me really horny. And as the porn progressed, our fantasy life did too.
His stories almost always involved another couple joining us. Maybe we would all just watch each other? Sometimes the talk would involve various swaps and finally watching each other fuck new partners.
I felt jealous thinking about Tom having sex with someone else, especially if she was really hot. While I felt attractive and looked great at age 35, I've always had insecurities. Tom always tells me how attractive he finds me. 5'6", fit, long hair, usually with some tan lines, and curves in the right places! Yet it was hard not to feel jealous. I was a late bloomer, and I still felt somewhat vulnerable.
Tom however seemed to get extra aroused and hard when describing me with another man or couple. He'd paint pictures of seeing me being touched by a man and woman. Watching me slowly warming up, touching a new cock, and starting to get really wet. He'd describe me laying on my back, watching the man climb on top and slowly ease his cock into me.
I imagined feeling the rush of conflicted emotions as I enjoyed a new partner for more than a decade. Being fucked slowly, or roughly, in various positions. Should I feel guilty? Is this cheating? But Tom would clearly get aroused from the various scenes. I'd be lying if it didn't do the same for me!
While the fantasy was hot, again, I was shy. When Tom told stories during sex, we'd both have huge orgasms. Bodies tensed up. Huge contractions. My mind would race. But afterward, I'd get a little uncomfortable. Did Tom mean it? Was this just a fantasy? Why did it feel more and more like he wanted it to become a reality?
Many advise that fantasies should stay as fantasies. Yet it did sound hot to take small steps toward a real encounter. And I felt like Tom danced around the topic.
He'd speculate how people find other couples for play. Do they meet strangers on vacation? Away from home, happy, drunk, and free? Or what about online swinger ads? We didn't know any swingers, but Tom said he had read about it. Was he researching?
A couple months passed with fantasies and subtle hints. Then during one intense session after drinks, Tom revealed something that caught me off-guard. He'd been looking at swinger websites and different ads. He asked me to look as well, to help spark fantasies. While initially unsure, I figured how could it hurt?
We started looking at ads together, and I was surprised that so many people were on these websites. And I was surprised that they looked attractive and healthy. They sounded like otherwise normal people.
What I didn't realize initially was that to be able to see actual ads, Tom had to make a profile for us! I was initially put off. We have normal lives, successful careers, private lives. But I saw the ad, and while the text described our fantasies, the pictures he used were just body shots. No faces. And admittedly, our bodies looked good. I didn't feel bad about our listing, which seemed private enough.
As we started to look more at other listings, our account must have shown as being online more often. And people started to reach out to us. This was when nerves kicked in again! Were we really doing this? I went back and forth. Tom didn't push us. We used the listings and our ad as part of our fantasies.
One thing we learned is that most people have starts and stops in the process. Would take baby steps forward and maybe some back. While some people who contacted us were very eager to move all the way and right away, others acknowledged the patient journey required. We ignored the "you guys are so hot; do you want to meet up tonight" messages. We interacted with people more interested in the process and who would share open and detailed experiences about their "lifestyle" journey.
Over time, one couple stood out, and we exchanged notes regularly. They gave their names as Sue and John, and she did most of the writing. They were attractive and with a couple years of experience. They admitted that it took them time to get there.
In our website listing, Tom included that we were mostly into watching and being watched. He identified a slight interest in soft swap but not full swap. I didn't know those terms before all of this exploring, but I came to understand those categories matched us well. Sue and John said they started with the same kind of approach.
The couple told us there going to stay at a nice hotel downtown one upcoming weekend. It was a 20-minute drive from our home. Sounded close enough but far enough as well. They invited us to have drinks! Or more specifically, Sue and I were discussing this potential plan. She seemed really nice and supportive. She seemed to understand my shyness and hesitation. I laugh now as I recall Tom constantly checking in with me on updates. "What is Sue saying? What are you thinking?" He clearly was intrigued.
Tom and I discussed our feelings, and it finally seemed right. What's the harm? Life is short, right? We could at least meet them and see how it feels. If not right, we could enjoy the drinks and head home for our own great sex using the fantasy of this "near miss". I confirmed that Sue knew that I or we weren't sure what we'd be up for, but that we'd meet if they were okay with that.
And of course they were! They'd been in our shoes. Meeting another couple for the first time. Hadn't totally known what to think. Or what to do. They seemed open and supportive. And so it was decided!
The weekend arrived. We planned to meet them at their hotel on Saturday night. Drinks in the lobby bar. The hotel was indeed one of the fancier ones downtown, and the bar had a dark and sultry feel.
When we entered the bar, we immediately spotted them. We'd seen photos of one another with blurred faces, but the body dimensions and energy were easy to spot. They were right around our age, fit and attractive. They both had big warm smiles. Seemed confident. Friendly.
We enjoyed a few rounds of fancy cocktails over a wide-ranging conversation. We talked about life, hobbies, travel, etc. But yes, we talked mostly about sex. Their journey was interesting. Admittedly, I found some of their swapping stories to be very hot. We talked about our fantasies and fears. Sue and John too were both very understanding. Very patient. They felt like good people and a good match.
