In African communities, if a man happens to Bisexual, he should really keep it to himself. Lots of Black women have Black Gay male friends and support the Black Homosexual lifestyle, that's true. A word of caution, please. Now, those same Black women would have a fit if they found out that their boyfriends or husbands were Bisexual. Black female intolerance of Bisexual Black men is quite simply mind-boggling.
Well, among Bisexual Muslim men in the nation of Ghana, Bashir Abrefa is something of a unicorn. An African Muslim man who is honest with his wife about his Bisexuality and chooses to be faithful to her. Let the world beware. Is Ghana, a conservative West African nation awash in Christianity and Islam, ready for openly Bisexual men? In this part of the world, a man can be imprisoned or even killed if people even suspect him of swinging both ways. Has Bashir Abrefa made a big mistake?
Bashir Abrefa knew of many Bisexual Muslim men in the City of Accra, Ghana, who were forced to lead double lives because their wives, girlfriends, family members and friends could never accept them. Bashir can relate to a lot of these men because he was essentially in the same situation. Back in the day, Bashir used to hook up regularly with his best friend Malik Acheampong, a tall and handsome young Muslim scholar who later joined the Armed Forces of Ghana.
For a long time, Malik Acheampong and Bashir Abrefa had their manly fun in secret, enjoying a passionate affair behind closed doors. Nobody suspected a thing because they were tall, masculine Black men who had female lovers. They just happened to really, really like each other. Time waits for no man, regardless of skin color or sexuality, and Malik and Bashir were definitely no exceptions. Life caught up with them.
Eventually, Malik moved away since there was always a conflict within Ghana's borders which required military intervention, and Bashir moved on with his life. Bashir resumed dating women, since no man other than Malik appealed to him. The City of Accra was full of Gay and Bisexual men, but none of them lit Bashir's fire. Later, Bashir learned that Malik got executed after getting caught with another man while serving in the Ghanaian military. Bashir privately mourned Malik's death, and resolved that the same fate wouldn't befall him.
In the continent of Africa, men who swing both ways must hide what they are even more than men who are exclusively attracted to other men. Does that seem strange, ladies and gentlemen of the readership? Well, there's actually a reason for that. In Africa and elsewhere, men who only like men typically have a vast network of supportive female friends who go out of their way to protect and shield them. Bisexual men don't have access to the same network.
Women have no love for Bisexual men, it would seem. Men who like both women and men are seen as a threat by the same women who ferociously protect men who only like men. It's weird but absolutely true. The same women who go out of their way to protect men who only like men are repulsed by the thought of their own husbands or boyfriends messing around with other men. Hello pot meet kettle...
Life is particularly hard for African men who happen to be Bisexual because lots of Gay African men hate losing their Bisexual male lovers to women and go out of their way to expose those men. For this reason, in African communities, smart Bisexual men avoid Gay men and deal exclusively with other Bisexual men. They seek out their own kind, men with wives and girlfriends, for sexual relief. Bisexual African men understand the need for discretion and can keep a secret, even if Gay African men cannot and will not.
Bashir Abrefa is, by all regards, an upstanding member of Ghanaian society. He's six-foot-one, dark-skinned and muscular, handsome in a rugged way. Educated at the University of Cape Coast, Bashir works as an engineer for the City of Accra Government. The man counts the Mayor and the Chief of Police among his friends. Bashir seems like he has the perfect life, but he's been leading a double life. Well, recently, Bashir decided to come clean to his wife Madiha about his other side...
