My husband Winston and I were married when I was twenty two and he was thirty. I told him of my submissive fantasies and he role-played with me some at the beginning of our marriage but for the most part he showed little interest in D&S or Domination. We had a good marriage but we often fought as we both tried to dominate the other when it came to who would make the decisions in our marriage. The funny thing is that we attended pre-martial counseling to avoid such conflicts and my husband told our counselor that he wanted me to be the head of our marriage. However, once we were married, he found out that he did not enjoy being submissive to me so he tried to get things his way all of the time. This caused some pretty good fights between us. I was interested in voluntary sex slavery but I also wanted to call the shots in our marriage. I guess I felt that I knew what was best and so did he.
Other than our occasional power struggles, we enjoyed a close friendship and a good marriage for the first seven years. Then about four years ago at the age of thirty-five, my husband discovered that I had been visiting sex slave sites on the Internet. My husband knows more about computers than I do and I did not realize that our browser kept a history of all the sites we visited. He knew this so he monitored what sites I was visiting.
I had told my husband about my domination fantasies when we first got married so he was not too surprised by his discovery of my web surfing habits. Unbeknownst to me, Winston began to read the sites I visited and found a few that he enjoyed as well. He started from the sites that I visited and he found others through links that lead to other sites. He became interested in the slave sites that talked about how men can use their husband's fantasies to their advantage. His favorite sites were about male chastity.
Winston kicked around the idea of domination over the next year as he debated within himself if this was a lifestyle he wanted to pursue with me. He continued to monitor my web activity and he continued to do his own research. Eventually he told me about him discovering my web surfing habits and he began to ask me questions. Three years ago, Winston came to me and asked me if I still wanted to be dominated by him in the bedroom. I told him that I did as I had fantasized about it since I was a teenager. Winston calmly explained to me that he would be willing to dominate me but it had to be real to him and not a game in order for him to enjoy it. He was honest and told me that he also needed to get something out of this lifestyle. He said that he would have to take it out of the bedroom in order for it to be fulfilling to him. He explained to me that his fantasy was to become the head of our marriage and to force me into total submission to him in all areas of our life. I was excited and hesitant about his proposal but I figured I could always manipulate him and top him from below if need be, therefore I agreed. I totally underestimated his resolve and commitment.
It started out being everything I had hoped for. We communicated about everything and Winston asked me what kind of D&S type activities I desired and he did them to me. He bought books like "S&M 101" and "Different Loving" so he could be knowledgeable about D&S activities. It started out with him wearing sexy leather outfits and him spanking me and tying me up. We had frequent sex during these sessions and I was really enjoying it. Also, he was making very few demands on me outside of the bedroom so I figured I was having my cake and eating it too. That soon began to change.
Winston bought me a CB2000 and told me that he wanted me to get use to wearing a chastity device. The thought of him controlling my sexual release was exciting to him and although I was not crazy about the idea, I knew I had to try things that interested him if I wanted him to continue to dominate me in the bedroom, so I agreed to wear it. It was bulky and uncomfortable at first but I eventually got use to wearing it. He did not make me wear it for long periods of time in the beginning so I was kind of enjoying the chastity scene. However, once I started to get use to the CB2000, Winston began to make me wear it for weeks at a time. He worked me into this but once he had me where he wanted me, he began to exercise some real dominance over me. It was exciting but also scary. I had never seen this side to Winston. He became almost consumed with his power and a desire to dominate me.