After leaving Leanne and the charms of South Carolina I slowly made my way north into Chesapeake Bay. A large body of water with some occasionally wild weather, it's very beautiful and a cruisers paradise with anchorages and delightful villages galore. I tucked into a completely private anchorage one evening, and after a nice dinner I sat on the back deck with my feet up and gave Ron a call to check in and see how my old handyman business was doing.
"Hey buddy, what's new?" I said.
"Tired man. Some of these women can really wear you out," he laughed.
"I hear ya buddy," I said. "Everything goin' smooth?"
"Oh yeah, it's great. I can't even begin to tell you how much happier I am than when I was part of a big crew. And when I'm happy, Kathy's happy. So yeah, it's goin' good."
"She's still cool with it all? I mean, the 'extras' and everything?" I asked.
"Yeah, well, she's gettin' plenty of 'extras' of her own," he laughed. "Thanks to Lindsey, it's somewhat controlled. We've been to her playroom a few times since she got back from visiting you — which is totally awesome by the way — and Kath and Lindsey get together quite a bit. They're not switchin' to the lesbian side anytime soon I don't think, but they keep each other satisfied, which is nice for me. Kath doesn't seem to mind my 'work women' — that's what she calls 'em — as long as I don't neglect her. I had to stop goin' to the gym though man. All the girls are workin' me out plenty — I got nothin' left for regular exercise."
"Well that's good to hear," I said. "I was worried how this was all gonna to work out for you two. As crazy as it all is, it sounds like it's working OK."
"So far so good man," he said. "Hey, I worked in Connie's old house the other day. They seemed happy with me, so they'll be new customers I think."
The sudden realization that Connie was gone swept through me in a huge hot flash, and I couldn't speak.
"Steve man, you still there?" Ron asked.
"Yeah... yeah, I'm here," I said quietly.
"Sorry man, I shoulda known that'd be a sensitive subject for you. They're nice folks if that helps, and the house looks good."
"Good, good, I'm glad," I said. "Listen man, I gotta go. I'm shootin' for the first week in May to be home, but I'll talk to you again before I get there."
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Grief is a sneaky thing. You think you've gone through the process and satisfied it's needs, and then it can smack you in the head out of nowhere and take you down. That evening, after talking to Ron, I cried like a baby. Being alone, anchored in a cove with no sign of civilization in sight didn't help. The next morning I felt like a wounded man, and a deep depression set in. I knew it was bad — I had been through a serious bout of it in my early twenties when my beloved grandmother passed away, and this felt a lot like that. Back then it took many sessions with a grief counselor to help me work through things. I had no idea what would happen this time, but the first step was to get back to civilization. I was two days from Baltimore, and felt a need to be there, so I pulled up the anchor and pointed the bow in that direction. The steady drone of the engine nearly drove me insane, and my messed up head got worse the first day, but the second day I was able to re-connect with a nice meditative state that cruising alone can give you, and I felt better. Not great, but better. I still felt a need to talk to someone though, something I'd neglected to do in the weeks after Connie's death, and I wanted to see if I could get my head together before returning home to all those memories.
After tying up at a marina in Baltimore I did an internet search for grief counseling, found someone within walking distance, and when I explained my situation she saw me right away.
Her informal 'office' was around the back of her small but beautiful little home, very near the waterfront. The neighborhood had an old world feel, and made me feel good just walking through it. Her name was Tiamo Sopricoush, and she was quite exotic looking, with some sort of Asian accent.
"Mr. Mills?" she asked when she answered her door. "Welcome, I'm Tiamo."
She ushered me into a room crammed full of beautiful plants and colorful artwork. Built into one wall was a salt-water aquarium, with spectacular coral and strange looking creatures swimming about. After some small talk we got right down to it.
"Tell me about your loved one," she said.
"Her name was Connie. I hate saying 'was', but you've heard that a thousand times I'm sure."
"Was it a romantic love, or familial, or friendship?"
"All of the above," I laughed. "She wasn't family, and yet she had a mothering side to her that was comforting and wonderful. But it was really a romantic friendship — I guess that's the best way to put it. I met her through my work — I'm a handyman, although semi-retired at the moment. On hiatus, I guess you could say, thanks to Connie. She left me a big chunk of money, and I don't really have to work anymore if I don't want to, although I think I'm going to go back to it part-time during the summers. I miss it."
"So she was a customer that you developed a more serious relationship with?" she asked.
"Yes. It started with sex. I have, uh... shall we say... physical relationships with quite a few of my female customers. Does that sound terrible? It's actually much more loving than it sounds. They're wonderful, deep friendships, with sex sort of at their core I guess."
"How many women are we talking about?" she asked.
"Ten maybe? I don't know, I've never really thought about it that way."
"And Connie was a different kind of relationship amongst those ten?" she asked.
"Yes, she was. I was very much in love with her. I didn't realize it fully until after she died. A year ago we spent a wonderful winter virtually living together..."
"I get the feeling there was something holding the relationship back. Was she married?" she asked.
"No, she was a widow. It was an age thing and a 'different worlds' thing. I was thirty, and she was in her early sixties. And I'm a blue-collar guy and she was a wealthy socialite, well known and respected in the community. She wasn't ashamed of me or anything like that, and we were seen in public and it was no big deal, but taking the relationship up to a 'we should get married' level wasn't even discussed. We both just knew that what we had was wonderful, and enough."
"Have you had multiple relationships throughout your adult life?" she asked.
"No, just since I started the handyman business, about two years ago."
"Have you ever been in love before?"
"Before Connie? No, I don't think so. I'm in love now though, but I'm trying to fight it," I said.
"Why fight it?" she said.
"It's the opposite situation. I'm thirty-one now, and she's twenty-one and still in college. I don't want her to get tangled up with me right when she's trying to figure out who she is. In a few years, if she wants me, I'll be a happy man."
"Is she one of your customers too?"
"No, my next-door neighbor. This is going to sound totally insane, but I have sex with her mother and her sister too. Not all at the same time. I must sound like a total nut job."
"Well, you're one of my more interesting clients," Tiamo smiled. "So Steve, is it fair to say sex is the driving factor in your life?"
"No. Friendship is the driving factor. But for some reason, in these last two years, my new female friendships have had a big sexual component. It's seemed to happen very organically — I can't really explain it. When I started the handyman business, it put me in their houses, and one thing just led to another. Some of them met each other, and the sexual situations just blossomed. Like a big orgasmic flower," I laughed.
"So these women know each other?"
"They do now, yeah. Some of them did before, but they pretty much all do now."
"So they all know that you're having sex with the others?" she asked.
"Oh yeah, and they have sex with each other, and... it's like one big happy family," I laughed.
"So when you first met them, as handyman customers, did they pursue you sexually, or did you pursue them?"
"I never 'put the moves on them,' if that's what you mean. Like I said, it happened very organically for the most part. Over time though there was a little word of mouth stuff happening amongst certain women, and some of them did pursue me I guess. Connie is one of them. She had heard about me from a friend."
"So when you said they have sex with each other as well as you, did you mean...like, group sex situations?" she asked.
"Yes. Small groups, big groups. It's all been new to me the last couple years. Like I said, it just sort of blossomed.
"And Connie was a part of these group settings?"
"Yes. It was new to her too, but she enjoyed it, very much."
She went on to ask me more about my winter with Connie and the circumstances of her death. She got into the spiritual aspect of it, which I'm not really into, but her 'Shaman' vibe was comforting and definitely made me think. And just talking deeply about Connie made me feel a whole lot better. She made me realize how blessed I am to have the life I do, and the friends I do.
"So how long have you been on the boat Steve?" she asked.
"About five months I guess."