Bathhouses are places with thousands of years of history, yet are extremely easy not to notice, unless someone is looking. That such places have existed is common enough knowledge, whether awareness of Roman decadence or when reading about certain Middle Eastern baths intended for men only. When there is a place where naked men can enjoy having anonymous sex, it will be discretely well visited by those who cannot resist indulging in what can be found there.
From the outside, all the baths I have enjoyed have been extremely discrete. At least for those unfamiliar with the pleasures of anonymous male sex, there is little to suggest what goes on inside. An adult bookstore or porn movie complex attracts the curious openly. An open attraction which certainly can provide a sexual thrill, yet neither are really intended for open sexual games. There are not any purely accidental visitors to such places in one way, as their business is fairly clear before entering. In contrast, when a man visits an intentionally discrete bathhouse, accidental visitors are not desired in the first place.
The entrance door will only open if the person at the counter buzzes it open. If you are a first time visitor, something easier to guess in countries with other languages, the person at the counter will politely enquire if you are aware of what may happen at a male only sauna. The questions are quite indirect, intended to ensure that whoever enters wants to. The first visit to any bathhouse seems to work this way in my experience, though after the first visit, there is rarely any delay to entry.
And only a minimal delay after one explains about visiting other bathhouses if not this one. To be honest, I tend not to be so impatient, since such not exactly explicit or detailed, but unmistakeable, conversation is refreshing. Not that those at the counter are precisely explicit about what delights are within, keeping with the general theme of complete discretion. Nonetheless, he is another man fully aware of what makes a bathhouse so attractive. As a general rule, employees do not mix recreation and work, though all are utterly familiar with what goes on.
Entrance areas tend to be non-descript, though a local gay free paper or magazine may be available to take, providing a not so subtle hint that one has found the desired sauna. After paying, you are buzzed into the dressing area, which is also normally utilitarian, leading into a common space, generally with a bar. In my experience, drinks have always been reasonably priced, but in all honesty, the bar tends to be half-empty or less most of the time.
Personally, I always enjoy drinking a glass of beer right at the start of a visit, along with getting condoms and lube at the bar. Only once has a place charged for such, but since I always bring my own (except those very first times), it is not a concern. Particularly after the couple of years it took to give up using condoms with oral sex at all. For anal sex, a condom needs to be fairly sturdy, with lots of lube. Condoms do break on rare occasions, the thin ones more often when ass fucking hard.
When it comes to condom use, breaking presents interesting challenges. The first is being able to recognize when it happens, as the sensations become so good so fast you cannot think at all before cumming, knowing you are using a condom. That very first time, still thinking the condom is there, orgasm is irresistible. Only afterwards do you recognize why the sensations went from really good to extraordinary in such a glorious cock centered flood. Experiencing how it feels makes it at least possible to meet the next challenge, which is stopping. Knowing why your cock has sudenly entered heaven does not make it easier to stop fucking, even when there is a reason to - sometimes, orgasm is unstoppable. It does help to have more than one condom, meaning only a short pause results before riding your partner again.
There are many men who do not use condoms, a reality that becomes rapidly clear at the baths. Every visitor needs to make their own boundaries, while being aware that other men may not respect them. This was the case for me with oral sex, as various cock suckers seduced me into always letting my naked cock slide into their welcoming mouths. Though I never let them take off a condom after it was put on, it soon became far too easy to simply not put one on in the first place.
Particularly after the realization that since they were already going down on me, there was no reason to put on a condom anyways after that first exquisite contact. A realization that only slowly became clear, still weakly continuing to try to use a condom even as the irresistible pleasures of getting sucked overwhelmed my mind, letting a stranger take control. Knowing that saying "condom" once ot twice was nothing but an excuse to satisfy my mind as my cock took over.
The other major reason it became so simple to give in was starting to go down on men myself. Those first times were also always with a condom, However, the sheer addictive delight of naked oral sex was something instantly understood after sucking my first bare cock. The sensations were so much better with my mouth surrounding a stranger's exposed length than with a condom that after the first couple of those thoroughly enticing experiences I fully surrendered to the joys of natural oral sex. Just like the man I was going on, naturally.
