The day I really learned to fuck a love anus.
I had made a couple of hookups, before meeting Jay, but they were mostly, cuddle, kiss, and blowjob sessions. If I was lucky, I might get a 69 out of it.
So, Jay wasn't my first male sex encounter, but he sure was the most interesting. He was well educated and somewhat debonair. He had a soft approach to sex that I have tried to adopt, and it really works very well. In fact, that day, he got my virgin asshole.
Jay was a senior man, like me, early 60's, stocky, but not fat. He kept a beard but it was short and well-trimmed. His hair was more salt than pepper. He was average height, always well dressed and clean.
He was a widower and I was welcomed at his home. The bedroom he had shared with his wife was off limits. We always played in the guest bedroom. He kept a stash of toys, lubes, and poppers, if needed. But, aside from the lubes, we never used them.
The first time we hooked up, he taught me the soft way to approach fucking a love anus. After the usual foreplay - the hug & kisses and exploring caresses; after the 69 blowjobs, he began. As he worked on me, he talked in his soft low voice.
As I lay on my back, he was lying between my legs, and he was sucking softly on my dick. He moved his arms to hook my legs at the knee and started to bend them back.
"If I push too far," he said, "Let me know. I don't want to hurt your back" He licked his way down my dick to my balls. Just using his mouth, he manipulated my balls sack, so he sucked, a little bit on each ball. Then he moved on.
"The secret to a pleasurable fuck," he said, "For both the fucker and the fuckee is to start softly. I could just lick around your asshole and lube it a little and began to thrust. You would probably be receptive and after a bit, even start to enjoy it. But, I want to make sure you enjoy every step of it from the beginning."
With that, he began to lick around my anus, and as he did, he talked. "The anus is full of nerves, but they are very defensive nerves." He had my anus well lubed with his saliva, and was just tickling it with his tongue. "If I just started to thrust," he said, "The nerves would cause the anus to close against the intrusion. Now you may well know how to loosen up so the entry is not painful, but it's better if we make those nerves happy."
He started to put pressure on my hole with the tip of his tongue, making little jabs at it, as well as doing a little more rimming. Before I knew it, his tongue was slipping past the first ring, and he began to thrust a little harder. He pulled back a little and said "Just like that, I've caressed the nerves and soothed them and soften them. Now I can move in."
He leaned in and, with a couple of licks around, his tongue speared into my anus, reaching almost to the second ring. He tongue-fucked me for a bit, leaving me moaning, before pulling back to breathe.
"Now the nerves are happy," he said in his low voice, chuckling. "Look out asshole - here come's my finger." He leaned back in and I felt him licking around. At the same time I felt his finger slide in past my anus and slowly move up through the second ring. He pulled it back and started probing until he found my g-spot. He began to gently caress the prostate, causing my cock to harden slightly and me to moan.