Over the next couple nights, we spent a lot of time in bed. We were both in a constant state of sexual arousal. When we weren't having sex, we were talking about the possible negatives of what we were considering. We didn't see it as cheating; but we were contemplating crossing a line, and once across, there was no going back.
One thing I kept telling Donna is that whatever we do is completely up to her. If we met Carrie, how far it would go-or wouldn't go-was totally and completely up to her. Of course I'd love a threesome with her and another woman. And what guy wouldn't want to watch his wife make love to another woman? But as excited as I was about the possibilities, I was not willing to risk our marriage to experience it. If she had even the slightest doubt, the matter was closed.
Friday night arrived. We were both quiet, off in our own thoughts, as we cooked and ate dinner. When we were done with the dishes, we still had a couple hours before we had to decide. I looked at her, and asked point blank: Do you want to do this?
She met my eyes, and said "I love screwing you, but you have to admit the idea of having sex with someone else is exciting. And I also have to admit that the possibility of sex with another woman excites me and scares me, pretty much in equal amounts. I don't know how I'd be watching the two of you together; the idea of you fucking someone else while I watch makes me jealous and wet at the same time. I'm not sure whether the jealousy or the arousal is stronger."
She stared at me for a few seconds, and said "Let me ask you something. If we do this, did you really mean it when you said I had total control of what does and does not happen? If you were on top of her and about to come, or she was blowing you and you were about to come, and I told you to stop, would you stop?"
I had to answer her honestly. "If I was pumping her and was within a stroke or two of reaching the point of no return and you told me to stop, or if she was blowing me or jerking me off and I was fast approaching orgasm, I'd probably come. I doubt there would be sufficient time for your words to consciously register in time for me to stop. But if there is time for your command to stop to become a conscious thought, I will stop. I promise you that."
More silence, then she asked "What if she and I were getting more physical, and I froze, or decided that was as far as I wanted to go? Would you encourage me to just give it a try? Would you tell me to just lay back and enjoy whatever was happening? Would you ask me to keep going just for your enjoyment?"
My answer was immediate and firm. "No. Under no circumstances would I ever pressure you into doing anything that you don't want to do. If you tell me it's time to leave, we leave. No questions, no argument. We thank her, and tell her that it's too much, and we leave."