The power of a Dominatrix is not something you should trifle with, that's for damn sure. I'm someone who learned that the hard way, as a cocky young Black man who thought he was invincible and learned some painful lessons to the contrary in the world of BDSM. In case you're wondering who this is, the name is Sylvester Joseph Gerald. I was born in the City of Ottawa, Province of Ontario, to Haitian immigrant parents. These days, I attend Carleton University, where I study Criminology. When I'm not in class or working at Boston Pizza, I'm out there having some wicked fun.
I was browsing the website Fetlife the other day, and came across someone fairly interesting. ProudNubianEmpress1984, that was the lady's screen name. A dominatrix of African descent who boasted of her abilities as one of the world's BDSM experts. Now, I've been involved in the world of BDSM in one way or another since 2011, and after two years I can honestly say that I've seen and done it all. I once went to the town of Cornwall, Ontario, and fucked a plump, big-bottomed White chick named Becky Hammond while her husband Larry watched. After I finished fucking Becky, her hubby Larry insisted on sucking my dick. Since I'm bisexual and cool with going with the flow, I didn't mind.
Yeah, I've had all kinds of adventures in the world of BDSM. I once hooked up with a sexy Jamaican transsexual named Tracy Dickerson, and we had a lot of fun. Tracy had big tits, a curvy body, a big booty and a long, thick cock. We fucked and sucked the night away like only bisexual guys and trannies can, you know? Like I said, I don't discriminate when it comes to wicked fun. I don't care if you're a guy, a female or a transsexual. If you've got a hole and you're willing to let me stick my dick in it, that's more than okay by me. Yeah, that's how I do it, you know?
I checked out ProudNubianEmpress1984's pictures online, and I must say that I kind of liked what I saw. A fine-looking Black woman in her late twenties, with light brown skin, short and curly Black hair, big tits, wide hips and a big round butt that looked great in her Black leather miniskirt. I posted some comments underneath her pictures, complimenting her both on her booty and her beauty. Hey, I happen to like it when a woman has both and most Black men I know feel the same way. To my surprise, the lady in question replied to my comments with a smile, thanked me and then sent me a friend request. I eagerly accepted, because, well, I was kind of curious. Why did I react this way? I'll get to that soon.
You see, I haven't been involved in the world of BDSM too long but it's been my experience that Black Masters rarely play with Black female subs, Black Mistresses also seem to avoid Black male submissive types like the plague. In BDSM, with the exception of gatherings at annual events like Black BEAT, people of African descent seem to boycott each other. Most Black Masters I've seen on the site have throngs of White female worshippers, along with the occasional White male sub if the Black Master in question is gay or bisexual. Black Masters with Black female subs among their "stable" are quite rare. What's also more than a bit alarming is the fact that Black Mistresses sometimes go out of their way to let the entire BDSM community know that they only deal with White male or White female subs.
This is the state of the affairs between Black men and Black women in the world of fetish and BDSM. We can't stomach each other and we play with other races almost exclusively, but never our own. That is fucked up, man. Sometimes I wonder if the biggest racists out there aren't Black people themselves. The thing about Black racists is that most of them hate their own people. Isn't that a kick in the nuts? And here's the scarier thing. A lot of White guys ( and some White women ) on the site are into something called Race Play, the most disturbing aspect of BDSM, in my eyes. I don't know what's erotic about a White man calling a Black woman who's chained up the N-word. I guess some Black women get off that kind of shit. Me? The world of fetish is big and some of the stuff out there is bound to make some of us comfortable, even seasoned fetish veterans like myself. Live and let live, that's my policy when it comes to fetish, especially those that I cannot and do not want to understand.
Yeah, this is the world of BDSM as seen through the eyes of this young brother. White men and White women enjoy a plethora of fetishes, and they have access to Masters and Mistresses of all races, along with subs and switches of all races. Black men and Black women limit their own options and think they're being cool by doing that. Wow. I love my people but damn, some of us aren't too bright, you know? That's why I was intrigued by ProudNubianEmpress1984 when she befriended me. She told me she found my profile intriguing. Hmmm. I get that a lot. You see, on the fetish website, most men post lots of pictures of themselves naked. Me? I've got pictures of me wearing a suit, pictures of me shirtless, and pictures of me in my boxers playing guitar. All in all, I've posted six pictures. I get a lot more attention from the ladies than most of these fools with pictures of their dicks in their profiles. Got to keep a little mystery, you know? Sometimes, less is truly more. I was glad to find someone who understood that in my newest friend, the person known online as ProudNubianEmpress1984.
We began talking regularly, and she invited me to several groups that she administrated on the website. Black women who dominate Black men with strap-on dildos, that's the title of one of her groups, believe it or not. Wow. Now, I'm mostly dominant but I joined anyways. I mean, the group had one hundred and sixty one people and it was lively, with lots of animated discussions going on. I wanted to see what's up. ProudNubianEmpress1984 ran the place not like a boss but like a facilitator and encouragement-provider, and her audience seemed to love her for it. Hmm. I liked the discussions and commented on them. One guy kept accusing Black guys who liked strap-on dildos of being secretly gay or bisexual. I defended the brothers from this annoying bozo's accusations by asking him what he was doing in the group in the first place since he didn't like this sort of thing. That shut him right up. Got a lot of the members laughing about the whole thing.
ProudNubianEmpress1984 liked my participation so much that she made me a co-administrator, a responsibility I happily embraced. Yeah, little by little, we became friends. To the point that I told her my real first name and she did the same. Her first name was Mary. Soon we began talking on the phone, and she revealed to me that she recently moved to Ottawa from Calgary. Hmmm. Cool. After talking to her on the phone for weeks, I suggested we grab coffee together. I was careful to suggest meeting someplace public, so she'd feel safe, you know? To my surprise, Mary didn't hesitate. She told me she'd grab a bite with me at the Rideau Shopping Center's food court the next day at noon. Well, looks like I got myself a date. Sort of.