A bathhouse makes many things plain, including just how fantastic it feels to have a sexy cock in your mouth. After going down on one cock, it is hard to resist wanting to do it again and again, whether during a visit or over repeated visits. Having your mouth filled with cock is incredible, and once experienced, so easy to enjoy in a place where men go to have sex with each other. Here, it is no secret that sucking cock is as addictively delightful as getting sucked, and explains why blow jobs are so commonly available at a male only sauna, including sharing a cock with other men, or being sucked while sucking in a threesome or group.
The baths provide a number of such intoxicating surprises, making it all too easy to become overwhelmed by what is happening - and wanting to be overwhelmed each following visit. For example, 69ing with a man is indescribable, creating a connection where cocks and mouths seem to merge into a single shared source of unending pleasure. The same is true of mutual rimming, though there the sensation is even more primal, tongues licking hot open holes. Finding partners is not a major challenge, though resisting what they offer may be.
Oral sex is not the only temptation to discover. Male nipple play is extraordinary, as is kissing, especially when already hard. Often enough kissing a man that had just been going down on a cock, yours or another stranger's. Kissing is very common, and often extraordinarily passionate. A possible reason is that men are simply more equal in strength, leading to much more forceful kissing. Another reason is that kissing at the baths often starts after being really turned on, likely after having seen other naked turned on couples, mouths merging, in a place where it is completely allowed for men to kiss - or to watch.
Since a bathhouse is essentially a sauna, nudity is common, with no need to undress. Towels rarely offer any barrier to playing underneath them, and are easy to take off. This may be the most enticing factor when kissing another man here, as kissing while cock to cock is paradise, often playing with naked nipples, or grinding as you pull each other tight. Uninhibited exploration of mouths, lips together, tongues roaming, losing yourself in heavenly sensation is easily indulged, without much concern about any boundaries.
Giving in like this, knowing that the other man is doing the same, is something that can happen multiple times in a visit, or among a group that changes over time. Kissing two men at once is another joy, though more than four men kissing at once is quite difficult in my years of experience. My first kiss with a man was not at the baths, though it was a place where we could be naked in private, watching porn. After that enticing introduction, my decades old interest in going to a gay sauna grew intense.
I had never really thought much about kissing a man before then, but afterwards the idea grew to equal my long interest in getting rimmed by a complete stranger. I had known the location of my now regular local bathhouse years before finally visiting it, much like knowing the location of other bathhouses when younger. Though discrete, such placess are not hidden from the curious, and have existed as an institution for centuries. Words like bathhouse or baths or male only sauna are obvious tip offs when finding one to visit. Obviously, in the age of the Internet, it is even easier, though bathhouses make no special effort to advertise what is actually offered.
Which is straightforward sex, at least in all of the ones I have enjoyed. The baths are not a place for kink, at least by my understanding. Of course some people think having sex with anonymous same sex partners is kinky, but my definition goes a level higher in terms of what is seen as true kink. Most baths do have a sling, but in all honesty, I am not sure why a sling is considered S&M. The sensations of weightless moving, feeling a rhythm build, are wonderful, regardless if the person in the sling is blindfolded or tied. Fucking or sucking in a sling is definitely recommended, though not all slings are equal. Disappointingly, the one at my local bathhouse is the worst of all I've used till now, the likely explanation why the room is almost always empty.
Toys are not unknown, but rare. Cock rings are not uncommon exactly, with intimate piercing notably less noticeable, but the main emphasis is at a basic level, of naked men having sex with each other. The baths are places explicitly intended for precisely that result, without anyone needing anything except being there among other interested men. I have never really seen attached couples, though men may meet several times during a visit, and there are couples in line at times. I have only seen a couple of fairly clear pairs, and at least one group outside, but in the baths, they played like any other visitor to the extent I could tell.
The freedom of the baths is, potentially at least, everyone having sex with everyone else, in pairs or groups, as long as one wishes. Learning not to cum too quickly is an important skill in my opinion. And quite possibly in the opinion of those running the baths, as leaving after just 45 minutes was noted years ago, though it must have been obvious just how good my balls had been drained a few minutes before. What I have never quite understood is just how many men at the baths want their partner to cum.
