Some Bottom Q&a (a Guide of Sorts)

Some Bottom Questions & Answers

As a submissive gay bottom I've got quite some experience and I think a lot about my sexual journey. So here I'm going to share what I like in men and in having sex with men.

Initial Attraction

Initial attraction is usually physical and visual but it can also have to do with voice and confidence. I've found myself attracted to a wide range of guys. The other day I was in the market and there was this tall black man in a sports shirt and jeans and as I stood next to him in the fresh produce section I felt an intense sexual desire towards him. Some time ago I was at a pool party and this tall bulky white guy with a big abdomen was at the bar and I felt sexually drawn to him. And just the other day I was at a dinner and this American guy, buff and with a short beard ended up chatting with me all evening. What all these guys have in common is that they are bigger and stronger than me. And I feel that is a big part of my initial attraction towards men. I like being with tall bulky men and if they are hairy its an added bonus. Since I keep myself shaved and smooth it's a bit of opposites attract. Voice is also key, I don't like loud guys. Soft spoken guys with lower decibels strike me as more mature and confident. Age is not a big deal though I prefer older guys. What matters more is emotional maturity and psychological strength. Sometimes I see a guy and am not immediately attracted but then after a few days I start to fantasise about him. This often happens when I meet someone in a professional setting where my sexual antennae are not powered on.

Most Desirable Features

So it is always a mix of things but if I ranked them I'd have to put intelligence, humour and good conversation skills at number 1. A close number 2 is calmness and confidence. Number three is passion about work or some personal or professional commitment. Now after 1, 2, 3, come physically desirable features. The most attractive feature to me is muscles. I love biceps, pecs, and thick, strong, legs. Height is a real melter for me especially if he is above six feet tall. And while I know its unfair, bald guys can be a bit of a turn off for me.

Wait, what about cock size?

So here is the thing. Everyone has their personal preference. And if you watch porn you see guys with huge cocks pounding away like machines. For me, at least, that's not what sex is about. As a bottom I have to maintain my hole for my man's pole. And my focus is on pleasure giving. It is just so much easier (and not painful) to have sex with men whose cocks are maximum 7 inches long. Ideally, 5 or 6 inches is perfect for me. And banana shaped rules. I really enjoy taking my man fully inside me and feeling his balls hit my butt cheeks. That's not always doable if his cock is more than 7 inches long with normal thickness. Oral sex is also much more satisfying when you can take more of the cock into your mouth. So my ideal cock is a 6 inch banana dick. I do fantasise about huge cocks and enjoy the stuff on porn sites but I would really not want to be fucked by a massive cock. If you need numbing cream to take a cock, you are betting off leaving it be.

Favourite way to orgasm

By far my favourite way to cum is from anal sex. This has always been my favourite and nothing beats the pleasures of cumming from being fucked up the ass. It's also a huge ego trip for the top to fuck the cum out of a bottom. What I love about prostate orgasms is that you don't come all at once. I can normally cum four times before I'm completely spent. So you can really enjoy a long fucking session and cum multiple times this way. When I do anal masturbation I use the cum from my first orgasm to lubricate the dildo so I can enjoy the feeling of getting a cream pie. I also enjoy eating my own cum so in such anal masturbation sessions I can have my cum in ass from my first orgasm and more cum swirling in my mouth from my second.

Favourite sexual position

Easily my favourite position is with my lying down on my stomach with my top mounted on me with his cock up my ass. I enjoy this position the most because psychologically its the most submissive. I am completely at my top's mercy and he has me enveloped and penetrated. So this is a huge turn on for me and it fulfils a deep need to submit to a dominant man. Physically, I cum most easily in this position. I don't masturbate often so I'm normally full of cum. My first orgasm is reached in 5-10 minutes which is within the endurance range of most tops. But this is second to the fulfilment I get from being submissive and helpless under my top. I'm not thinking of my orgasm when having sex, I'm focused on my partner's pleasure. My orgasm is just a happy side effect.

When did you know you were Gay?

At 13. Yes. Soon after I hit puberty. I constantly fantasised about other boys. Figured out how to anally masturbate. And enjoyed edging and eating my own cum. Men just turned me on. I wanted cock in my mouth and in my ass.Just the way I was wired. But it wasn't till I went to college that I had sex with other men. That's when I figured more things out.

What is your sex prep routine?

As a bottom your sex prep routine is your lifestyle. That because you have to keep your boy pussy in excellent working condition. So, no unhealthy foods, little alcohol, no smoking or drugs, lots of hydration, regular exercise, a balanced diet. I'm not naturally hairy so just shaving my arms and legs and pubes keeps me nice and smooth. I'm lucky that I don't have to wax or use hair removal creams. Before sex I clean out with an enema and lube with a slender dildo. Always keep extra lube and condoms on me.

What is your fantasy kink?

I enjoy my erections and cumming but I often fantasise about having orgasms with a limp cock. My cock only goes limp when I've cum multiple times and once I go limp that way I no longer get much sexual pleasure from penetration. I still enjoy having cock in me but it is a different sensation from when you are aroused and capable of orgasming.

Rough Sex?

No. I love my boy pussy and it will bring any man who enters it to heaven. But always cleaned, lubed and respected. Ride me like a surfer rides a wave on the ocean. Smooth and strong.

Thoughts on Oral

Yes. If I am with a trusted partner sucking his cock and swallowing his cum is a huge high for me. I don't like sucking on condom-covered dicks so much. And there is no reward for me in the form of a nice big load of cum. But hey, if it's what the top wants I will suck that condom-covered dick till its unloads.

Do you eat or play with your own cum?

Yes. Always. Every time I masturbate to orgasm I eat my cum or insert it into my boy hole. This has saved lots of trees over the years I hope. I normally play with the cum in my mouth for a while before I swallow it. It feels so good to have it in my mouth and on my tongue.

Cross dressing?

No. I'm not into that though I typically wear short shorts and a sleeveless T around the house. Tops really like this combo. It's already a lot of preparation being a gay bottom. I can't imagine putting on make up or trying to fit women's clothes. I do really enjoy such porn though, and cum eating hypnosis for gays and she-males are some of my favourite.

Do you ever wish you were a straight man or a woman?

At times I do think straight and bi-sexual guys have a much easier time of growing up and being socially accepted. It does make me jealous of them. But then the fact is that there are so many great gay guys. And I think I've had a much better sex life than most straight men (especially the married ones!). On being a woman, no. I love being a man who gets to have multiple orgasms. And I can't get pregnant!